Being highly verbal, yet unable to articulate feelings

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ruveyn
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05 Mar 2011, 9:02 pm

chocoholic wrote:
I have an interesting paradox and I was wondering if anyone else experienced this. I am very high functioning, I work in customer service and can interact with customers and people I work with pretty well, I'm currently dating someone, I can hold spirited discussions and even debates with people that I'm close with, and speak very well about things I'm knowledgable about.

But here's the paradox. Even though I'm high functioning in all these areas, oftentimes I have difficulty expressing the simplest of feelings. Sometimes I may have a bad day, or be scared, nervous, or worried about something, and I really feel I need to express it, but I don't have just the right words to convey what I'm feeling and why. Sometimes all I'm able to do is replay the video of what happened in my mind, trying to find something there that will help me articulate my feelings, yet this doesn't work very well for me as videos and other visual images can only do so much because they don't show the feelings that are in someone's gut. There's no image or object that you can correlate your feelings with, so the feelings often just sit and fester, and there have been times when I've reached a breaking point.

Has anyone else experienced a similar paradox, being high functioning with good verbal ability, yet have difficulty expressing simple feelings?


The story of my life. My verbal skills are first rate but I am reluctant to discuss feelings. As soon a feelings come up in conversation I depart rapidly.

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10 Sep 2014, 6:41 am

Exactly how i am. I can talk about everything with other people but when it comes to my own emotions...i feel dumbfounded. My wife feels very hurt about this. I should feel free telling her about everything. She thinks i'm keeping my emotions from her but the truth is, i don't know how to express it. I read books and articles on how to communicate better but it only tells us how to listen better, respond calmly and understand where they are coming from but it doesn't tell us how to actually verbalize our emotions.

Other people think its impossible not to express your feelings but i personally don't know how and sometimes I'm not actually sure if i am feeling something that i have to express. Is there a fix for this? Marriage falling apart coz i don't know how to share my feelings.