Do you feel "normal" when no one is around?

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I feel great when I'm alone.
I still feel at peace with myself when other people are around; it's the other people that I don't feel at peace with.

I never feel "normal"; even from within I am fundamentally different from others around me.

Normal? No. I know better.

I do feel uninhibited as I don't need to "filter" my thoughts and actions because nobody is around.

That makes me very comfortable with myself.

I mean normal in a subjective sort of way...there is no one "normal"

I feel happier, freer to be myself and pursue my interests when I'm alone. So, yes, I feel more "normal" in that I can be my "normal" self which is the real me. I can follow my own agenda without being observed or supervised by someone who would like to recruit me into getting involved with their agenda.

That's about the only time I ever do.

When people appear, "ME" disappears, and I am back into confounding aspie-land, having to use my mental resources in an attempt to understand and correctly interpret human behavior and verbal and nonverbal communication.

When I am by myself, I am wholly directed and focused as myself, and nowhere else.

That's me. When I'm at home or a rare other safe place I feel normal and go about my day as everyone else does. But the moment my hand hits the doorknob to walk outside my peace is shattered with all the panic and uncertainty I feel around most other people

Alone again, permanently (I wish!) topic

The only exception I make is for my children.

I seem to emit vibes that indicate my preference for a solitary existence.

I think that "not feeling conspicuously abnormal" equals "feeling normal" to me. I.e. if being alone means the absence of feeling inadequate or defective, that is good enough for me to call "feeling normal".

Yeah when I'm alone I always ask myself why people stress me out so much. But I'm beginning to realize why I'm so uncomfortable with people. First I realize sometimes I'm in a hurry to get my point a crossed and it comes out sounding weird. Second I felt like I had to make my voice sound a special way, so it never came out natural, now I just kind of relax and try not to care and it works. Third I'm always concentration on how I am saying something and not what I am saying. And fourth when I stumbled on a word or couldn't think of the next thing to say I would panic and stumble even after a small mistake without just accepting it and moving on. Fifth I say and do things hesitantly, I figured if everything I say or do was done half-heartedly it's just going to be worse then being sure of myself, and when I act unhesitatingly and on instinct I figured out I felt more confident and came off sounding a lot clearer.

I do yes. But certain people i do like being around, specifically my brother. Even when i need to be on my own due to stress, we have a habit of being able to socialise without socialising (not to say that we don't ever interact or talk, we do quite a bit) but sometimes we can be in the same room doing completely different things and not talking to each other for a long time but still feels like being social but without the eventual stress if any of that made any sense to you guys *shrugs*

Yeah, that makes sense..that's how it is with my closest friends...a very few people...

I went to a seminar of a world class psyc that said he had the cure to Asperger's Syndrome. He said the cure was perfect and immediate. He said " the moment everyone leaves the AS to do what they want, and stays out of their way, the cure is immediate."


that is when I feel most 'like me' if that makes it 'normal' then that is when I feel 'normal.'

Merle

I always feel normal when alone. Being around other people changes me. It's sort of like quantum mechanics. The very act of observation (measurement) changes the state of the system.

When I´m alone, I have conversations with myself in my head, and boy, am I ever an amazing conversationalist! Then I may go out into life, be distant and "out of it", stumble all over my words, etc. But, I do think all the years of enjoying my own mental conversation has paid off...sometimes I find myself in a real conversation, where, surprisingly enough, I can basically repeat word for word something I already thought about, so I can come across sounding halfway intelligent...(hopefully).

Yes, I do feel "normal" when alone, but then again, I feel "normal" most of the time; it´s just other people that seem to think I´m strange....

When I´m alone, I do more things like rocking or repetitive activities, because I´m alone and who cares?- but maybe someone watching this would interpret it as being less "normal".

I have philosophical debates with myself. So when I encounter them with someone else I reasoned a lot of it out with myself already.