What does it take for you to change your opinions about peop

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He did not have armed force or money, just popular support. To keep your position, you need to have people dependent on you. Then they will be friendly, while you do not need to be friendly with them. I cannot relate to individuals or their petty problems.

Girlfriend broken up? Test failed? You are depressed?

I do not care. Only thing I care is what movement could get from you.

It depends on who you're surrounded by. Sure if we were all surrounded by loving, accepting people who wanted to be our friends and mutual respect was involved, there wouldn't be any problems. But, that isn't the situation for all of us. Some of us are not afforded that luxury.
Now, I don't agree with Zyborg's ideology but this illusion that people are loving and friendly is just that: an illusion. Some are and if you find some who accept you unconditionally, will be your friend and love you, you truly are lucky because lots of people never find ones who are like that.
I think if you are surrounded by people who don't respect you, your only option is to intimidate them into leaving you alone. There isn't much you can do. You cannot make someone be your friend who doesn't want friendship with you and if they don't respect you it's worse because they might be tempted to run up on you or get their friends involved in something similar.
If you can give them reason to believe they won't get away with it, that somehow there will be some kind of consequences, even if it means reporting them to cops, telling people they are harrassing you, there's less of a chance they will try something. It's not a guarantee tho. But what can you do?

More important, those who are very "nice" are often weak-minded people. They composit good grunts, but nothing more.

Oh, I hope nobody thinks that I'm so deluded as to believe that people are as a rule lovely and pleasant. I'm not so naive. My argument was that you are safer to rely on those who like you than upon those who are afraid of you, not that people are more likely to love you than to hate you. I am well aware that there are plenty of people who it is impossible to befriend because they pose a danger.

But, most people will be entirely indifferent to you. By intimidating someone you do bring them to heel, but they are going to resent it, and if you slip up then you are in danger.

To Zyborg: Popular support isn't about love though. People are not friends to those politicians whom they support, they just like what the politician has to say. It is no wonder, then, that popular support alone is not enough to give you power. But, I am saying that popular support is closer to what you are advocating (as it is a form of having people under your control) than what you are condemning (having friends).

I must ask, though, if you only care about what "movement" you can get from a person, how will you get that person to care about you?

Also, I have met people who are nice, and yet not weak-minded. I have too, unfortunately, had experiences with many nasty, yet weak-minded, people.

I don't think they are weak minded. They make life easier than the ones who are openly hostile. Being nice doesn't always mean they want to be close or have a friendship tho. Still it makes it easier dealing with them on a day to day basis, if you have to see them more than once in your lifetime.


I'm not a bully. I don't go out of my way to intimidate people. My personality isn't necessarily aggressive unless I feel like something is a threat to me then I think of ways to counteract and get pov across, being proactive, maybe? I guess same could be said for most people. Maybe this is a common strategy in self preservation?
Everyday strangers in a public space, I don't say much of anything to them, so you couldn't accurately call me a bully. Most of my intimidation is in the way I carry myself and my expression. It's probably because of my past. It's a defense I instinctively use. Look kind of glum and morose and people who might mess with me if I looked approachable and cheerful, easy to take advantage of, basically, will think twice, maybe?

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You must not know love then.

Many would disagree with you here, but I can totally see where you're coming from with this one. My ex-best friend was labelled as "nice", but she was totally weak-minded. As far as I can see, to be genuinely nice, someone should have the capacity to be evil but they choose not to be, not just being nice because they haven't the guts to do anything wrong.

Opinion. Hmmmm...not much use for opinions of people.

As far as detecting if someone is dangerous and/or toxic - I usually pick up that on first impression.

From there - I try not to form opinions. People are there for my (our) amusement. People are funny to watch and listen to, and to mimic. Sometimes people are really funny - the funniest ones don't mean to be funny - but serve as inspiration for all the people who try to be funny.

People -> amusement -> muse -> funny material.

Intuition/Instinct is good for basic survival, and for forming first impressions. Logic and reason are useful for finding out why your intuition/instincts are setting off internal alarms, and for determining whether or not those alarms are valid.

As for your question, what changes my opinion about a person is any agreement or conflict between their words and their actions. Broken promises, and why those promises were broken, tell a lot about a person.

I am fairly good at guessing what people are like. I just started at a new school, and everyone is trying to make small talk and be nice to me, and I am VERY good at telling who is really being nice, and who is just pretending to be nice so people won't think badly of them. I just reply to the latter then I carry on walking.

You've changed since you went back to school.

If people are being nice to you, take it for what it is. Sounds like a pretty good school. In some places, (at least here in the US) teenage girls (and some adults) don't even try to be nice to the new girl. They would have had her head in the garbage can or thrown food at the new girl - just for being new - let alone any girl who was slightly different.

Wish it were going better for you.

My adherents are not my adherents because they fear me, but because they believe in me and my values.

I have been leader of numerous movements. I have learned lessons, and teached myself through Machiavelli and Sun Tzu.

I do not value relationship for sake of relationship. I value relationship because it could be productive.

Oh, I didn't mean it to seem as though I thought that you were a bully. That kind of using body-language isn't the same as what I understood Zyborg to mean, which is that it is better to make people fear you than love you.

You might have a point there. I'm glad most of them are only bitching behind my back (which they are) instead of really bad stuff. Except one girl who makes mean comments to me everytime I walk by, because I'm a vegetarian. (I dunno how that got out; I was trying not to give them reasons to think I'm weird already.) But I'm not that bothered, I just tell her to shut up.

Excellent! Give them a taste of your guts and humor! That's what we want to hear!

Besides - vegetarianism? You're way ahead of these girls. They'll be trying it too in a couple years - just to be cool. All girls do it.

You're the trend-setter, Gina! Remember that!

I think Zyborg is talking about body language and facial expressions too because he said he doesn't talk a lot. I don't talk a lot either but I don't share his worldview because it's impossible to find underlings that will do a good job and remain loyal, lol. jk
I agree, it's not cool to make people fear you instead of love you. It's better to have people love you, but if you are surrounded by people who don't, better to have them a bit intimidated so they don't constantly harrass and try stuff.