Anyone else accused of being gay for simply being different?

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Mr. Reddingcal, I, too have been erronoeusly labled as being Gay despite the fact, I'm not.Yes, I can understand your perplexity as to why other people would indentify someone as such.. Often i think it may be some of the mannerisms that Aspergian males tend to show none, that I'm aware of that would created such an error yet, this is just one of many possible reasons for the major mis-indentification as such.. These days, I simply try to wave off the stupidity of others on such accounts yet, it does make me pissed nevertheless..



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I know people have called me gay before, but I think it was just being used as a stock insult rather than an accusation of sexual nature. I was also accused of being afraid of girls, when I was in school, but this was nonsense with no supporting facts: I was uneasy among people regardless of their sex.

Bleah. Used to get this a lot back in middle school and high school, seems to be something the alpha male jock types enjoy doing to those who are different in any way, going after a guy's masculinity. But even some relatives on occassion would wonder, esp. since I wasn't dating. I guess that doesn't help either.

this is so funny because i heard this things many times about me.im married and i have a lovely doughter.im so straight!but how people thinkin im gay?

i think i have answer about it.i think most asperger people dont have their own body language or we have some but we dont konow when to use it.its just copying other people.
my idea is if a asperger man is straight just look at womens.i never look at mans. i believe so strongly asperger people copy other sex body language.

its really weird.sometimes it hurts.im ok about being gay everyone is free to choose what to be but altought i say many times im not gay why they keep thinkin im gay.

I'm an asexual female, and I don't dress in a particularly feminine way, so people often think I'm a lesbian. They don't so much 'accuse' me (as being a lesbian is hardly a crime to be accused of) but they think it of me, and say various subtle things to indicate this. It doesn't bother me. My sexuality doesn't concern them. If they wish to gossip about it, that is their lookout, and doesn't affect me.

Yes,

actually i have been accused of both. First they say i am different, then they suppose i am gay.

For example, as sometimes i wasn't able to see that a girl liked me, i mean, i understood the clues six months later when i finally processed the information. Then this girl would obviously think that i am gay, and she did.

Other times when i am talking to a boy i stare at his face trying to understand what his expressions mean, and it makes them feel uncomfortable and they suppose i am gay too.

Bad luck, what can we do ?

This obvious (or you would think it would be obvious) fact often seems to escape people. If you don't show obvious interest in the opposite sex, according to them, you must be gay. Never mind that you don't show any interest in the same sex either.

People have apparently speculated whether I'm a lesbian before, presumably because a) I don't show any interest in makeup/fashion/other 'girly' things, and b) I don't put on a giggly, flirty persona with men. Male or female, I speak to people the same way. I've never bothered to correct anyone - if they want to assume I'm gay, they're welcome to.

I wouldn't say I was ever 'targeted' but I've been called a Gay Meth junkie, simply because I have energy coming out of my ears and well, people assumed I was gay. I'm a REALLY nice guy, what can I say?? LOL.

They would ask me if I was gay and I would tell them honestly. "Of course I am. As a matter of fact, I think I actually the happiest person around for miles. Oh wait, that's not what you meant, is it?" LOL Dumb NT's.

As for having issues with people, I've found that switching to 'waaaaaay the F' out there' mode tends to rattle them to the point they're uncomfortable with themselves. Potentially dangerous people tend to leave me alone.

Most people are wickedly easy for me to manipulate. It was a terrible struggle with me for years as I have wanted to do so many things that my ethics would not allow. In the end I'm grateful for my restraint.

I have a theory that people assume that if you don't express interest in the opposite sex, you must be gay, and if you don't show interest in your own sex, well, then "obviously" you are still in the closet!

Because being gay is not socially acceptable to some, people probably assume that if you're not openly heterosexual, you must be hiding your homosexuality. Anything else is not an option in their puny minds.

Now that I think about it most of my friends and acquaintances were female. I didn't treat them like sex objects. In fact I really didn't like NT males as much because they tended to be perverted mindless jocks.

Alot of girls in my secondary school used to gossip and speculate that I was a lesbian since I didn't show a lot of interest in boys. I'm straight though, but the combination of having a low sex drive, being shy and finding most teenage boys rather gross raised some suspicions. Even my father asked me if I was gay once!

In high school a few boys used to make fun of me for being a lesbian. I think because I didn't show interest in boys.

Yes, definitely. Or another option is that they think you are repressed. Several well-meaning people (including my dad and sister!) have subtly tried to help me accept that being a lesbian is okay and that I should embrace it. I just let them get on with it - if I were to point out that I'm not a lesbian, they would see this as my repression and try even harder!

Yes.

my dad believes I must be gay simply because I havent seriously dated girls yet and Im 26. I have actually made attempts, and very awkward ones I might add, with several girls which ended in failure, but not for lack of trying. I dont have feelings for any guy nor do I have confused thoughts or actions, so Im really not sure how this started other than the fact that Im just not very interested in getting laid or chasing girls at this time. I am pretty much just letting myself go with the flow. To be perfectly honest I would kind of like to have been hitched by now so I could get my life in order, but I dont really think i would make me that much happier.

Someone asked me if I am in the LGBT society last week. Admittedly he had good reason. You see, he is in the LGBT, and he saw me at an event my future housemates and I held during the LGBT coffee social. We did it there and then because all of my future housemates are in the LGBT (so were all in one place at once) and we wanted an audience. So it was hardly surprising that he asked if I were in the LGBT. However I am not, so I replied as such.