If you could get rid of one of your ASD traits, which one?

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being shy.
id kill to be an outgoing person with friends having no friends and everybody hating you is depressing

executive dysfunction, I want to get things done for a change!

Either my morbid one track mind obsessions or the fact that bright light really hurts my eyes, and can make them seize shut and discharge like mad.

I would like to be able to comfortably and happily "chat" with people and not spend hours/weeks/years analysing and scrutinising each and every conversation I make to the point of total self-hatred and avoidance of social engagement.

Anxiety

Inertia, so I could use my superpowers more effectively.

The inability to switch focus easily.

For example, when I'm walking to class and someone greets me, it takes me a bit to switch out of my own world and focus.

Or taking verbal instructions at the same time I'm performing a task. It made my job at a coffee shop a nightmare.

Or if I'm performing a task (i.e. walking, being on the computer, making something) and conversing with a person at the same time, I find it difficult to concentrate on what I'm doing because I'm focused on the conversation. My friends think it's endearing and cute, but i find it downright embarrassing!

I would drop being prone to anxiety too

Social awkwardness. The rest of it's fine and it even has it's advantages.

The answer is simple, social skills. If I had decent social skills, my life would certainly be more enjoyable.

I would like to be able to verbally express my ideas with greater ease.

Sensory. Never being comfortable sucks.

There is one particular thing I dislike about myself; don´t know how much it has to do with being on the spectrum, or if it´s just me. But when I´m feeling agitated because things aren´t "working right"- (like the train is very late, or the store does not have the item I was counting on to buy), so I have to change my plan- OR if I´m having a bad sensory day- I tend to react strongly, and "bite the heads off" of innocent people. It´s sort of like a "shoot the messenger" kind of thing.... if the routine is disrupted or I´m disturbed about something, my frustration or agitation just takes over and I explode. This almost always happens with complete strangers (usually store or restaurant personnel). I know enough to know that what I am doing is totally wrong and inappropriate, and I keep telling myself that I´ll never do it again, but in the moment I just can´t get out of that frame of mind. The problems I have that affect just me are less upsetting somehow, I´m used to them; but when other people come into the picture, I feel so much worse.

I've been going over my traits in my head, and I can't find one. Even the ones with the most drawbacks are intimately hooked to my personality and my strengths. Changing them would probably cause a cascade of unpredictable effects on the rest of me.