How Much Of A Hermit Are You?

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i like being a hermit, as i am far calmer, happier etc alone. i am more me, just pottering baout, reading, doing my thing... but i know what you mean about having no human contact othern than cashiers, bus drivers etc- me too.

a few years ago i began to do voluantary work, as i am on sickness benifits. it gives structure to my week, and without it i felt i was on the verge of disapearing into a different dimension, i was so invisible, unsocialized and dissociated.

having said that, i dont really speak to anyone while there, and have to work alone etc.

could you find something like that? it just keeps me a little more normal, and since its unpaid, i dont have the pressure of performance, being on time etc. it keeps me sane, somehow. . . .

other than that i dont go out at all, i have no freinds, keep family at arm's length. this does not conern me, but my lack of friends and increasing age does- i would like to have chlidren, marry, but the rest of my a.s problems make this unlikely, which is really upsetting. how can i meet anyone? id like to work, too.

sometimes i thngs its terribly sad that then only physical ocntact i hvae is someone putting change into my palm... i just block out these thoughts generally, though; its too depressing.

id really love a garden, as i love gardening. i know i fill my time with meaningless occupations.

Total hermit. I never leave the house.

I feel like I ought to, but I just don't see the point.

I also don't have any friends. That one kind of bothers me, but not as much as it would bother an NT.

Having to constantly talk with people is irritating, if not depressing. Sometimes I just wish I could be left alone and be my best friend. I am quite comfortable with the thought of being a hermit.

I guess that technically I am not a hermit, as hundreds of people come to my house every week..since I run a venue..IRL..there are maybe only 3 or 4 people who I am comfortable talking to...I don't mind going out a little bit..but I dread going to other venues and whatnot..as i almost inevitably have some sort of panic attack...Lately, i have managed to alienate most of the few acquaintances I have outside my core group..

I'm not much of a hermit, at all. I like to get out, and I'm hardly at home. I love to be around people. :O)

Being a recluse is a privilege that few ever get to enjoy, learn to cherish it. Solitude is precious because only when a man is alone can he truly see himself or hear his own thoughts. Even if all you see is an empty void and meaningless drudgery, be grateful for at least you get to see. Most people go through life unaware of what it is that tugs them along. Still your mind and try to understand why is it you desire this thing called friendship. What is it anyway, this so called bond between humans? Is it not just another complexion of confusion that muddles our volition? Another vector that creates those unexamined desires which uncreate our potential for happiness?

I pity you if you should pity yourself. You know not why, and yet you want it. Better to know where it comes from to glimpse at where it might lead to.

For the last few years, I leave the house (my parents') to work (sitting in front of computers); to buy food (in the absence of parents) and to collect medicine from the chemists. Aside from that, just about nothing, except the internet. I can't stand to be in most social gatherings - anything with more than a few people tends to wind me up badly (unless I drink heavily, which is an extremely bad idea, as I have no tolerance for alcohol and tend to do even stupider things than usual when drunk). I can manage large anonymous situations (like festivals or shopping centres) for a short while (about half a day), so I very occasionally try to go to those, but I still usually end up sitting in a tent reading by myself.

I'm not really sure how I feel about being a hermit (hermitage? hermitude?) I don't mind, most of the time.

serenity, I'll state for the record that, I don't have any friends per se from the context of doing things of a social nature but, that is cause of some of the difficulty I've had over the years with not merely trying to develop friendships but, maintaining them as well..
These days, I tend to be able to go certain places like a restaurant or shopping centre with little or no trouble however, I sincerely choose to not bother nor burden anyone i.e I speak when it's necessary and nothing beyond that point. I realise I must be one of the few Aspergians with the bad case scenario but, I'm not pessimistic mind you ..


ProfessorX

I am also wondering where does a clinician draw the line between an autistic just being happy alone, and agoraphobia? I was diagnosed as agoraphobic when I was a teen. It never made sense to me. I just don't like loud places, and lots of noise. I guess I do fear sensory overload, but I don't fear being outside of my home per se. When I was a kid I used to have this daydream that I'd get locked in a store all alone alnight. That way I could get all of my shopping done in peace. It wasn't the open space that I was afraid of, it was the crowds .

Am I hermit when I am leaving my home often and making long hikes or bicycle rides? (of course alone)

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