The worst thing a bully has done to you

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in my experience, male bullies used physical force, while female bullies used mental cruelty or pretended to be my "friends," but were really emotionally manipulative or plain stuck up.

Oh no! You guys really do have it hard with those a-holes! I've had some low key bullying for the last couple of years at my school, a couple of the guys and girls in my class. One of the girls (I won't say her name) said something really bitchy a little while ago and it took me weeks to get over it.
But I'm really grateful because one, I've got a few friends who I can find refuge and joy in and two, those mean people won't be at my school next year, most of my friends will still be at this school and I won't have to put up with these people anymore: which is really soon because it's nearly the end of the school year: only a few days left!

The worst I can recall is one time that someone pushed me into the street and I nearly got hit by a car.

Another incident that stands out was in kindergarten, when I got teased about liking Barney. Till I was about 24, and even now still have trouble fighting it, I was too afraid to mention that I liked things people might believe to be "below my age". Even caused me to fear that, when I was in large crowds, and thought people were talking about something that I liked that seemed "below my age", I was worried they were mocking me or something. Eventually, I was able to beat that with psychological warfare, pretending that the voices that I couldn't fully hear in people's conversations were saying all sorts of silly things. However, I still am wary of being in crowded places though as a result. (Always probably was, but this offshoot of the bullying in kindergarten made it worse.)

Also, in kindergarten through 2nd grade, we were MADE to go to the bathroom, even if we didn't have to go in, we had to stand outside and sometimes I went in. Kids teased each other with things like "I see your butt!" and stuff like that. Caused me to be afraid of going in. Later, in 2nd grade I think, I lost a behavior stick because I was afraid to go in, and a substitue teacher (who herself was kind of stern to the point of being a bully in some ways), counted it as "being sassy". Indeed, though, the weirdness, plus having to go pee around so many people, scared me from going, and I almost peed myself in 1st grade as I had to go so bad and held it. I finally relented and asked the teacher to use the restroom. Anyway, the effects of the bullying caused me pretty much NOT to go to the bathroom during school (unless I absolutely absolutely HAD to go) and that lasted through the end of high school. After that, perhaps due to bladder damage, I started going in school in college and since then.

I've had unpleasant experiences with nasty people at school, but not as bad as some people here on WP had to face.

With me I was mostly just rejected from other girls. Nobody liked me in their group, and people done their best to isolate me from everyone. Even when I tried making friends with a completely different group, the girls that I no longer hung about with still interferred and tried to get my new friends to hate me, even though they didn't even know them.

I had to put up with that s**t for 5 years (the whole of high school). It still hurts to this day. I hated being on my own at school. I wanted friends, just like any normal teenager. It's heartbreaking. Why are some teenage girls so bloody nasty?

Sexual assault, being pushed into a puddle of ice water that cracked open in the snow, and being knocked off a playground equipment then stomped on. Oh yea, I also had a group of kids come up to me and start slapping me upside my head when the school moved me into mainstream classes.
I don't think about it now, but I know it probably stunted my ability to learn social skills because I started avoiding people.

After my father passed in 2002, a bully saw his passing as a means of provoking me into fighting with him. A teacher intervened and sent me to the principal's office.

Oh boy it is too hard to count as I have been bullied so much in my life.
This may be a bit off topic but I used to live in a really poor house with my parents when I was little and I had to steal food to provide for my family at the age of 6

I was diagnosed with Aspergers syndrome at the age of 3 years old and then later on ADHD and Dyslexia and Dyspraxia so I appeared different to many people and I am going to tell you about all the bullying experiences I have had throughout my school life. I had a teacher that absolutely despised me when I was only in kindergarten!! I wasn't even her student but she used to scourge me when I was in the main hall in front of all the kids and I was apprehensive of her. She was beloved by the other kids...they all loved her oh so dearly and I couldn't ascertain as to why that was. One day I accidentally jammed my hands in a classroom door as I swiftly closed it. After getting my hand out, I was balling my eyes out, the nails had all come off and I was bleeding. I was seeking aid and succor from an adult and will you look at that, guess who I found? Her. I was speechless as I was crying so hard so I just showed her my hand. She yelled at me "Oh suck it up princess, it's not that bad!" She then dragged me to the nurse and I ended up going to my doctor and then of course home. Then things went to hell when 1st grade started. I was always being ostracised by a whole entire class and while simultaneously dealing with bullying and humiliation by my class teacher at the age of 6 years old, for a year. When I told my class teacher that I was getting beaten to a pulp by other kids every day at lunch time, he just simply would not believe me and accused me of making up stories and living in a fantasy world, he made me stand in front of the class and humiliated me along with others because I could not spell words and had reading difficulties in Literacy due to my diagnosis of Aspergers syndrome, ADHD, Dyspraxia, Sensory Processing Disorder and Dyslexia which I can not control. I used to see the words backwards when reading text all the time and was constantly called a moron. When I was in elementary school I was an odd child who had unusual fascinations for someone at that age level and while everyone else liked to go outside and run around I prefered to stay inside and study things like the fundamental theorem, history of certain mathematicians and scientists, learning new languages and the laws of motion and the laws of thermodynamics.I was always very good at Maths and Science subjects, top of my class and doing high school math in elementary school and getting A's on every Math or Science test but I always struggled with English and got low grades in it and had poor social skills and was a bit less mature in some ways than others but also a bit more mature in some ways than others which made me appear different and unique to what would be considered a "Neurotypical Individual". In spite of this, everyone laughed at me and mocked me for being different and weird so I couldn't make any friends at all and always sat alone at break times. Other kids used to walk past and call me fa***t, two faced and lowlife and say I was a mistake who shouldn't have been born. I was getting beaten up everyday by multiple kids in the 3rd and 4th grade and came home everyday from school with bruises and cuts crying and the teachers did nothing about it and always blamed me for the bullying. Sometimes the teachers themselves would call me, "stupid, dumb, incapable of doing anything useful, and other horrible things." An example of this was when I was in middle school once a group of boys who used to follow me home every day from school and throw rocks at me saying f**k you you autistic c**t and they made death threats and always beat the s**t out of me everyday at school and threaten my family, they came up to me, I said Hey your in love with some random chick standing in the corner and said they wanted to make babies with each other and have a family and then went on to say I love how good your mother looks and kept taunting them for payback as I endured constant verbal and physical abuse from them from 3rd grade all the way up to 8th grade and took their s**t. So then one of the boys punched me in the head one day and had me on the ground then I got really angry and got back up and deflected their attacks and beat the s**t out of them, then all of a sudden one of the PE teachers saw this and tackled me to the ground and punched and kicked me. Then we were all sent to the principals office and we both expressed our side of the story but the principal didn't believe me and said if everyone in the school hates you, you must be doing something wrong. He then expelled me from the school and I completed the rest of 8th grade at a new school. I got bullied there as well. In fact one situation there I was knocked to the ground from behind in the bathroom in middle school, had my face kicked into a urinal, and was then peed on by three boys then I was dragged by the three boys and stripped naked by them. They then started kicking me in the dick and balls in front of the whole school while naked. They told everyone I wet my pants and the entire school believed it, including the teachers, since it was the word of three students against the word of one. I always walked up to people and tried to fit in with other but it simply never worked. I was always picked last for sport teams in PE classes and humiliated by many people because I was terrible at sports and had practically no co-ordination whatsoever and also being obese I lacked agility and stamina. I calculated my BMI using the formula weight in pounds divided by height in inches multiplied by height in inches and found I had a staggering BMI of 35. I knew it and was also constantly getting teased for having Autism and having disabilities as well as being fat. I got called names such as fatso, blue whale, baloon etc. I was constantly getting told by family members I was a failure, a poor excuse of a person, a mistake, a failed experiment. All this bullying had a psychological effect on me. I started High School and on the first day of school I got locked inside of the lockers and a student set it on fire and I got out and had to go to hospital for having third degree burns. I came back to school and my English teacher always told the students what grade I was sitting on for English and people started calling me a dumbass and an idiot who couldn't do anything in life. I asked girls out and they said they don't date ret*d people assuming people with autism are ret*d. My parents, wrongly, did not step in and help because I told them I was worried their intervention would make things worse. Also they were having their own mental problems at the time; my father at the time was ready to have a nervous breakdown due to the pressure his job has put on him, he kept pushing forward- but only just. There was no child-line or other source of help to turn to then.  I have been sexually assaulted and raped by my f*****g cousin at the age of 14 as well and having the police involved made the situation worse because my cousin pushed me out of a moving car and I cracked my head open and had to get brain surgery.

All this affected my mental health and wellbeing very badly and the worst part about this experience was what it caused me to do to myself:

- I completely shut down emotionally. 

- I became convinced that all the bullying was my fault, and that I should just blame this on myself and not others. 

- I became convinced that I could not, and should not, ask anyone for help when I was being psychologically abused and physically threatened by others. 

- I tried commit suicide nearly 50 times due to severe depression and anxiety.

-I lost all hope in life and started to do dreadful things such as overdosing on unprescribed medication, religious underage drinking, got high on drugs like weed, got addicted to heroin and cocaine and became a dick to people and started pushing people away from me, shutting people away, hurting my loved ones, having frequent meltdowns that caused to do stupid s**t and had to a mental hospital for being insane due to being pushed to the breaking point by many people.

I had to go through a year of therapy before I got my s**t together and went back to school and ignored all the bullies and I stood up for my rights and came to my senses. Those who were bullying me I stood up to them and ignored them and focused on my school work and pulled my grades and made the honour roll at school. I am currently sitting on a 3.75 GPA in mostly AP and Honours courses and I have a few really good friends who I have fun with and talk to. My parents are proud of me and I now have a girlfriend.

Bullying isn't right, don't let it consume you or you'll end up in the same situation I ended up in.

I had 3 boys ambush me in the park. They went to the same school as me and I had been bullied on and off for some time by one of them (I was bullied for most of my school life) To cut a long story short they slowly kicked the crap out of me and dragged me about in the mud for over an hour. People in the park tried to stop them and give me chance to runaway again, but they caught me and carried on. I was a mess after, broken nose, cuts, bruises, swollen face and hands, they stamped on me.

I was until very recently really ashamed I was bullied, never wanted anyone to know

Nothing

In all of grade school kids would grab my neck (that was all that I left exposed) because the knew I didn't like it.
Aside from that just verbal things like everyone else. Always making fun of my hair, the things I'd wear, posture, how I'd cover my ears, vocabulary... Pretty much everything I did. I'm still young though so it still happens.

I remember being in second grade and having a stalker fifth grade girl who bullied me constantly. We had something called "reading buddies" and the fifth graders got to choose which second grader they would pair up with. She chose me. Instead of reading to me in the hallway, she would bully me - do things like pull my hair and pinch me when the teacher wasn't around. She would also call me ret*d whenever I did read. I know there were other awful things she did to me in the hallway, but I seem to have been so traumatized by it that I experienced forced memory loss. One of my classmates told me later on that she remembered my reading buddy making me cry and I have no memory of that episode. The reading buddy put me down in every way possible. One of my school projects she looked at and sneered that they were stupid and "gay" - I told my teacher and she said "Oh, you should be glad, gay is a compliment!" I have no idea how I was allowed to be around this girl for so long. Reading buddies seemed to also be "church buddies" so she would have to accompany me on the bus as we went to church. I vividly remember her twisting my wrist hard until I winced and she kept saying "Does it hurt yet?"

Broken my nose and bruised my ribs
(she also emotionally manipulated and abused me for a year )