The worst thing a bully has done to you

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I was cornered by a bunch of big bullies from upper grades, when I was in kindergarten, and they made me drop my pants, then they yelled "fa***t" at me. my sister saw it happen from the window of her 3rd-grade classroom and was embarrassed in front of the other kids.

Man, mine sound pathetic compared to this. Probably because of my weird schedule resulting in a lack of contact with people. But I am frequently involved in conflict. A lot of verbal manipulation. People putting me in bizarre social situations. A lot more Sociopaths than I first thought, that's for sure. I would get insulted by some girl who was nice to everyone BUT me, then as soon as I responded back with hostility she would pretend to be the victim. There, I was set up. I still don't know how to come up to a solution to that issue. Another time some guy would repeatedly insult and berate me and then tell me he was joking, but his insults were literally blatant and unconstructive attacks. I thought a joke was supposed to be funny? Or at least make people laugh. He didn't laugh, so not a joke. Then he told everyone I was crazy when I exploded on him and started going around saying I can't handle stress. Well, as*hole, seems I dealt with that pretty well until I made the DESCISION that I'm going to fight back. It wasn't an explosion, it was calculated. And another time I accidently hit someone with a bouncy ball (size of a basketball but light and I've been hit numerous times, not like it will leave a bruise or anything) and some guy threatened my life and kicked the s**t out of me until I submitted. I am often put in these situations. Both girls and guys constantly force me to submit. It's funny because in the past I've been a natural leader, I am good at directing people with honesty and morality, getting things done, and generally very good with administration. If you give me the job I'll do it. But in these scenarios it seems like everyone's goal is to exploit me for some sort of energy resource they need or they'll have their ego crash. I have plenty more of these weird "ganged up on by like 10 people" stories. Another time there was a specific guy who really hated me for existing. I had one friend, and he had one friend. We began an arms race of insults across this gymnasium, with me telling my friend all kinds of BS about this guy and the other guy doing the same. We never got anywhere. We enjoyed seeing each other in tears. Come to think of it, he never attacked me personally, it seemed like we were both always in defense. Maybe he would've made a good friend, I don't know because I was an as*hole when I was 10, but even now I'm far more morally stable and it seems like everyone around me just stayed 10, and this is coming from someone who's as mature as a 5 year old. I know this isn't one worst thing, but it's been a collection of many small things which have gradually eroded my confidence. I now have panic attacks when in confrontation, but I could previously get into a competent argument with anyone. Now I'm a hollow coward, and I tend to upset myself in this regard.

I was tricked into climbing into a recycling dumpster after the trash can had fallen in at school. I was knocked around a lot into the lockers in the hallway, especially once people figured out I hate being touched. I was kicked a lot under the tables to the point where my mom was wondering why my legs were always so bruised. One of my teachers made fun of my "stupid accent" in front of everyone. In seventh grade someone asked me if I had penis breath on the school bus and I didn't even know what that was. People stole my stuff, including my food right out in front of me. Someone else made fun of me for calling him a prick, saying "you're such a f***ing prick," throwing stuff at me and getting everyone to laugh, every time he saw me for several weeks. I got ripped off someone "bought" my electric bass from me for $160 including the amplifier. He didn't even give me the whole $160 and that bass was, and still is, worth around $800. I also had a chaperone with my Church youth ministry at Habitat for Humanity constantly harass me for not interacting with the other people and having "weird" behaviors.

And there's so many more I could mention but it's not worth it. The moral of the story is that forgiveness is for you, not the other people.

bully older brother folded me up in a hideabed and sat on me.

When i was in first grade this bully stabbed me in the hand with a pair of scissors in art class lucky it did not go all the way through my hand.

what happened to that no-good POS?

He was expelled the principal of the school used to be my mom's teacher, he is also the one that told my Mom that i had autism but she was not trying to hear that.

I am led to believe at this point, that the phenomenon of bullies is an equation containing the bullies and each side's parents, and that if there are failures in all three areas, then bullying will happen, but if just one part of that 3-part equation is working as it should, then there would not be bullying or that it would not last long.

Actually be a normal person otherwise. The people in my early teens, they were so easy to dismiss because they were so blatantly unhinged. The people in my late teens were harder to dismiss because they gave off the vibe that they were a bunch of normal people who just didn't like me because I was unhinged and had anger issues. (Let's face it: this all happened at a time where I was a weird situation where if I were someone else, I wouldn't know what to do with me. If I were nice to me, I'd be an enabler, if I were mean to me, I'd be a bully. I was unhinged because of the people in my early teens. Sure, I told myself that they were as*holes anyway, but looking back, I denied to myself how much I changed because of them. My memories of my classmates from 16-19 is that they clearly felt like this after too much time with me. https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/ ... Babysitter Yes, it was terrible what they did, but they clearly thought that someone as socially delayed as me was hard to deal with.)

Don't really know what was worst; the emotional abuse, the beatings, or rape. I think the emotional abuse; beatings hurt the body, but the emotional abuse burrows deep inside your head, and continues to torment you long after the bullies are gone.

Certainly one of the most egregious abusers are the school administrations which look for the common denominator in altercations, identify that as the victim, and instead of protecting them proceed to punish them for being attacked, legitimizing and for all practical purposes lending their imprimatur to their torturers.

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Being harassed for a few years made me very underweight and unable to sleep, some people treated it like a sport. I've had my nose broken but didn't feel any pain.
When I got in touch with my anger they started to give me respect but they can all f**k off.

I was beat up a lot in elementary skewl & I was teased a lot too. The bullies would lie & get me in trouble. I think the worst thing a bully did was accuse me of grabbing his groin during a fight that he started. It's possible I might of brushed against it during the fight but I really believed I didn't do it at the time. Anyways I got sent to the principle's office where I got fussed & she called my parents but they were both at work so she just left a message on the answering machine to have a conference. I stayed in the office a couple hours doing nothing & then I was sent back to class.
My dad had a meeting with me & the principle the next morning after he brought me to skewl. He asked if they were any witnesses & the principle said "I don't think he would lie" She also told me I need to tell on the bullies but what the hell was the point if they would be believed over me She also highly recommended I get counseling to learn what touches were not appropriate. My dad really didn't say much after she had said that she didn't think the boy would lie. My dad might of been open to considering that I might of done it but he saw the way I was railroaded & considering I NEVER had history of doing anything like that, I don't conform to the male stereotype but I had never gave any indication I was gay & my parents had found stuff I jerked off to before & it was pix of women & NOT guys; my parents believed me or at least gave me the benefit of the doubt & didn't do anything. I was not punished or fussed or sent to counseling.
Shortly after this my parents found out about a skewl for dyslexia which I have & I started going there. I wasn't really bullied too much since then except they would ask me stupid questions that I would answer & they would laugh behind my back about it. I didn't realize that till some time after I joined this forum & read a story of someone else who was in my position. I'd much rather that bulling than being beat up & called names to my face.

There was a time when I dwelled on things like my history of being bullied but I haven't really thought about it much since I'm happier with life.

the worst thing any bully could do is to make one not trust one's own sanity.

So true. Gaslighting people is the worst thing anyone can do. The worst thing the school system did to me was make me doubt what I knew.

I'm glad that this thread exists as I'm still very haunted/traumatised by all of this and it's actually why I even joined this forum, pain from bullying due to being autistic.

Constant cruel verbal jeers, I was held down and badly beaten up by a group of teenagers in my local park when I was ten years old, constant sadistic and cruel remarks from family at home, laughed at and mocked, impersonated, had dry mud smashed into my face, photos taken of me that I didn't want when not looking, had practical jokes such as laxatives put in my drink, called names and generally teased, ganged up on literally, humiliated, criticised, looked at in the most degrading way, singled out again and again and again and again, punished by teachers for no reason, just an overall sense of being treated as a subhuman is how I can best describe it.
It seems like there should be much more and my mind has gone somewhat blank, as I've had lifetime of that kind of treatment one way or another.

Autistics are on a whole other plane when it comes to this stuff. NTs truly have no effing idea what it's actually like. Unless they're gay or transgender or have some other difference that attracts the same level of sheer cruelty.

Being beaten up by a group of teenagers was in itself pretty terrifying;
I was pushed hard from behind whilst I wasn't looking, stumbled forwards then when I turned round I was slapped in the face. Being autistic I don't process real time situations normally, so my immediate reaction was to slap the boy back.
His sister then charged over with several other teenagers and held me down and kicked me until I had huge, black bruises all over. Punched me in the face until it was swollen. I wet myself. I was only ten.
It was unbelievably horrible.
The start of it all had been another girl coming over and grabbing a necklace I had on and saying ''What's this s**t round your neck?'' Growing up in a largely deprived urban area full of morons will do that. Particularly if you don't look the part.

I lived in care as a teenager and was bullied by other residents, constantly.

But by the far the worst has also been stuff that happened since I was an adult, though the usual school stuff was classically soul destroying.

Probably the absolute worst has been from my own brother, though.
I have no contact with him any more and would call the police straight away if he tried to get in touch.
But I am affected on a daily basis by his relentless, sadistic cruelty that went on for years in the family home. My parents weren't much better in their own ways, nor my sister, but he took it to another level.

I experience intrusive thoughts of low self esteem and flashbacks and extreme fear every day because of his behaviour.

The worst of it is that my mother defends him and refuses to validate or even acknowledge what happened.
This means I also no longer have a relationship with her on principal and also for my own safety and sanity. However I feel intensely betrayed and frustrated by how she defends him like this. It's hugely frustrating and astonishing.

Anyone else been severely bullied by a sibling?? I think there's been a few mentioned already on here...………..