Obsessed with someone on WP

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loads of people probably would have picked yes

yeppers

This whole thread was a really bad idea...
lol
By the way, does anyone here know why I keep getting really weird? Like last night, when I started this thread and when I was still confused and p*ssed off this morning and started the other one. I keep changing randomly into a different person then back again. And it's worrying.

Eh we all have unstable days especially when we've been trying to figure out how we feel.. its like it just scrambles things around for a while.

It will pass.

As for this thread.. nah it was a good idea I think its the most fun many of us have had all week

I'm starting to feel crap again now.
Sorry.

awww would you like some cheering up-that's what friends are for

I just wish I knew what was wrong with me.

likewise...
PM me and I will try my best to help or Ill PM you

This isn't going to make anyone here feel better about any of this, but this is my view of this, for my collective experience both IRL and online with ASD people, as well as my own personal experience.

As humans, we're social creatures, whether we are any good at socializing or not. It's just our nature. We need social contacts in various forms to be healthy and happy. If we don't get it, we have an unfulfilled need, be it our need to feel accepted, loved, empowered, respected, admired, etc within the social context. ASD people have a greater difficulty understanding their own social needs as well as understanding how to fulfill them in healthy and appropriate ways.

Problems arise when, in seeking out to fulfill these needs, we go about it in ways that are inappropriate. By "inappropriate," I don't simply mean in regards to social convention, etiquette and civil dicourse, although it can mean that in certain cases. Mainly, by "inappropriate" I mean, the ASD person tries to fulfill a need in a way that cannot actually fulfill it. It is my opinion this is largely what happens when ASD people become obsessed with a single other person. I think much of the time such obsessions arise subconsciously and unintentionally, and the person obsessing often isn't very aware of the unfulfilled need their psyche is trying to sate with the obsession. That lack of self-awareness often pepetuates the obsession, because the person lacks the prespective to realize the obsession for what it is - an inappropriate attempt to fulfill a deeper need - and then change his/her behavior to seek out better means of addressing that need.

Another problem with obsession is that, like being in love or getting high, it can cause the brain to release endorphins that make the obsessor want to continue the obsession. Likewise, anything that comes between the obsessor and the obsession can result in moodiness, depression, irrational behavior and impulsiveness - basically, like someone in love or on drugs, an obsessed person's judgemental in impaired and they can go through withdrawals, so making more appropriate choices and changing behavior is more of challenge. And like with anything else, the longer the obsesssion, the harder it is to break away from it.