List one NT thing you do not understand.

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The phrase "wat up?".

It was annoying when it was " What's up?", but at least then I could give a smartass answer, my favorite being one a friend gave me "The opposite of down.", but to "wat up?" I don't even know how to react.

no no, the one I hate is "my bad".

I never use it, cause it sound so idiotic; it scares me that people have now been using that phrase over 10 years.

Same, along with "alright?"

When people say that, they're not really asking if you're alright, it's just their way of saying hello, but it confuses me when someone says it. I usually say "yeah, you?" but I've heard NTs saying different things so I dunno if I'm doing it right

I don't understand the way that NTs move their hands about while talking and have strange intonations in their voice. My Mum is a prime example. While talking, the pitch and loudness of her voice fluctuates so much it makes me uncomfortable, and she moves her hands about a lot in weird ways. Some of my Dad's colleagues and people from my old school do this too. It scares me. I'm AS but my Dad has AS traits and he doesn't change his voice much or move his hands about madly.

Oh that one annoys me a LOT.

Empty and meaningless phrases such as:

"Promoting Excellence"

"Celebrating Potential"

"Encouraging Success"


These vague claims cannot be proven and have no basis in concrete reality.

Surely it's better to let people get on with what needs to be done rather than dreaming about what they might be able to do in an perfect world?

Why set people up for disappointment in this way?

Why not instead, focus on what people can do and let them do it?

Can someone please explain to me what "potential" is please?
Also, how can someone know if s/he has fulfilled his/her potential?

My guess is that no one can really tell.

Perhaps worshipping potential is a ploy to make people feel better about themselves?

It's just starting to irritate me, that's all.
All those people with plastic smiles talking about how if you try hard enough, you can fulfill your potential.

@ AmberEyes:

I'm right with you there. Nice sounding words/rhetoric is annoying when it's not backed up with anything of substance.

My father does this too. It's so annoying. He waves his hands around and makes exaggerated expressions the entire time when he's telling a story. He also inserts fake laughs in every other sentence when he's angry and having to deal with problems, bad service, etc.. "You know, I just spend a lot of money on you guys, hahaha!, can ya help me out here hahaha!".

And that brings me to another thing I don't get, fake laughs. Why do NT's use them so often? Especially while talking on the phone. It really annoys me.

either they want to "fit in", or they don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. My take is this: when I find out the truth, it's gonna hurt a lot more, so I'd prefer honesty up front, though it won't likely happen....

Hmm, maybe I'm NT cuz I do this. Not the fake laughs though. Most people have commented that my voice has a strange tone and goes up and down TOO much.

It's also patronising.

Fullfilling potential.

Is that doing what you want to do or doing something that someone else thinks that you "should" do?

I presume, according to the adverts, they want you to do the latter.
They want you to succeed with their help.

Glad it's not just me. My favorite answer to that one is the direction in which space is least curved.

Exactly.

I don't think we're completely alone in this. One thing I do when in need of a good anti-motivational speaker to counteract my annoyance is listening to George Carlin.

Potential to act more like them, is all too often my take on it.

small talk

Also the idea:

"Smile even if you don't feel like it: you'll be happy if you do."


I've seen this presented in College Diaries and Depression Manuals.

I really don't understand this concept.

How is enforced smiling meant to help with practical issues?
Fake smiling doesn't make workloads less heavy or extend deadlines.
If anything, it's a sticking plaster covering the real problems.

Also these axioms:
"If you're happy, you'll be successful."
"If you're successful, you'll be happy."

What about all of those miserable and successful people I've met?
They obviously don't count be because they disprove the idea that you have to plaster on a fake smile to be successful. It would mean that people could actually control their own feelings and think for themselves. Now we wouldn't want that now would we *sarcasm*

Some of the happiest times in my life were when I smiled spontaneously when I genuinely enjoyed myself. I didn't need someone breathing down my neck telling me to:

"Be Happy or Else!"

That kind of coercion would've ruined the fun.

I get the feeling that no-one is allowed to be genuinely angry or frustrated any more.

Last edited by AmberEyes on 02 Jul 2010, 3:26 pm, edited 1 time in total.