The worst thing a bully has done to you

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10 Nov 2018, 11:28 pm

In grade 5 I was bullied by my so called "friends". They took advantage of the fact that I didn't understand that they were not being genuine and nice, or my lack of understanding of other social cues. One of the girls had been my best friend since we were toddlers, and she was the worst out of them all.
- she told the whole lunchroom I was being depressed at the school dance because of a boy (whom she also told. keep in mind i am not attracted to men, and i was only sitting down because it was loud and my feet hurt. And that boy was nice to me, so i thought i had a "crush" when in reality I just wanted to be friends. I did not understand feelings at all whoops)
- she would gang up on me and call me annoying, stupid, clingy, that type of stuff
- she would hit me
- she would manipulate me
- she would even lie to her mom and tell her i did bad things when i didn't
But that sort of made my brain shut down for 5 years and I developed selective mutism due to the social anxiety I had. I think nowadays, I get annoyed when people do nice things for me because I'm afraid they're just mocking me and I don't know.



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11 Nov 2018, 8:46 am

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I only ever got bullied by my teachers and my parents. They made me think I was stupid and lazy. I got A's in every subject and nobody ever said that was good enough. All I heard was that I didn't get 100%. To this day I obsess about my performance and get disappointed about making any mistakes in exams. Last week I got 95% in a mid-term. I was disappointed, even after the instructor told me that I got the highest mark in both of his classes. I know this is not my nature. I was very laid back when I was young and was perfectly happy with B grade.


Just want to say my parents never stopped bullying me and my whole family. Nothing I do is ever right. Like I didn't help them during my visit. I did every work they asked plus more, I don't know what they expected. The only thing I didn't do was giving my dad a bath, but that's because he refused. My back was sore for three weeks after that "vacation". Then I got into fault because they asked me to buy some chocolate for my dad, and will pay me later. I told them to not pay me for them, just bring me some of my favorite candy in exchange. They were outraged and thought I was taking advantage of them. I have looked up and my candies are cheaper than their chocolate. No idea why that would put someone through the roof. They also wouldn't listen to anything about my life. Everything is centered around their miseries. Now I'm in school again and beating the odds and got A+ in every class. They just say "We don't want to hear about it. They're no use unless you can get a good job and make big bucks." They think I'm an ultimate failure. And they're sure my kids will be losers and aren't worth their time. They got all offended that my first son might want to work for a year and gain some life experience before college...etc They think my whole family are lazy, lying pieces of filth. This screaming phone call lasted three hours and I tried all sorts of way to distract myself. But it still hurt. Why the f**k do I care about them and keep dialing their number dutifully?


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11 Nov 2018, 10:15 am

False friends are the worst. I had a "friend" once who was a real user and also a drama queen. I'm glad I don't associate with her anymore. The people I associate with now are much nicer.



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11 Nov 2018, 10:30 am

Maybe when they made me sit on the floor between the boys table and the girls table until the janitor let me sit at the peanut free table?


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12 Nov 2018, 6:02 pm

I had a bully punch me in the lower belly and exclaim "i hope you can't have kids now! the world doesn't need more of you". I had someone try to stab me. I had rocks thrown at me. and the verbal abuse never ended



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12 Nov 2018, 6:06 pm

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Once four bullies cornered me at a water fountain held me still pulled down my pants and each spit water into them then haphazardly pulled them up and started yelling haha she peed her pants and pointing me our to other kids in the hall. But ya as someone else said, the constant verbal abuse and tricking me (exploiting my naivete) was more annoying.


relatable. i was super gullible, so that was like having a bullseye on my back or something.



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12 Nov 2018, 6:39 pm

Being jumped right as I left the gym hallway by 2 kids on the 2nd day of school... Having an apple thrown right at my head (hit me in the ear)... daily harassment... sexual harassment when I was on the football team... being forced to walk a different way home every day so I don't get jumped... Could go on a long ways.



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12 Nov 2018, 6:51 pm

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Being jumped right as I left the gym hallway by 2 kids on the 2nd day of school... Having an apple thrown right at my head (hit me in the ear)... daily harassment... sexual harassment when I was on the football team... being forced to walk a different way home every day so I don't get jumped... Could go on a long ways.


I am very glad I was a large kid, people tried to beat me up a few times but I won, and they stuck to hurting animals, insects, and verbal abuse instead. I would of rather me then than animals though...


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12 Nov 2018, 10:09 pm

being big didn't save me from the verbal abuse and threats. once a bully, always a bully, I have found. there is not a hell hot enough for those irredeemable sociopaths. :x



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13 Nov 2018, 7:03 am

auntblabby wrote:
being big didn't save me from the verbal abuse and threats. once a bully, always a bully, I have found. there is not a hell hot enough for those irredeemable sociopaths. :x


Be comforted that bullies tend to go to jail when they grow up. :)


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13 Nov 2018, 7:18 am

Most of the bullies I know did go to jail and I know that at least one died in prison.



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14 Nov 2018, 5:16 am

y-pod wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
being big didn't save me from the verbal abuse and threats. once a bully, always a bully, I have found. there is not a hell hot enough for those irredeemable sociopaths. :x


Be comforted that bullies tend to go to jail when they grow up. :)


except for the ones that become POTUS and VPOTUS and GOP congressmen and senators and such. ;)



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14 Nov 2018, 10:48 am

y-pod wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
being big didn't save me from the verbal abuse and threats. once a bully, always a bully, I have found. there is not a hell hot enough for those irredeemable sociopaths. :x


Be comforted that bullies tend to go to jail when they grow up. :)


I personally don't want bad things to happen to my bullies. I want them to know and recognize what they did was messed up, grow as a person and never do it again.


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14 Nov 2018, 10:53 am

Arganger wrote:
y-pod wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
being big didn't save me from the verbal abuse and threats. once a bully, always a bully, I have found. there is not a hell hot enough for those irredeemable sociopaths. :x


Be comforted that bullies tend to go to jail when they grow up. :)


I personally don't want bad things to happen to my bullies. I want them to know and recognize what they did was messed up, grow as a person and never do it again.


That's how I feel too.



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14 Nov 2018, 2:29 pm

Silly social games undertaken by idiots...

That is all bullying amounts to.

Feel happy and secure in the knowledge that, well,l if they are the future of the human race, we are all f*****g doomed!

May God help us...

Or not..I think he gave up or something. Don't blame him!



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25 Nov 2018, 10:51 am

You see, I think the biggest reason I did not care about bullying in grade school but cared a lot more about it as a teenager was that I was carefree as a kid and was way too disillusioned by so many things I took for granted in childhood not turning out to be real to not care about what others said in adolescence. Looking back, my caring about being bullied may only have been secondary. I was grieving that so many things I thought were real, turned out to be not. viewtopic.php?t=367132&p=8083298#p8083298