Optimism and Reality: Goldfish21 Response to me

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Usually, you find these sorts of tests in applications for retail jobs. You don't, normally, find them in applications for "white collar" jobs.

If you were to apply for a job in IT, you would have to demonstrate your IT skills.

In the interview, you would have to make sure you shake hands firmly (but not too firmly) with your interviewer. You would have to follow the interviewer into the interview room; never go in before the interviewer.

He/she might ask you how you would be useful to the company. This is why you do research on the company for which you're applying.

This is a start.

After reviewing what GF says about others not sitting down with me and going through step by step and reviewing how ASS-P's behavior and GF's commentary about goldfish. This is what I'm going to do. If I need help on something I'm going to

a. try to figure it out first so I have some things.

b. Ask the person for assistance and tell specifically what it is.

c. Tell other person what one has done for oneself already, tell them you're stuck and here is why.

d. When it comes to online for the most part expect only advice.

You can try, and I genuinely applaud any effort, but I think your ASD rigid black and what yes/no computer code structured way of interpreting everything is your greatest constraint.

I know from experience that you cannot simply learn to be different. You have to change to be different.

It wasn’t until I started using Epsom salts regularly to detox salicylate acids that I began to change, and then the whole medicinal diet and treatment protocol & probiotics etc I pieced together for myself. With my ASD symptoms managed, I began to see the grey areas of everything ever better, naturally and intuitively - kinda NT-like. Until I got my brain to function better, I was stuck in the same rut you are.

That’s why, based on my life experiences, I don’t think you can step by step process learn any of this, remember it all, and then intellectually process it in real time every waking hour to apply it. It may help some, but it’s my honest opinion that without getting your ASD symptoms under control first that they’re going to continue f*****g you over no matter how hard you try to learn via your rigid logic ways. It may seem backwards to you, but based on my personal experiences, you’d come a lot further along by treating what ails you rather than trying to analyze your way out of things.

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It’s somewhat counter productive in terms of medicinal benefit because both of those essential oils, and virtually all essential oils, are very high in salicylate acids. So, the salts may help, but less than pure salts because they’ll be battling the damage being done by those oils. When I first started I was hypersensitive to salicylate acids so no way I’d use anything with mint or eucalyptus oils. Better than nothing if it’s your only option, but Epsom salts are quite inexpensive at Walmart or any drug store. Around $10cdn for 4kg, so probably $5-8usd for ~9lbs.

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GF, what do you think about what Al and Scott say about confidence?

https://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2007/0 ... onfidence/

I'm in agreement. I don't like advice that has no practical strategy as well.

I skimmed it.

Chicken/egg.

I see it kind of both ways.

I think some people are naturally confident, and others are less so - or are not at all naturally confident. For the latter, the essay makes a bit of sense.. the more unconfident people are given affirmations, the better & more confident they'll feel. But I know people who seem to just have a lot of naturally born confidence.

Further, my own confidence fluctuates with my own state of health and well being. If I manage the perfect biochemical balance of things, I can feel pretty socially confident when I go out. If the perfect storm of things happen that throws that balance off, I can feel anxious/awkward and make stereotypical ASD mistakes that further erode my social confidence. I'm talking about probiotics/antibiotics, diet I've recently consumed etc. It makes a difference (for me) & there's a reason that people describe some feelings, confidence among them, as a "gut feeling." It can literally be in your gut wether you feel socially confident or not. I hypothesize that some "naturally confident," people may have simply inherited the perfect mix of gut flora when they were born.

So, I don't think there's any solid agreement or disagreement from me on that post. It's debatable.

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https://www.bls.gov/news.release/disabl.t01.htm

Goldfish

Look at the disabled section in the age bracket of 35 to 44. I'm 38 by the way. The value for not in labor force is 1333. This means 62% of those who are disabled and who are between 35 and 44 are not in the labor force means they're neither employed or unemployed. Employed means they have a job. Unemployed means they have a job and are looking. Not in labor force means one doesn't have a job and one isn't looking.

So, this means I simply met the statistical norm. It wasn't my negative attitude or lack of confidence. I can believe in myself all I want but one can't deny reality. Those who are disabled have a very high chance of not being in the labor force by the time they reach 35. This is truth. This is reality. Parents are doing high stakes gambling by cajoling their disabled children to be employed by mainstreaming them.

But many disabled people do work, and succeed quite well with their work.

I prefer to live my life more like this than dwell on the probability that I won’t succeed at something. In a word.. it’s better.

https://www.facebook.com/goalcast/video ... 953782587/

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