The autism social rule book.

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yes Ive sorta learned this one but unfortunetly I still do it... bad habit. Lets just say if u do, u can make a comment or two on it but dont go into detail unless the other person wants to.

I dont recall if posted this 1. If making friends with someone and you have this discomfort around them and youve known them for a while but u still have this discomfort in your gut....dont pursue the friendship...drop it.

Never tell people your disabilities or health issues are mild, they will not take your problems seriously and it will give you more ignorance and make things worse.

I don't think NTs naturally follow all of these rules. Every NT is different, and they all have their quirks.
These rules are just here to help.

It's inappropriate for a boy under the age of 18 to grow a beard.

It's ''inappropriate'' for a British woman to have hairy legs.

It's "inappropriate" to have large boobs at age 12 or under.

Yeah these are all guidelines. Not all NTs follow them either.

It is inappropriate to touch your ear with one hand, rub your belly with your other hand, stick your tongue out and dance around on one foot while blinking your eyelids in an alternating fashion while humming "God Save the Queen" at the same time while standing in front of a cashier register inside a restaurant located somewhere along fifth Ave. in New York City.


On a Sunday.

don't clean your ears in public,
don't pick at your hair for nits, dandruff or lice in public and eat them,
don't blow your nose in front of people.
i'm sure many of us don't do this but i have seen it done.
when someone dies the correct response is not oh he lived past the average life expectancy- thats good. its oh im so sorry to hear that.(i did this, luckily not to the family of the deceased. what i ment was he lived a long and healthy life)
when your family says i love you your response is not oh, okay. its i love you too whether you mean it or not.

and i found this site by accident. its not specifically aimed at ASD affected people but we'd find it just as handy i suppose.
http://www.realsimple.com/work-life/eti ... index.html

Just because a store closes at a certain time or just because a restaurant or any places closes at a certain time doesn't mean you can come in right before they close rather it's five minutes or a half hour. Employees don't like staying late past their working hour. No pizza delivery person would want to deliver a pizza past their shift nor want to cook a pizza and they do not like it when people call them when they are close to closing to order a pizza because they have to cook it which means they would have to work past their shift when it had ended. No waiter or waitress and the cooks would want customers coming in shortly before closing because they have to cook the food and serve it to you and that makes them go past their shift.

Cashiers in stores are forced to stay until the last customer leaves.

Well that is why you see places that say they do do certain things past a certain time like the DMV near me does not do written tests when it's an hour before closing or a laundry mat near me has a sign saying do not start a load past eight o clock and they close at nine. I am sure there are restaurants that say they do not take orders past a certain time.


I dunno if I have posted this but I'll say it anyway, when staying at a hotel or a condo, do not trash it like leave lot of trash there or make it real messy because the room attendants have a time limit to clean rooms and they are not allowed to leave work until all their rooms are cleaned so if a room is real messy, it makes them take longer to clean it and it can make them go over time. I've worked at hotels and I learned this and I saw how frustrating it was how inconsiderate guests can be. Even though I wasn't the one to clean rooms but I still saw it and felt sorry for the room attendants because I cannot imagine that happening to me. Even though sometimes I see a room and the guests were considerate enough to have all the trash in a pile to make it easier for the room attendant or have all the dirty towels in a pile but I still wish they dump their own trash than leaving it in the room. It has to be hauled down to the dumpsters and that takes time away from cleaning. So the less trash they get, the less often they have to get a new trash bag to put more garbage in. That's why some hotels have extra workers that take the dirty linen and trash so the room attendants wouldn't have to do it but not all hotels have that. Usually the more expensive ones do like the Hilton because they are expecting lot of linen and trash and want to make it easier for their room attendants by having employees who will take it for them to save them the time. But leaving the room very messy and trashy still takes away the room attendants time because it takes them longer to clean it. I have helped strip out rooms and taking out the trash when I worked there. Didn't bother me but I couldn't believe how inconsiderate people can be. I then understood why my own dad always wanted to take out our own trash before we check out and didn't want to leave the whole room messy and wanted everything in the bathroom. My husband is the same way too except he won't leave any trash in there no matter how little it is. He just throws it away outside in the outside trash can.

Be careful when you say "good luck." People can take that as a negative meaning.

I often worry about that one. What do you say? "Hope all goes well" is what I say. There's 'break a leg' but I have a literal and visual mind so I can't say that without wincing.

One thing that is also hard to correct is not sneezing on people in public. I'm in a line and need to sneeze and there are people in front and behind me, so I turn my head to the side and still manage to sneeze on a lady.

You cover your mouth when you sneeze.

Do not vent about your problems over and over and not taking anyone's advice. It doesn't matter if you find their advice useless and unhelpful but if you vent about your same issues over and over, it will annoy people and upset them and soon they will think you are doing it for attention and sympathy.

If it's about another person you're having issues with or had issues with, people will think you are bullying and gossiping or think you're on a witch hunt.

Thanks; you made me laugh aloud for well over a minute

If this has not already been but as a tip:

#?. Always ask questions when deciding upon a persons position, feelings, etc

asking questions like "so are you saying...." "am I correct in understanding you feel this way about ...." has changed my life in the past two years since I discovered the link between ASD and myself.

Don't make fun of yourself for being "old" in front of people who are older than you.