The autism social rule book.

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1093 (or so): Avoid sociopaths and borderline sociopaths. I use the following guidelines to detect them:

Does the person lie repeatedly and shamelessly?

Does the person apologize for doing something that hurts you, then repeat the action?

Does the person become enraged when confronted with their patently false statements or intellectual dishonesty?

I've watched good people, including myself, fall prey to exploitation by abusers. I've read estimates that 1/3 of males and 1/10 of females have either structural or functional sociopathy to some extent. Some of the most socially fluent and charming people meet these criteria. I don't believe they can be fixed, and the deeper they have sunk their hooks into a victim, the more extreme measures they will take to retain control. I hope that some of the posters in this thread who have become completely untrusting will find these rules especially useful.

Girls: Shaving is a good idea by 6th grade and a hygiene norm by 7th grade.

Bah. Shaving is for weenies who can't handle a little fur on their wimminz.

#1XXX: Do not pick hair, lint, etc. out of your family members' clothing in public areas.
#1XXX: Regardless of how banal the topic is, you are not allowed to turn every light conversation into a cerebral discussion about its political or sociological merits.
#1XXX: When you share bad news and someone responds with "I'm sorry," it's an expression of sympathy, not an apology.
#1XXX: When you share information/news with someone and they say "Really?" they're probably not questioning what you said; it's a reflex. Just say "yes" and carry on.

Don't do a monologue. Conversations are 60/40, not 90/10 or even 80/20.

An AS man should not marry an NT woman, the woman has way too much emotion and the man way too little.

If you want, say, your post for example, read and not skipped over, don't write an essay. No one has that much patience. Short and sweet is good!

When on any forum or message board or in group, if you speak against the majority there, expect hostile responses or flames. Some people just don't disagree in a friendly way.

When talking to an NT, stand at least 50 cm (around 20 inches) away from them otherwise they'll feel that you're being rude/harassing and intruding upon their space. The exceptions to this rule are when you're in a place that's normally crowded or has small space, such as inside an elevator and public transport.

Do not ask a parent "where are his/her shoes?" when you see their child going barefoot or stocking feet. They will think you're being rude.

When you see a mother breast feeding, do not say anything about it.

Don't ask people if they're aspies - especially if they don't know that you're an aspie.

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