04 Apr 2015, 10:21 pm
GodzillaWoman wrote:
........after years of being paranoid delusional. She's been telling me how the government is bugging our phones and computers and trying to kill her, and i have NO flippin' idea what to say to that. All I know how to do is to debate each belief logically, but delusions don't respond to logic. She just gets mad and says I'm not supporting her. When she talks that way, i just want to hide in the corner with my laptop. 
I think I know how you feel, and I think you're doing very well to still be hanging on in there after 20 years. I once lived with a paranoid delusional partner. However gently I did it, logical argument only upset her more and made her cling more tightly to her delusions, and like you I didn't know how else to intervene. She believed that the Germans were using magic to persecute her, and that all women were hell-bent on stealing me from her. Looking back, there's some evidence that distracting her onto more pleasant topics was a possible way of easing her, but I failed to do that. I always seem to think that calm, reasoned argument will work, but even with normal people, if their emotions are strong, it does more harm than good.
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