The autism social rule book.

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Do not admit you love to troll, especially saying you love to troll other forums because then people will assume you troll on their forum (the one you admitted it on) even if you didn't mean that forum you're on and even if you aren't trolling there and are just a regular member.

When hiring a nanny, when you call one of the parents who had the nanny as their former nanny, if the dates they give you when the nanny worked is short like a few months, it means the nanny wasn't a good nanny.


(But of course this isn't accurate because maybe the reason why the nanny didn't work there long was because maybe there were too many problems with the parents like lack of food in the house or the house was always very dirty or the parents treated the nanny like a maid and always had her do stuff that wasn't part of her job they agreed with. Or the parents were too disorganized they couldn't even decide what they wanted and their kids were too out of control because the parents never did their jobs so they used their nanny as the parent and wanted her to raise the kids and be a parent to them than a nanny. So the nanny decided "enough" and quit)

It's usually fine to tell people that you have AS. Sometimes it's better than having them wonder why you have a hard time socializing.

When someone asks you if you can make juice for them, it's because they want to drink some so when you are done making it for them, pour them a glass and give it to them.

When you say "It's not my favorite" it means to people "I didn't like it."

#1001 Limit conversation with clients/cow-orkers you find physically attractive strictly to business or if you must, safe banalities. NEVER say or do anything that reveals how you feel.

Best to avoid being alone with them, if at all possible.

#1002 - When a NT female tells a AS male who asks her out - "We could be friends" - what she means is that she does not want to hurt your feelings, but she would not be disappointed if she never saw you again.

#1003 - Unless the NT is a very special person, they do *not* want to hear about your aspie issues.

If you are really listening to someone try to make occasional eyecontact or they will think you are not interested or don't listen at all.

When in a big shop on a cold winters day, and you hear kids aged about 10 to 12 years old shout to eachother, ''look outside!'', don't look outside. When snow might be hit or miss, kids of that age tease eachother because they're excited, and so you don't want to be an adult in the background falling for it!

Be careful when you take offers from people. They could just be giving you one to test you.

This rule book is a really good idea for all of us here that have Asperger's and autism. Thank you so much for this rule book.

#1007 Read comments several times before taking them seriously, if they seem absurd or insulting. Look for signs of irony or hyperbole.

Don't keep on repeating your anxieties and fears over and over to whoever you're with. My main anxiety/fear is people staring at me, and I said it two of three times in one hour today when I was in a crowded shopping centre with my friend, and (thanks to my ''NT trait'' of being able to recognise tone of voice) I could tell in her voice that she was getting fed up with me saying about it. I'm afraid I will lose her as a friend soon, so I better shut up about people staring at me.

#1009
There is a magic triangle around the eyes and nose. This is the safe zone for where to look when talking to people because it simulates eye contact.

When you walk somewhere (like in an office) and you go to the wrong place (for example going to the kitchen instead of the bathroom), confidently continue going to the wrong place and do something accordingly to the new spot where you are (for example you are in the kitchen, just serve yourself a glass of water).

If you don't you will come across as weird, unconfident, sleepy especially if you tend to do that often.

Obviously you should do this in a place where people see you often like at work, on the streets where noone knows you you shouldn't care