"The Asperger's Stare"

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A while back I posted this picture of myself (on the bottom left) as a kid:

[quote="Justin227"] That I give people the 1000 mile stare..[/quote]

I just called it a 1000 yd stare on another thread :) I think it comes from the way snipers are supposed to look.

Yes, I've been told (and now use the phrase myself) I have the 1000 yard stare.

I got told I had the eyes of a contract killer too. Lovely! I get all the best compliments.(sarcasm)

My dad had it worse, the stare coupled with his slight resemblance to Robert de Niro, and his fondness for "edgy" italian suits (ie tasteless flashy ones) always made for an interesting time at customs/immigration.

I have been in job interviews and I know by maintaining eye contact (as your told to do in interview) that it's unsettled the interviewer to the point of real unrest and they want to show me the door. People say I look at them like "daggers" (evil), but I don't have ill feeling towards them at allor any ill feelings at the time. I notice the pupils don't dilate as much in AS folk and we don't smile as much, nor have much facial expression or "life" in the face. Could this be it? I think it might be lack of development too; personally I know I have a very underdeveloped looking face for a 30 year old. That in itself makes others uneasy and perhaps more critical.

[quote="Icheb"]A while back I posted this picture of myself (on the bottom left) as a kid:

[img]http://img66.imageshack.us/img66/6678/starehf2.jpg[/img][/quote]

ZOMG, you look so like me at that age. I gotta digitize my pict and post it. Same age too.

I don't know if I do this to people. I've been told that I go into an "EMO" stare. They always think I'm sad and I have to convince them that my face just looks like that when I'm zoned out. (which is always)

Sometimes when my mind wonders, I stare.
I have had many reactions. A lot of people simply tell me that I'm staring, some people smile at me, and some people get mad. In Junior High I had slurs and rumors thrown at me from it. Now, I don't stare as much, but when I do stare sometimes a lot of my friends don't seem to care that much. One time one of my friends thought I was having a seizure at 1st and after I explained that it wasn't a seizure he didn't make such a big deal.

The more I think about it, you know I always wondered why in high school, I'd run my mouth like I was going to fight people, and I had never been in a fight, yet they were scared of me. Maybe that's why. I know I can look a person down, and I do go drill sgt in the deal where someone claims they want to fight but I know they are all talk and that makes them back down, but at the same time, I guess I do that without meaning to a lot as well. Maybe that's also why some former co-workers have complained I'm domineering and overbearing, even when I think I'm a pushover.

yeah i have the empty gaze.
i was told i look like a lump on a log with no personality at all.

One of my on-line friends said that I have the aspie stare, and compared to Lianne Holiday's picture on the back of her book. I think it was the picture in my avatar that she was commenting on. I've noticed the stare in other autistics, but I didn't think that I had it, though. Guess, I do.

I get the deer in the headlights look when Im lost or when I am approached by a customer and dont know where a product is at the supermarket where I work or when Im tired or overwhelmed and am on "autopilot" while my mind is in my own little world as I work.