"You dont look like anything is wrong with you"

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We all look normal because AS is a hidden disability. Even if little sounds make us jump, it still won't tell people anything because anyone can jump at unexpected sounds. I have walked into hotel rooms and saying something and the room attendant would jump.


People who look different, people assume they are ret*d or something because they underestimate them and make assumptions about they don't know what they are doing so it gives those people the ability to take advantage of thbeir own disability because they know they can get away with bad behaviors because people just assume they don't know any better and don't understand their actions and understand what they are doing. I have seen someone on another forum saying how he is disabled and people talk to him like he is ret*d and it's very frustrating for him. I am not sure what his disability is of course. I am sure even a person with Down syndrome wouldn't like being talked to in a ret*d voice and they want to be talked to like a normal person. I had a friend with it and I always talked to her in my normal tone of voice. I'm sure she wouldn't like people talking to her in a cute voice.

So there are pros and cons to looking normal and looking different. When you look normal, people expect more out of you and assume you are being a brat or something or being selfish, etc. When you look different, people assume you are ret*d and assume you don't know any better when you do things and they underestimate you and they can talk to you in a cute voice, they don't expect much from you and assume you can't do this or that and I am sure its frustrating for those people but they can't even express it because they can't talk unless they have a communication device. If I looked different and people were underestimating me and asusming I don't know any better, I bet I would be taking advantage of their ignorance by being bad such as having a tantrum to get my way becauase I know i could get anything I want but all I have to do is have a tantrum in public to get it or have it at home to get my way and control my whole family because they think I don't know any better. I saw a video on that with the 13 year old autistic girl and I knew she was having tantrums than meltdowns just by the way they looked and I was right because this guy walked into their life and she was being given rewards and all so it was obvious she knew what she was doing but because her parents underestimated her, it gave her the ability to take advantage of them and the mother said she didn't realize her girl was smarter than she realized and I shouted "duh" in my head. It just shows how ignorant people are, when someone is none verbal and they act so different, they make assumptions by assuming they are ret*d or they won't understand things or understand their actions etc. so they let them run wild and it gives their child power to take advantage of them. It's probably their way of dealing with their frustration about the assumptions people make on them so they learn to deal with it by taking advantage of their ignorance. I think I would be doing the same thing so that's how I know. I did it in high school because I was under estimated. It's dishonest though what I did but I was frustrated. People saw me long enough to know I was different.

I was so busy with my original rant that I never thought about it, I confess... but there have been some very good points raised. My rant is true, mind you, but that said...

I agree, it's great to look like there's nothing wrong with you, except that my failure to look people in the eye is regarded as a snub therefore.

I also agree. Nothing is wrong with OP, dang it! But maybe what makes the statement insulting is the implication that to have Autism is to have something wrong with you. The drive for money to help with it is then, by nature, sending the same message.

I further agree that it seems irrelevant to banking business to mention it, but chatting is what people do.

And finally, I think the question is, how did she say it? It could have been sneering and skeptical, or just mumbled off in that distracted way people have when they're not sure how to respond.

Hrmph, having been on Warcraft for a while, some of the most open people also told me that i seem pretty decent, polite and nice. Of course, they wouldn't know since you can't observe AS through a computer screeen, except for social misunterpretations.