What AS trait causes you to suffer the most?

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[quote="Brandon-J"]Social interaction because it's difficult for me to express my thoughts. It's hard for me to even come up with thoughts as in continuing a conversation. This makes people not to be around me because im boring and really quiet. And ppl don't realize that it affects your whole life with every thing you do as in the work environment, taking care of business, your family, everything.[/quote)

I have problems with expressing my thoughts also! Yes, me also, I feel the same way! For me, it is social interaction, then obsessions, then Sensory issues. I don't wear certain clothes because of my sensory issues, and I think everyone is yelling, when in reality, they are not yelling at all.

The worst thing for me is not knowing how I feel about things. I find it hard to make simple decisions between equal options eg what to drink in a cafe. That's an enormous nuisance, that slows me down all day. Then with big decisions where the options are not ideal, I can be absolutely certain which option I am going for, and then I will change my mind or someone will persuade me and I will choose the other. Then I will wake up and think no, I made the wrong choice, and it's really important. This is a social issue of course, because it's a nightmare for other people. On the plus side, when a decision has to be made in a purely rational way, I am an expert!

Greentea you are fun and nice on here. Is it your facial expressions and body language that bug people? I know mine are often all slightly wrong somehow.

I'm all about some world domination, but I've found to my dismay it is mainly a group activity, and I don't play well with others.

Thank you, Auntie. I guess the things that bother people about me don't manifest themselves here, such as attitudes, behaviors and reactions that are not wrong but are not standard.

Eg: I once participated in a self-awareness workshop where we were told to introduce ourselves. I chose to introduce myself by the characteristics of my mind and soul, rather than my socioeconomic status like everyone else. I remember it was so bad that one of the women even yelled at the workshop leaders how come they don't force me to shape up and introduce myself by my socioeconomic status like everyone else.

It's been anxiety from novel social interaction.
When even moderate I can't process anything in the environment ; it's a foreign language at that point .

Now that im older this intensity isn't severe enough that I can get by with it; but I feel akward though.... this rarely feels natural and fluent ; it's a lot of work.

When not novel : I sense a profound ' out of phase with the other' ; subjectively.

You probably made her feel like an empty, shallow shell of nothing, forcing her to lash out at you in an attempt to justify her own pathetic lack of identity.

That's insane! Not sure whether I even believe you since every thing you say is so cynical. What is a self-awareness workshop?

I voted other: I have a hard time keeping track of the conversations since I tend to drift off real quick. That also goes the same when I am in classes.

For me it would be the dyspraxia, executive dysfunction, social skills problems, weird brain glitches and tics, and subsequent severe anxiety disorder I developed from trying to be a perfect secretary and a perfect socialite. Especially being a perfect secretary. And the strain of pretending I am the kind of person who picks up their socks.

Ralou, it's the fact that I got away with doing something nobody else does that made the members mad. This woman was just more of a simpleton than the rest, so instead of shutting up and hating me like them, she confronted the leaders, not knowing that she'd be told by them that in a Psychology environment you're allowed to express yourself freely.

Wouldn't it be more accurate to call these things symptoms rather than traits?

Okay. That makes a little more sense. But are you sure though that it was only the fact that you didn't talk about your socioeconomic status that made the rest of the members mad? NT's read things "between the lines" that aren't really there, you know, projection. Then if their feelings are hurt by something you said (or something they thought you implied) they aren't going to mention the thing that actually hurt their feelings because they don't want to leave themselves vulnerable. Instead they're going to come up with something else to accuse you of doing wrong, a ruse to hide their hurtness.

Definitely the social interaction, because I find it really hard to talk to people and make friends.

Hands down,difficulty with social interactions. Not know how to interpet the signals people might be giving off. If it hadnt been for my lack of socialization, I would never known I was aspie.

What a bunch of dicks. I would much rather hear about someone's mind and personality traits than their socioeconomic status.

Those women need a good smack.

At the moment, it's my attentional "vortexing". I really want to learn to drive and become independent. But I have this lovely(sarcasm) little habit of fixating on something and blocking out the world to the point that I actually CAN'T HEAR.

My diagnosis, resulting in me being sent to a 'special' school where the staff rarely make sense, and where my 'peers' all live - ooh, say, 20 or more miles away from where I do?

Or maybe it's just the fact that people seem to find it easy to forget my existence.