Are there some things you just can't grasp?

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Directions. I know my left from my right but I'm totally confused when it comes to north, south, east and west. Someone can tell me which way north is and then I will only know it again if I'm standing in the exact spot that I was in when I was told. If I'm anywhere else I wouldn't have a clue if I was asked.

Ok, I confess, I haven't read the entire thread, but wow, what a coincidence... I've just brought this up in my Asperger's group about two weeks ago! I've had the exact same problem... oh man... I must have looked that word up more than 10 times already! And it's just this one word!! !

The Sun rises in the East and sets in the West. So, if you know what North/South/East/West is on a map you can use the Sun to work around this. I also look at star chart to help me, so I can tell from constellations.

I know what you mean. If people want to get a point across, why can't the just SAY it? They have to be vague and ambiguous for some stupid reason. Then they tell me that although they didn't say it, it was obvious what they meant.... NO. IT. WASN'T. 1 - You didn't say 2 - I don't read f*****g read minds.

Anyways...

What I can't get my head around is subtraction. Addition is easy. I just can't go back the other way. I hate working in retail because if a customer changes their mind about how they want to pay after I've added it up on the register, I have to pull out a calculator and look like an idiot.

Oh, and ANYTHING to do with politics. It makes no sense.

Almost forgot - tying knots. Any sort of knot. If people show me how I just see a blur of hands and strings. I don't actually gather any informationl.

Last edited by mpw123 on 08 Feb 2010, 5:19 am, edited 1 time in total.

All of those I really get but especially 2 and 5!
2 - I just look at any form and think "how the hell do they expect anyone to comprehend this?" do people really spend their lives filling these things out? Why ME?! Why do they care about ME and what I write down on this piece of paper?!
5 - I hate that so much! You ask why something is and they just repeat the fact, rather than give you the explanation! I don't want to just hear again that it IS, I'm asking WHY because I don't understand. Everything has a reason. If you can't give me a real reason then there can't possibly be one!

This is a big problem for me. I get phobic about it and put it aside to deal with later. Consequently my car insurance was dropped and I was driving around uninsured for 4 months. I'm re-insured but I feel like an idiot. The new agent is a church friend of my mother's and I just told him I have inattentive ADD and I have a hard time understanding these things. Sometimes dignity is over rated. He said he'd help me anytime.

Double post.. sorry

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Things I don't get either..

Small Talk.. Why? What's the point of talking nonsense and who really gives a toss about the weather or who X on TV is shagging.

Organised Sports and Religion... Again Why? What's the point of having to go somewhere at a specific time every week? It's like having a job without getting paid. Not my idea of fun!! Don't get it at all.

Mob Mentality.. Loud, shouting, ignorant sheep.. Desire to ostracize or ridicule anything or anyone different I just don't understand

Gangs.. Why? Why do people need to belong to such violent things?

Going to the pub every week or night... Especially people that go alone and sit and talk to the bar staff (I used to work behind a bar).. Go be sad and lonely by yourself.. Geez! Also why pay over inflated prices, have to stand, drink watered down spirits, have to shout to be heard and have to get smashed to have any kind of fun or to get up enough courage to chat someone in the hope of getting laid? I just don't get it.

People who have kids but don't seem to want or know how to raise them.. Again I don't understand why?

Having lots of fake friends just to look popular or liked.. Again.. Just don't get it.

How people can spend their whole life living in the same place, doing the same job and knowing the same people... Sounds very boring to me.

Why people watch the news on TV.. I don't get why? It's all one sided, mostly negative and usually about another country or some poor bugger getting killed.

Hero worship and stardom.. We're all human after all and some less so.. I don't understand the need to idolize.

How an actor, actress or sports star can get payed so much when most people of similar or greater value are struggling and are often underpaid

How it feels to be someone else


I understand the above on an intellectual level but not in an emotional or logical way.. I just don't get it!

I'm dyspraxic, and am always getting lost. I've finally mastered left and right, but I do have to concentrate to get it right, if I'm not concentrating, I'll still get lost.

The OP mentions gambling. I just cannot understand it either.

I'm always forgetting birthdays, including my own. The idea of celebrating days doesn't gell with me. I think that's a dyspraxic thing also.

Getting the grasp topic

Driving, Swimming, Gossiping, Multitasking, Routine changes, Touching--all these are a mystery to me.

1. Maternal instinct:

Why don't more mothers give their babies up for adoption? Why do mothers fight tooth and nail for sole custody while complaining how hard it is to be a single parent. If it's so hard, why are you fighting to keep that job away from someone you hate? Why do kids want their moms so much when they're hurt?

Why do moms keep getting upset when their babies grow up and stop needing them? Isn't that the whole point?

2. Politics:

How do you get power? How does everyone else just automatically defer to a certain person without even thinking about it? How do you keep all the various people, their interests and motivations, and how they can be influenced, straight? How can you tell what to reveal to whom and what to keep secret from whom and keep that all straight?

3. Why does it mess with people's minds so severely to have sex during childhood?

Small talk, yah. Watching sports [I can get close to seeing why you might want to DO sports].
Award shows. Gossip magazines [AND why, oh why do people each year read the psychic predictions and never look at how LAST year's prophecies fell flat?]

But what I simply cannot conceptualize is Daylight Saving Time. Not just WHY people do someting so unreasonable - it MAY have helped consetrve fuel in WWI, but we work differently today - but which way you move the clocks. They NEVER tell you - tomorrow, if the clock says 8, make it say 9.

I HEAR YOU!

I can do all sorts of weird useful stuff, that is fascinating to other people, that I can grasp in a second, until we enter math .... this is where their admiration stops cold. I have the math skills of a 12 year old or something like that, and when I ask my friends for help on some math, they are stunned, that I am having trouble with doing that easy calc. when I can do all sorts of other stuff that they admire me for, like writing books, being the CEO of my own company and can help everybody else realizing their potential and helping them make there dreams come true (mainly in business), by pointing out the exact key selling points for their products etc.

Furniture from IKEA that you have to follow the instructions on how to assemble? Don't even get the instruction papers that goes along with it!
Flirting, I have to be told that someone is flirting with me, and when I am being perceived as flirting with others!
When to speak the truth as I see it and when not too, for social reasons, I have no idea.....
Distinction between Small Talk and Gossip. In my ears it is always gossip when people talk about others, but I am told that it is not, it is just small talk! Who knew?
And the list goes on and on, but I think you get the picture!

What I am saying is, that it is like we are extra good at some things, but the downside is that some "Normal NT stuff" just don't stick!

When I passed my NLP Master Practitioner exam, I wrote the entire project from start to finish, 25 pages, in 3 hours. I have browsed a compendium of 200+ pages for a University Class on Business Development, by reading all the headlines of the chapters and sections, not reading the body text, in 3 hours, and passing the oral exam the next day with a B+.

So again it is Ying/Yang, everything is in balance, what we gain equals what we loose = balance.

/AG

Advanced financial concepts: stocks, bonds, interest... This may be simple for some, but it confuses me.

Empathy: I don't understand what it means. I have read the definition countless times, but I can't formulate an example without getting it confused with sympathy. It is constantly tossed around on WP but I don't get the significance.

Religious concepts: I would like to strongly believe in a higher power, as I see so many people gaining peace of mind from faith. However, no matter how hard I try, I constantly question the concepts and teachings. It is as if while my brain is processing it, an error occurs due to the fact that it goes against everything I have ever read in a book or learned in science courses. I do not wish to offend anyone and I try to maintain an open mind regarding this subject.

Compulsive liars: How can one lie so much that it turns into lies covering up lies. It seems that some people lie so much that they honestly believe what they are saying. I could not live with myself.

There are many more that I can't think of at the moment...

Math in general, to be honest. I can't think in numbers at all.

Sightreading. Simply cannot do it. v_v