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26 Nov 2009, 2:45 pm

I can talk to people if I have a topic to talk about. Otherwise I really have no idea what to say.

I always felt that my lack of ability to make small talk was at least partially due to a fundamental lack of interest in most other people. I'm not particularly interested in knowing what they've been doing recently and so on, so it doesn't occur to me to ask. Ideas and information interest me a lot more than people, and that is basically the reason why I talk when I do, to exchange those. I wouldn't think to talk for the sole reason of establishing/maintaining a 'social connection'.



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26 Nov 2009, 10:28 pm

I generally hate small talk I prefer to get the conversation over before I start to panic. Also I find most small talk unnecessary anyway, however some people find it important to ask minor details about your life. Also I don't know about you but I find that if I someone talks about something I am not prepared to talk about or if I am not sure of the answer, my voice becomes so quiet that I usually have to repeat myself. :(



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27 Nov 2009, 4:34 am

NapoleanBonamite wrote:
Also I find most small talk unnecessary anyway, however some people find it important to ask minor details about your life.


I can never understand why people who don't know me very well would want to know these things about me. I would have to be very close to and fond of someone before mundane details about their life would start to become interesting to me.

If they want for some reason to get to know me, why don't they ask questions related to my thoughts and ideas?



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27 Nov 2009, 5:20 am

I figured out a magic trick recently!

I can go up to a NT and make them handle the load of the conversation for me, so I can focus on interacting!

:D

They're reading a book, "That looks interesting, what's it about?", they're staring off into space, "So, what's on your mind?", they're working on something, "Ooh, what are you doing there, can I see?"

Then just build off what they say to judge how to work from there, people seem to be more honest when asked direct questions about something they're interested in, without specifying how they have to respond.


Taken me 29 years to figure this out.


I don't really get why, but it works!



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27 Nov 2009, 5:32 am

Not really. I never know what to talk about. When I do manage some small talk, it bores be to death. I avoid it as much as I can.



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27 Nov 2009, 7:45 am

Nope, can't say I'm good at it at all. When people try to converse with me I give short one sentence replies. Usually as soon as the chatter starts I want them to go away.



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27 Nov 2009, 8:34 am

every kind of talking is terrible for me, I think I have a severe speech disorder, in a group(which I have to be in just because of obligations), I am the most quiet and just to have to bear their looks and their constant statement " tell something" what's your idea?"they just boast for this ability.