So, who DO you like touching you?

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I'm pretty neutral to it. I am very hyposenstive to touch. Doesn't fit the AS stereotype but I remember in Attwood's book it said that aspies can be either hypersensitive or hyposensitive.

Every now and then sometimes it surprises people when they try to get my attention by poking my shoulder and I don't respond because I didn't feel it and they think there is no way that I couldn't have felt it. I have a very high pain tolerance as well.

on the shaking of hands, it seems like other people often try and crush my hands. What's up with that?

My cat . I also don't mind someone touching me if we are in a romantic relationship. Family-wise, I'm okay with my nephew giving me hugs, but if the kids in my family are extremely jumpy and wild then no thanks; get 'em away. I don't like people touching me, I used to duck from hugs and everything else, but now I have learned to just deal with it. I mean, a hug can't last forever right?

if you want nasmes, tough
friends,family,gf,pets...depending on thinds ranging from somtimes tolarent to being ok with it, others,never

I don't like handshakes, but I definitely prefer the hard ones. God, I hate it when I have to shake someone's hand and it's just lying there like a floppy piece of meat.

I do NOT like being touched by strangers. I put up with it like I put up with the occasional visit to the OB/GYN. I can tolerate hair dressers though, but nobody could give me a back rub unless I really liked them.

People brushing up against me or touching my shoulder give me the creeps, it's like tasting something disgusting except with my entire body, not just my mouth.

All animals are A-OK, except spiders and bugs and such. Snakes are cool. I like animals you can touch with a little force, like big dogs and horses and cows.

My kids can touch me all they want as long as they keep their feet off of me. I hate feet. They can hang from my hair though.

My husband is not the touchy-feely type. I wish he would touch me more actually. I'll ask him for hugs and similar sometimes.

When I was in my teens I craved two types of touch, the erotic touch of boyfriends and the sensual touch of the occasional girl.

As a kid I liked hugs from my father. My mother rarely hugged me, only when I asked. I would hug and hold hands with my little brother when I was little. He was my only friend and the only one I needed. I accepted being touched by adults, but usually didn't care for it. But I was a frightfully obidient child, thank god I never ended up with a predator. I had infinite trust, no sense of danger and did what I was told

There are exceptions to the rule, but I can't predict them. But in some rare instances an aqcuaintance can touch me and it's nice. I still haven't figured it out.

My wife can touch me though I hate it if she wants to snuggle up to me at night - which saddens me. I'm so sensitive at night. I don't mind the cats touching me, but everyone one else needs to give me a really wide berth.

And thats why I shop at 11pm at night

Owl

My husband and I learned early on that snuggling while you're awake and snuggling when you're asleep or trying to sleep are two very different situations... in other words, neither of us likes to snuggle when we're trying to sleep. He can be touch sensitive, but not as much as I am. I think he has more of an average reaction, in that he doesn't want to be messed with if he's tense or not feeling well, but likes affectionate touch from me and the kids. But snuggling in bed with a purpose (wink) was one thing, even when we were just married... and feeling pinned when you're trying to get comfortable is a whole other thing. It always looked so cozy on TV...

I remembered one other thing. Haircuts. When I get a haircut, I always get my hair shampooed because it's so thick that it's easier to get it wet that way. But I love it because my scalp is always so tense and the haircutter massages the shampoo well into the scalp, which is a lot harder to do, standing up, to your own head. It's very soothing. I guess a lot of tension builds in the whole head and neck area, and a professional shampooing hair uses firm pressure. The rest of the cut is tedious, but the shampoo at least makes me more relaxed.

It has to be someone with whom I'm sexually involved or wish to be. Even then, I can't stand lip to lip kissing (I really can't, even without tongue) or the feel of their sweat.

My Autism doctor, my Autism horse - in that order. Not really anybody else.

And.. it's psychologically healthy too. It's been once written, "Nine hugs a day is good for mental health." I'll be glad to take that many hugs a day.

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Hmm ..lately I realize I can't stand when it's unexpected even from a family member. If it's like a tap or press on my arm or back or something when someone's emphasizing something or trying to get my attention, aaaghh I just want to slap them myself lol. But generally I think I've never had much of a problem with being touched and usually I touch others when I interact with them (of course if it's at least a somewhat close friend). But I became extremely touchy-feely with my ex boyfriend. I did more of the clingy touchyness, and it was NOT uncomfortable to be touched by him..guess that aspect can usually be the exception because it acquires that addictive hand holding physical love language, etc thing..

It often depends entirely on the person. I don't mind attractive people touching me. Male and Female. Males are more greatly enjoyed. Sometimes I do mind though. Some people I really don't enjoy being touched by. Unexpected touch is often very bad. I don't like people I don't trust, or people I've deemed "unclean" touching me. My father fits both those, and I albsolutely hate him touching me. My parents think its very odd. Many arguments have been started because I'd literally run away from him, and he'd corner me, and I'd end up pussing him away too hard.
If you ask me, cornering someone is NEVER good. ESP. a likely aspie.

No one, except for my cats & some other animals. But I know if I ever meet someone to have a relationship with, I would enjoy that once I was comfortable enough with & around them.