Ever Heard "I know you're AS but..."

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Those in my life (and there aren't that many) who know all about Asperger's tend to say "I know you have Aspergers but " and then go on to criticize something that is textbook AS. Like, I was going on and on about something.

Or I don't seem to be nice when I speak to them. I've been told "I know you're Aspergers but your social skills are not good"

I just got done with a text conversation that went exactly like that. I pointed out this is like telling someone in a wheelchair that you know they have to use the wheelchair but that doesn't excuse them from NOT walking around and you're mad at them for being a jerk and not walking.

??

I don't use Asperger's as a crutch or as an excuse and I rarely bring it up. If someone starts criticizing me for being overly sensitive to sound (which is another one I've dealt with many times) or with smell, I tell them it's out of my control - I have a hypersensitivity to these things and altho I try to be tough or fight against it, most of the time extreme smell or sound overload causes me to become physically ill. As in stomach distress, feeling faint or a migraine. I can't change that - it's part of the hardwiring as far as I can tell.

But I've heard "I know you're Asperger but you really can't leave if the noise is too loud" ???

Isn't that a totally illogical and ridiculous kind of criticism? I know you have no legs but that's no excuse why you're not walking!

Anyone else heard this sort of thing?

I forget what I was doing, but it was fairly recently when she told me, "I know you're unique and all, but do you have to be SO unique?"

thats like saying I know you are brown eyes