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02 May 2010, 10:35 pm

Here's how things often go between me and people:
They'll approach. I'll be civil to them. They'll then decide that I'm their best friend and that we have a wonderful connection. I'm sitting there going "WTF?", because from my point of view, I barely know them and I feel very slightly more for them than I do for furniture. I then withdraw.
If I actually do feel a genuine connection with someone, which takes a lot of time to happen, I make sure to keep the friendship going.


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02 May 2010, 10:56 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
Here's how things often go between me and people:
They'll approach. I'll be civil to them. They'll then decide that I'm their best friend and that we have a wonderful connection. I'm sitting there going "WTF?", because from my point of view, I barely know them and I feel very slightly more for them than I do for furniture. I then withdraw.
If I actually do feel a genuine connection with someone, which takes a lot of time to happen, I make sure to keep the friendship going.


Yes! That happens a lot. I knew this one lady who was a neighbor. When I moved away, she kept trying to keep in touch, which was annoying!


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02 May 2010, 11:11 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
If I actually do feel a genuine connection with someone, which takes a lot of time to happen, I make sure to keep the friendship going.


every so often i have felt an intense connection with somebody immediately and it always scares the living crap out of me. now i wonder - were they other aspies?? i can't make sense of it, but i've never succeeded in calming down enough to get to know any of them.


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09 May 2010, 12:51 pm

I also do this. Whenever people befriend me, or even if I make an effort to befriend them, after a couple of days either I start feeling overwhelmed and inching away or they get sick of me and leave. It always happens. I wish I knew how to stop it.


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09 May 2010, 1:17 pm

It sucks. :(