Are people with Aspergers generally happy people?

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Well, technically speaking, AS people are much more predisposed to depression.
So, that is the fact. Make a large extrapolation of this fact I will not

I don't know if that's true, but I'm an aspie and I'm generally an unhappy person, but that's only because of current family situations (ie lack of trust, communication, mum's disrespectuful boyfriend).
But I only know one other aspie and he is generally a happy person, though he does express very often his low opinion of the world.

I stay happy by being with my family and being driven by my interests. I love to plan out work to do with my interest projects. Everything seems to tie in together. My HO scale models combine with my roller coaster interest with HO scale roller coaster models made from my collection of historic blueprints. All of these HO scale models are going in a full size basement layout which becomes an HO scale model of the setting for the novel I am working on. This brings me incredible joy.

And...I play music---(many different instruments). This brings me great joy. I often perform concerts on these instruments in front of church groups.

But like anyone, I have down times too. But generally, (so far in life), I am very happy.

I am happy that I have Asperger's/autism. Asperger's has made my life successful. How??? Because as with any condition such as autism or being NT, you are given good cards and bad cards to play in life. I try to play the good cards of my autism---and that has made a big difference for me. And another thing is that I don't have the desire to socialize. I have removed that element from my life. I can see where those of us with Asperger's wanting to socialize would find frustrations here---socializing is very awkward. I just don't socialize---I enjoy my family and interests.

Some are, some are not.

ruveyn

As a group, people with Asperger's are no different than any other. Some are happy, some are not. Some are male, some are female, some are gay, some are straight, etc. etc. But I have noticed that people with Asperger's are generally more honest with themselves than NTs are, and that's the biggest key to happiness. The main reason many AS people are unhappy is because they are forced to live in a world where lying and cheating gets you ahead, and we generally aren't rotten people, and don't like to be.

This is probably how I'll describe myself and happiness.

As a child I was actually really happy most of the time. I joke about how I was "too happy" because people couldn't stand me no matter what I did, for some reason. And so welcome bullying and that kind of stuff. Somehow I still maintained the happiness throughout the crap in elementary school (my reasoning for never wanting to go to school was different than everyone elses', I just didn't like being targeted all the time for being myself.)

It kind of began to catch up with me in middle school when I started having other mental issues. In high school when the typical issues with parents began to enter the picture, and I didn't like being either at school or at home anymore, everything kind of added up and my "happiness" pretty soon dissolved, to keep it simple here.

So pretty much, if it wasn't for certain intolerant, controlling people and others that picked on anyone for being different, and if it weren't for a stupid everlasting depression, I'd be pretty happy right about now. Technically, as I've said in other threads, the problem is not Asperger's, the problem is other people. But despite that I went through a phase of misanthropy for a few weeks at one point, it's not like I hate people.

It's just that whenever I am happy, it usually is connected to me giving a cynical middle finger to other things that would rather enjoy screwing my life and my feelings up.

Indeed, very much so.

I am usually quite happy and optimistic, enjoying the many projects I am working on, mostly by myself.
My main problem is external influences from NTs. I can loose a whole week or longer to depression if I encounter a negative NT experience.
That put aside I am quite happy doing my OWN thing. I have never felt unhappy from being myself, the NTs do that for me.

i thought about this, but there is no correct answer in me because i'm not sure what happiness is.
i'm either relaxed or tense. scared or confident. but "generally happy" no, that can't be. there is no general answer to that, everybody's state of mind fluctuates...
i"m "generally optimistic"or is it apathetic? i'm always facing problems with a "it will resolve itself" attitude.but when everything goes well, i also think "that shouldn't last long..." fate saves me. i do nothing. i don't even know if i live my life. i feel like life is living me, like i'm being constantly carried. So i don't go too deep in what i feel about life. i just let it lead.

If I hadn't finally been diagnosed with Asperger's, I would have probably been found dead and frozen in a ditch somewhere. It was like everyone had given up on me. My parents, doctors, the staff in the home I was kicked out of, everyone... I was miserable and filled with hate and anxiety and sadness for a long time after that, and it still haunts my dreams.

Why should I be happy? I have no job, no car, no real friends, and I live in a boring place filled with stupid and uneducated hicks who want everything to stay the way it was in the 1950s when people made a living by slaving away in dangerous coal mines and gutting slimy fish. I'm just wasting human resources, which will all be gone soon, anyway.

I am happy. Occasionally, I'm not happy about a particular thing, but it's a very specific cause I can put my finger on like someone I love died or I got fired from my job. I don't just have the "blues" or depression that's not defined.

I do notice that a lot of people on here are not happy, and sometimes that's why I take a break from the site, but I'm also sympathetic to the fact that many of them are dealing with more severe issues than me.

The answer is NO, but who is happy nowadays?

Hm, not wild about necro'd threads, but since it's not a heated discussion …

As a teenager I'm 100% certain I could have received an Asperger's/HFA diagnosis, had such a thing existed at the time. And I was clinically depressed that entire decade, even hospitalized for depression at one point.

Things got much better in my twenties. I discovered a philosophy that helps me make sense of the world, and literature, music, art that helps me see life in a positive light. And while I still had problems with speech, eye contact, and socializing, I found a job I could be really really good at. Does wonders for the self-esteem.

Today I'm euphorically happy – but I expect I'm also subclinical at this point. People do grow and learn.

I've heard before that people on the autism spectrum are more susceptible to depression. Not sure if it was from the way people treat us or some chemistry in the brain. Possibly both, but idk.
Anyway, I think for me I am usually a happy person, but I have had some issues with depression before. Just recently I've been struggling a lot more with that.

Ditto. I may be circumstantially unhappy at times but since I was rather young indeed I've been a tacit optimist.

it is normal for you feel unhappy sometimes .not a big deal . but i believe that we can change it . manage it .right ?
so .i think i am a happy person or i want to be a happy person