People and their inconsiderate socializing!! !

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hehe, I had to go and look up what "lollygagger" means...

...now I know....

I am living in a small country region at the moment.

When I go to the supermarket, there are always people standing in the aisles, having a conversation. Once I had to bend myself like a pretzel to get the item I wanted because they wouldnt move. I felt as if I was inconveniencing them and their conversation to get my product, that is how confident and unmoving they were.

Also there was this woman once who let her little boy run in continuous circles around me where ever I was going, all she said was "Dont do that" in a tired voice, and the boy seemed to know that he could do whatever he liked, the mother would not do anything to stop him...

anyway it is like Social Chitchat Central there, but I guess it is the country and noone is in a hurry so I cant really be upset for too long, it is just how it is there.

sinsboldy wrote:

Well....as much as I may feel like it at times, I don't "go off" on anyone regardless if it would be justified for me to do so or not. If that's the vibe I give off, i'm certainly not doing so intentionally. The only vibe I think I intentionally give off with my lack of eye contact, facial expression, etc....is a "I prefer to be left in peace" vibe. People, even strangers, have told me I look mad or angry plenty of times. I would be a liar if said I wasn't mad/angry about a whole lot of things. But i'm not mad at anyone in particular. Nonetheless, I realize most, if not all, people don't care if i'm mad, angry, sad, etc....and I certainly don't expect them to. And sure.....some of these same people might enjoy "tickling their fingers across my said button".

Even that doesn't bother me too much....obviously such "tickling" will not last long and i'll generally walk away from, or summarily ignore, anyone engaging in it. It doesn't matter to me whether people are "nice" or not. The way I see it....they have nothing to offer me and I have nothing to offer them. I can't even put it any plainer. I'd just as soon be left to my own thoughts and actions without needless small-talk or information I can just as easily gain from a book, the internet, etc..... Fortunately for me....my methods work most of the time I think. Most people probably can tell i'm not interested in having any social interaction with them whatsoever and they generally don't give me a second glance.

I am hyper-aware...painfully aware...of everything i've missed out on in life. I just don't consider socializing, friends and"significant others" among those things. I would be just as asocial as I am now if I were a multi-millionaire world traveler/adventurer with a PhD in psychology and all the talents/skills I desired, but don't possess. I know alot of people with ASD are unhappy with the fact they can't make friends (provided they're one of the ASD people who has problems in that area) easily and all that. That part of whatever is ultimately wrong with me just doesn't bother me much and it's the ONLY part that doesn't. It's hard to make some people understand that since even many on the spectrum are social creatures by nature. But in my case at least....it sort of comes with the territory and you can't really miss anything you didn't desire in the first place.

You say it's the old people who hold up the lift?

Be patronising as hell to them. When they press the hold button, explain patiently and kindly that that's not the button that makes the lift move....

Although, since they're pretty old, I'd be inclined to give them a break. You can't do a lot of things when you're old so I don't mind giving them some lee way, as long as they are not blatently obnoxious.

It's tourists that bug me (mainly Italians, sorry); they go around in groups of about 6- 10 people and often stop mid-pavement to have a conversation whith each other. You literally have to shove past them because they don't seem to hear or see anyone else.

LOL....I don't have the heart to do that. I grudgingly give them a break and the only time I wouldn't is if there was a truly urgent situation. I just come here to WP to vent my grudge

sorry if i was being overly prickly. living in hooterville makes me extra-sensitive to alphas exhorting their superiority, even if they are not alphas, especially if they are not alphas. when i see or hear of somebody, particularly in my own[working/lower] class espousing the posh concerns of the upper classes, it makes me feel like they are figuratively climbing the ladder of success and pulling it up behind them, leaving me down in the gutter all alone. but you have nothing to apologise for, as i was just being sensitive.