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Mysty
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12 Apr 2011, 7:41 am

Nurylon wrote:
Why must we grieve for our autistic loved ones? Or for ourselves if we are autistic? If you don't want your kids feeling sorry for themselves, don't feel sorry for them.


I can't see where anyone said we should.

Personally, I think we shouldn't, BUT, on the other hand, it's natural and normal to grieve the loss of expectations.

Edit to clarify: I mean the loss of the particular expectations one had. Or, rather, perhaps, the loss of the hope of their fulfillment.


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12 Apr 2011, 11:59 am

What silliness. With AS there are still expectations, just different ones. If one must grieve the loss of expectations for Aspies, it's only fair they do it for NTs too.



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12 Apr 2011, 12:06 pm

Nurylon wrote:
What silliness. With AS there are still expectations, just different ones. If one must grieve the loss of expectations for Aspies, it's only fair they do it for NTs too.


You misunderstand me. I mean the loss of the particular expectations one had. I certainly did not mean to imply that there are no expectations with AS. I don't even think it's possible to not have expectations.


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