What do you want to do and what's holding you back?

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So what have any of you actually been doing to combat these obstacles?

The only thing that's holding me back is that I don't know what I want to do.

I want to want nothing and desire holds me back.

I want to make the world better for people with disabilities and neurological minorities, especially children. My pipe dream is dismanteling the IEP system and replacing it with something that is actually designed to deal with what individual children need. The main things standing between me and those things are youth and lack of the requisite degrees. I am getting those as fast as I can.

-The learning difficulties I have. All/part of which are likely associated with the NLD/NVLD the cause/s of the NLD/NVLD syndrome.

-The memory problems I believe I have which may or may not be associated with the same.


-Financial limitations


-Problems with motor skills....particularily fine motor skills. This is one thing which makes it difficult, if not impossible, to become a better guitarist.


-Severe depression largely because of all the above.


-Severe anxiety largely because of all the above.


-Panic attacks and fears.


or.....my perception that these problems exists when they really don't in reality. I suppose it's possible I may've undeliberately exaggerated or even imagined my memory problems for example as I have no objective confirmation of them. All professionally-administered memory tests i've taken would suggest my memory is quite average and even substantially above-average/superior in some respects. The exceptional being visual memory which is often deficient in those with NLD/AS anyway. Still....it is entirely possible to have severe memory problems (especially when it comes to various aspects of long-term memory) which simply elude detection on the standard neuropsych memory tests. I currently have no access to any further tests of memory which might yield a objective confirmation of these memory problems I believe I have. All I can say is they seem very, very real (neurologically-based as opposed to something merely psychological) and they may be the most debilitating of all my issues.

I want to formalize my copyrights, locate a good printing co., locate stores that will distribute my products through consignment, create a website, and mass market and distribute my products nation wide. What holds me back is not having one or two other people to work with to help advocate and facilitate the process along.

I want to buy a grand piano but I'm held back by having only 5 dollars. Poor me.

1. I want to pass this semester and make it through to the next.

What's holding me back:
- My near total fail last semester due to all the stuff that happened around me - long story
- My very late withdrawal/technical fail of an intensive subject that finished early this semester - partly due to circumstances beyond my control and partly due to not taking action when I should of, but then it was too early to tell - it's very complicated
- My depression and lack of motivation
- Waiting for a diagnosis to give me greater support and allowances
- Lack of a desk/proper study space at home - long story, it's not about the financial cost

I'm taking action to reverse the technical fail so it appears as a withdrawal, I'm about to start anti-depressants and I'm improvising with an armchair, couch and bed but it's difficult when I don't even know if they'll reverse my technical fail. After failing my third subject in a row due to last semester I was identified as at risk and I don't want to be kicked out. I've got a part time position lined up at uni next year that requires me to be a student. I have to work my ass off not knowing whether it was worth it.

What I want: To show my darker personality.

What's holding me back: Fear that everyone won't like this.

I want a woman.

There are many things holding me back:

Career (or lack thereof)
My appearance
My poor social skills
My shallowness, I want someone much better looking than me.

The biggest blockade is mental anxiety even though have some college have always fought it.

@sport: Thanks for necrobumping this thread, really cool concept!


What I want: a girlfriend (preferably a fellow autistic/ND)

What’s holding me back:
-below-average (though not horrible) social skills
-reluctance to use facebook/twitter/instagram/social media in general, mostly due to security concerns
-lack of a large network of friends through which I could meet many new people
-the fact that I find alcohol disgusting and hate being in places where there is a lot of it
-COVID-19 social distancing rules and stay-at-home order in my state

What I was doing about it before the pandemic hit:
-asked my few friends about what connections they may have
-joined a local autistic meetup group
-had more planned but that’s on hold indefinitely due to COVID-19 and I’m depressed that It will probably be at least a whole year more before I can start working toward this goal thanks to the virus.