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marshall
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07 Sep 2010, 1:47 am

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So why add them as friends when they're just acquaintances? is what I want to know.

I don't show my acquaintances the pictures I took on my last trip or even tell them when my birthday is. In fact, I want them to stay as far away from my personal life as possible. Most people, I'm guessing, have the same attitude toward their acquaintances (hence the reason they're "acquaintances" and not "friends"). So why? is still what I want to know.

I just accept whoever sends me a friend request as long as I can vaguely remember them. I guess I just don't like the idea of rejecting people who request.

Most people don't put info they feel is confidential or highly private on their facebook profile. Having your page viewable to acquaintances is still a step better than having it completely public. I don't make my telephone number, email address, or street address visible to "friends" on facebook. If someone wants to contact me they have to message me.



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07 Sep 2010, 1:58 am

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It seems Im one of the only people who doesnt write mundane things like "off to work" every day.

It completely baffles me that people write such mundane crap on their FB page. Zzzzzzz.............

Small talk on a social networking site makes even less sense than small talk in person. At least in person there's an immediate response and the mundane statement might encourage the other person to share a more interesting related anecdote. I don't understand how people have the motivation to take even 30 seconds their time to write something like "sitting at my computer, watching the rain come down with a nice warm cup of tea" when it's probably going to be several hours before there's any response. It just strikes me as utterly mindless.



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07 Sep 2010, 3:10 am

menintights wrote:
So why add them as friends when they're just acquaintances? is what I want to know.

I don't show my acquaintances the pictures I took on my last trip or even tell them when my birthday is. In fact, I want them to stay as far away from my personal life as possible. Most people, I'm guessing, have the same attitude toward their acquaintances (hence the reason they're "acquaintances" and not "friends"). So why? is still what I want to know.


Well, there is not an option to 'add acquaintance'. It's generally understood that the term 'friend' on Facebook doesn't mean the same as what it means in real life. You can organise your 'friends' into groups though, which you label (although they don't see what you've labelled them as) and you can select whom you show various posts to.

For myself, I add acquaintances because they are my fellow students at college, and I'm doing a course where we have to do groupwork and network with each other, so it's the easiest way of keeping up with what's going on and contacting people, as I'm not so good at keeping up with them in real life. Before I started using Facebook, I often had no idea what was going on and what I was supposed to be doing for my course.

My acquaintances don't see all my photos. You can choose privacy settings for your photos, so that only certain friends can see them. I actually don't even post photos - I'm tagged in various photos that others have taken, but generally those photos have privacy settings so that only the other person's 'friends' can see them. And if I don't like a photo, I can untag myself and so it doesn't show on my profile.

You also don't have to display your birthday. I don't see Facebook as a place to publicly display all kinds of personal stuff, and the majority of people I know don't seem to use it this way either. People post superficial stuff - it's a way of keeping in superficial touch with people, and networking when you need to network. Or a way of seeing what people you used to know are up to - a sort of nosiness thing. I know a few people who use Facebook to 'stalk' people in this way.


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07 Sep 2010, 3:31 am

My sister convinced me to open an account so that she can communicate with me if she needs to. So I did, I opened one used my first and middle name, because there's no way I'm putting my surname on the internet, espeically when it's as uncommon as mine is. My profile picture is just a favourite symbol of mine and the only information I added was that I'm a male atheist.

I found it hard to trust the place with even that much information, to think that some people are willing to share their names, photographs, addresses, pretty much every last thing about them is amazing. I can't believe anybody could be so trusting.



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07 Sep 2010, 5:28 am

Avarice wrote:
I found it hard to trust the place with even that much information, to think that some people are willing to share their names, photographs, addresses, pretty much every last thing about them is amazing. I can't believe anybody could be so trusting.


We have stories every year that range from hilarious to mortifying where young people have uploaded profiles with details and pictures of things that they get up to, and their parents or school-teachers read them. Sometimes these things are no different from what the parents or teachers did at the same age, but become quite shocking when broadcast - Facebook pages of kids from my daughter's school have made national news a few times, and that is a religious girls' school.



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05 Apr 2011, 6:09 pm

Hating facebook, to me, is hating the ignorance and sheer stupidity of people. Nobody responds to a funny, wise comment; they only like stupid sh*t like "House is the best show EVAR."
Meh.



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05 Apr 2011, 7:31 pm

Hate it. Wish it would go away. But it's a useful tool for many people, so unfortunately it's not exactly on the way out. I just deactivated mine a week or so ago. Good thing I can always reactivate it if I really need it, but I doubt that's what'll happen. I was just sick of it existing showing everybody my total lack of friends. Plus I don't use it for anything.



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05 Apr 2011, 7:49 pm

EVERYONE ON THIS SITE EXCEPT ME!! !! !! !! !! !! !! But that is partly because I am too dumb to figure out anything about e-mail, except how to send, read and delete messages.


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05 Apr 2011, 8:00 pm

I dislike Facebook intensely. For that reason I refuse to participate and resist social pressure to do so.



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05 Apr 2011, 8:23 pm

I feel like some people have issues regarding Facebook. o.O I mean, hate is quite an emotion, especially in regards to a mere website... =/

For my part, yeah, i have an account and stuff, but i don't go check for stuff EVERY DAY. It's just something that i go check i'm bored and people might have interesting things to say. :o (I'm an anthropology student, so in a way, i am studying my friends. ^.- )



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05 Apr 2011, 9:30 pm

i like it because it shows how self absorbed and attention seeking many people are

i hate it because it reminds me how umimportant and unlikable i am



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05 Apr 2011, 10:48 pm

I dont hate it. But I have a small manageable friend group- 16.

I try not to get involved in any controversy on it, or debates, I just write niceties there.. I dont do a lot of status updates, and when I do I dont mind if noone replies.

I have my privacy settings high so no nosey busybody who knew me in the past can come sniffing around my page, only my friends can see my stuff, though friends of friends can see some newsfeed things...

Also I have written little about myself so even if someone was to look at my profile it would say little. The people I have friended already know me so there is no need to post a whole lot of info about myself on there.

I dont think it should be taken seriously anyway. I like it because it can tell me what people have been up to, and I can tell friends what I have been doing, but I dont want it to be anything else other than this.


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05 Apr 2011, 11:29 pm

zen_mistress wrote:
I dont hate it. But I have a small manageable friend group- 16.

I try not to get involved in any controversy on it, or debates, I just write niceties there.. I dont do a lot of status updates, and when I do I dont mind if noone replies.

I have my privacy settings high so no nosey busybody who knew me in the past can come sniffing around my page, only my friends can see my stuff, though friends of friends can see some newsfeed things...

Also I have written little about myself so even if someone was to look at my profile it would say little. The people I have friended already know me so there is no need to post a whole lot of info about myself on there.

I dont think it should be taken seriously anyway. I like it because it can tell me what people have been up to, and I can tell friends what I have been doing, but I dont want it to be anything else other than this.


That is mostly the same as me.


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