aspiesavant wrote:
Ichinin wrote:
Maybe it's an age thing?
I'm more inclined to think it's mostly context related.
Our behavior tend to be different depending on the context we're in : when we're among friends, among colleagues, with our spouse, with our kids.
Your true self is typically who you are among friends & family, but for some that may be but a minority of their waking life. And if you judge yourself by how you behave most of the time in such a situation, you may get a different result. But that would be a representation of a mask you're wearing and not your actual personality.
Possible, but in general i don't "wear a mask". The only time i limit myself is when i talk to customers at work. I've told managers to piss off (the kind of manager that the unions tear a new as*hole), i've called them incompetent (because they were) while pointing with the whole hand. I'm not afraid of anyone and a suit does not change that.
It someone thinks they are more important because they have a title or a suit, i could go and buy an Armani suit (i have the money, but i don't wan't one - you get the point).
The only thing i respect is
competence and experience. Not age, not title, not background or who you know. And yes, it has gotten me into trouble lots of times, but i am who i am and as i get older it gets harder to change oneself.
I used to be more meek when i was younger, after i worked for the government i'm a bit more assertive as i have gained experience and know that i can accomplish things and i also know how little others know and how much they spend on self-image.
Maybe that is why... i dunno, lets just say that my self confidence does not need any fuel. Probably why i went from P to J.
I found this page while googling difference between INTP vs INTJ, seems like you can go from a INTP to INTJ or vice versa - or maybe it just confirmation bias
https://personalityhacker.com/intp-vs-intj/
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