You're being rude!

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No, you didn't lay any more s**t on me at all. I just don't know how else to answer. I don't feel I need to change anything about myself is all. People are free to disagree. I just don't see it. Thanks for your input.

Stone thrower. What you said is total crap.

I don't despise you, but I also think you don't want to learn anything about yourself and how your occasionally poisonous comments affect people. Yes, I know you're autistic, but if the statements I cited were not intended to be sarcastic, then there was no reason to post them at all. You're not stupid, you know the OP isn't spokesperson for WP. Asking him if what you said was "too confusing" was clearly condescending. I just think you should take responsibility. In another thread you responded to a comment by auntblabby with "idiot!".That's not an opinion, that's an attack. An opinion is when you say " I disagree because" or " that offends me because". I know someone who's probably autistic (but extroverted) who is absolutely miserable. She was abused as a child and then placed in a foster home where she was abused again. She has every right to be angry. The problem is her anger drives good people away. She's preemptively rude and sarcastic and when people react she takes it as evidence that the world is a hostile place that's out to get her. Not really, they are just reacting to her rudeness. I say all this as someone who literally had to learn how to be happy. At lot of it is simply observing your thoughts dispassionately and determining whether they are really true or whether they are filtered through your own emotional bias. I don't despise you, I just think you are punishing people for your own unhappiness.

Your opinion is biased, based on your own prejudice, and has no relevance to me. It is just your opinion. When people condescend to others, sometimes I am moved to return a favor. End of story.

oh come on

What kind of discussion is this??? I'm not believing for a minute it was just innocent 'honesty'. There are more than enough statements made in this thread, name calling, crazy off he scale nasty comments and then attacks back.

Bla bla bla, you get what you give

Sometimes I can be critical. To many people, being critical is being rude, so perhaps I am. I tend to rationalize it by not making blatantly rude statements. If someone has a new hair cut and I don't find it flattering, I don't tell them what I think when they first get it because I know it needs time to grow out, then it won't matter what I think because the hair cut will be gone. So, I say, after it's grown out, "I think you look better with longer hair". To me, that's polite while being honest, but it is just my opinion. Other people might absolutely adore the hair cut.
Sometimes it's hard to tell what people will consider rude, so I stick with not being blatantly insulting. I don't tell people negative things about themselves and consider myself more polite than most because of this.

When you replied to the original poster, I thought you were being sarcastic.

But what happens if they ask you a question like "how do you like my new hair cut?" "How do you like this dress?" "Do I look good in this hat" and you had a negative opinion? What do you do about it? Do you lie and say you like it or refuse to answer the question?

Honestly people seem to have their own definition of rude and what is insulting. I just ignore it. My rule of thumb is if you don't like the answer, don't ask. I just say my true opinion just to piss them off because I hate it when they play those games.

I'm not denying that I was. Do we corner people and stone them, for being sarcastic on occasion? Just asking?

Luckily, people don't ask me those types of questions, most the time. To me, that kind of question itself is rude because it puts people on the spot. If someone did ask me about their hair cut I would tell them it looks fine even if I didn't like it because I know it would be pointless to tell them I think it looks horrible because they can't do much about a haircut once they have it. If the bangs are uneven or it's something that can be corrected, I might say, "Did the stylist miss something with your bangs, they don't look straight," then they can go and get it fixed.
If it's clothing, I might say, "it's not what I would wear but if you like it, great". I would never say "I hate that dress, you look fat and ugly in it." That is just not my style. Clothing is a little different because they aren't stuck with it. What if your friend is ecstatic over a new dress she's been thinking about buying and finally bought. Would you say it makes her look fat or squatty and ruin her happy mood, or would you try to perserve her happiness by saying "Yeah, I love it! You look awesome in it!" even if you don't think she does. It becomes a matter of which is more important, her having a happy time or you getting another opportunity to be brutally honest?

Whatever sarcasm I expressed was extremely mild and I'm not worried about it. There are always those who want to hate on someone in every group and be the first to point a finger or cast a stone. My language may come off stiff or hard sometimes but it's only because I have to work at it with language, but what I'm thinking and feeling is usually quite soft and amicable. If people want to take me as being stuck up in some way, which they have all my life, then so be it. I do the best I can like everyone and I also don't hide behind walls of verbiage or text doing so, either. If you see something hateful in me, it might be yourself and not the other.

Honestly I don't care how people look because it's their body and their clothes their money and if they ask for an opinion, they better accept criticism like "That dress doesn't look good on you" "it's doesn't go with your looks" and if they ask why, they better accept more criticism like "our butt looks big" "You look fat in it" "It shows your belly."

Why even bother asking? When I ask, I expect honest opinions but it's not going to make me change my clothes just so I look better unless it's tight or too small. If I think my shirt got tight or smaller on me, I ask and see if the person has the same opinion. In fact I got dressed yesterday and noticed one of my other shirts got tight on me because of my belly. It grew it why. I just took it off and put on something else. I didn't even ask my husband if it looked tight on me because I knew the answer.

I don't think I will ever get people fully. I call them weird creatures. Like my dad says "There are lot of strange people in the world" and even my mom has said people are so afraid of the truth and so afraid to upset someone they can't even be honest. Even she doesn't understand why they get so upset with my honesty and says they will get over it and it's their problem. They are just afraid of the truth. And she is NT.

I think maybe the reason why people lie is because they want to avoid a conflict so they lie but hey if someone were to get mad at me and got nasty with me because they didn't like my answer, I don't ever want to bother with them again nor ask one of those questions again from them. I would just say "I am not answering that because I know you only want to hear what you want to hear, not my honest opinion." I don't like taking crap from them. Sometimes I just want to piss them off by being honest because they asked for it.

Hey meadow, you were extremely rude and aggressive to me in the cat/dog poll thread this weekend.......I'll paste it here, as you just seem to be in denial about your put downs, rudeness and ugly disposition

Surfman: I'm studying toxoplasmosis at the moment..... Shocked


Meadow: That's a prime example of why animals make better companions than other humans. Because they're fracking douchebags and morons to be specific.

I then questioned your attack on me and got no reply from you

Surfman: Whats a prime example? I dont get your point sorry?


Meadow, I really feel you need to pull your head out of your ass. This thread has shown others reaching out tyou with kindness and talent, and all you have done is denied denied denied, gone on about doorsteps(turning things back on others) stone throwing(playing the victim)

Ugliness is its own reward. I'd like to be compassionate like others here who have just interacted with you, but you just attacked them so, go f**k yourself until you wake up to you ways and take response ability for your actions. Are you a child? You seem to act like a spoilt brat.

Some people do ask just for that honest opinion, while others ask because they are feeling insecure and want to be reassured. If you have a friend who you know is insecure, you might want to reassure her she looks good even if you don't like what she is wearing. That is their motivation for asking, they want to feel reassured.
I never ask people stuff like that because it is annoying. I never ask about my jeans, hair, etc. If they want to compliment, fine, but I don't seek out their input. It's not like I want to be on an episode of What Not To Wear.
If one of your friends says "Tell me what you honestly think" you should go ahead and tell but do it tactfully even if they tell you not to.

Apparently, you have a personal vendetta and axe to grind.

You made a personal attack on me.... called me a moron and douche bag.

I wont bother replying to your stupid rhetoric in future, life is too short

Stop being an as*hole