daydreamer84
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10 Jan 2013, 7:19 pm
League_Girl wrote:
daydreamer84 wrote:
League_Girl wrote:
I still watch kid shows. I still get excited like a child and I still prefer sweets. My husband says I am like a child just by my attitude and how I act and see the world. How I show my emotions. Plus my anxiety makes me act real childish when it happens. I even look like I am having tantrums when I am not. My husband has described them as a toddler having one. He will say I am like a child under age ten or like a toddler to my teens. Then I am like a grown up. Sometimes I will still buy toys and then I tend to not open them because they were vintage and never been opened. None of this has nothing to do with me being an adult baby but my husband likes to connect it to all that. My ex boyfriend did it as an insult and would put me down for it and acted like I was ret*d because of what I liked and my quirks and how I functioned.
Wow you are a lot like me......I also have the childish traits you described ( getting frustrated and upset in a childish way, buying toys (although I open them-I have a collection of dollar store stuffed animals) and watching preschool cartoons. Also I had an ex-husband who used to put me down for these things and call me ret*d. I'm glad you found a new and better husband now.
Mine never called me ret*d, he just said I was a baby and the tone he would say it in was different. I realize now it was a mocking voice. Plus he would say things like "You should have been playing that ten years ago" implying I am too old for it and it's something I should have been playing ten years ago and then have outgrown it. Even he thought lot of movies I had were childish and video games I had. Then he said he thinks I am a 24/7 adult baby and then he said I am 18/7 after I argued with him about it pointing out unchildish things I do. he just needed someone who was more mature than me is all so perhaps he needs a normal woman. Not someone who has autism or other disabilities that causes childish behavior or someone who isn't childlike. You don't need to have any disabilities to have childlike interests.
My husband will call me a baby or a little girl or a kid but he means it in a different way. He isn't mocking me when he says it. Sometimes he says he two kids. It was the same for my mother too. In our old neighborhood, some neighbors would tease her about having four children instead of three because of my dad. He is a bit immature too but he doesn't have autism. Also my husband isn't critical about what I do.
No I didn't mean your husband....I meant your ex-boyfriend who you said put you down (I know I didn't make that clear) sounds like my ex-husband but I'm glad you found a new man (husband ) ......someone who doesn't put you down like that....and that you had your kids with the new better one
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11 Jan 2013, 5:11 pm
daydreamer84 wrote:
League_Girl wrote:
daydreamer84 wrote:
League_Girl wrote:
I still watch kid shows. I still get excited like a child and I still prefer sweets. My husband says I am like a child just by my attitude and how I act and see the world. How I show my emotions. Plus my anxiety makes me act real childish when it happens. I even look like I am having tantrums when I am not. My husband has described them as a toddler having one. He will say I am like a child under age ten or like a toddler to my teens. Then I am like a grown up. Sometimes I will still buy toys and then I tend to not open them because they were vintage and never been opened. None of this has nothing to do with me being an adult baby but my husband likes to connect it to all that. My ex boyfriend did it as an insult and would put me down for it and acted like I was ret*d because of what I liked and my quirks and how I functioned.
Wow you are a lot like me......I also have the childish traits you described ( getting frustrated and upset in a childish way, buying toys (although I open them-I have a collection of dollar store stuffed animals) and watching preschool cartoons. Also I had an ex-husband who used to put me down for these things and call me ret*d. I'm glad you found a new and better husband now.
Mine never called me ret*d, he just said I was a baby and the tone he would say it in was different. I realize now it was a mocking voice. Plus he would say things like "You should have been playing that ten years ago" implying I am too old for it and it's something I should have been playing ten years ago and then have outgrown it. Even he thought lot of movies I had were childish and video games I had. Then he said he thinks I am a 24/7 adult baby and then he said I am 18/7 after I argued with him about it pointing out unchildish things I do. he just needed someone who was more mature than me is all so perhaps he needs a normal woman. Not someone who has autism or other disabilities that causes childish behavior or someone who isn't childlike. You don't need to have any disabilities to have childlike interests.
My husband will call me a baby or a little girl or a kid but he means it in a different way. He isn't mocking me when he says it. Sometimes he says he two kids. It was the same for my mother too. In our old neighborhood, some neighbors would tease her about having four children instead of three because of my dad. He is a bit immature too but he doesn't have autism. Also my husband isn't critical about what I do.
No I didn't mean your husband....I meant your ex-boyfriend who you said put you down (I know I didn't make that clear) sounds like my ex-husband but I'm glad you found a new man (husband ) ......someone who doesn't put you down like that....and that you had your kids with the new better one
I was talking about my ex boyfriend. He never called me ret*d like yours did. Instead he did the other things I already said like putting me down for things I liked. My husband is a great guy. It may seem hypocritical to some that I didn't like how my ex boyfriend would call me a baby or a kid for things I liked but yet when my husband does it, it doesn't bother me. But the difference is my husband isn't putting me down when he calls me that and he likes my quirks and all and my ex was when he did call me those and he didn't like my childish quirks and behavior because he felt he was with a child and didn't like it. Just like how I didn't like how my first ex boyfriend wanted to play his game all the time and never get off but yet my husband does the same and it doesn't bother me. The difference is my husband works and pays the bills and helps take care of our child and he helps me out so him playing his game is no problem. My ex on the other hand didn't want to work and he didn't really contribute to anything and he wanted to spend all his money on himself instead of on bills. That is also the difference. Sometimes it does feel like hypocrisy to me but when I think of the differences, then it's not so hypocritical anymore.
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19 Jan 2013, 9:44 am
rapidroy wrote:
last coulpe posts are perfect, I sometimes wonder why I do this and the best I have come up with is i'm using my child like traits to emotionly counter balance my behond my years traits(that can be very depressing), im I crazy? The thing is I never really was all that childish in meny ways when I was the age of one, nor did I ever relate to the other children.
too true, I never felt safe enough as a child to be a child, if that makes sense, now that I am older and out on my own in the world, I am just being who I want, who is finally the child I never got t be.
07 Oct 2017, 5:29 am
I also have Autism Spectrum Disorder and specifically High Functioning Asperger's Syndrome. I am incontinent and I can do most things myself although I have a great deal of difficulty with workplace social situations. Actually, all social situations are a tremendous challenge for me. I'm incontinent due to medical and psychological reasons, toileting is another tremendous problem I've had since I was a kid. I'm 42 now and I still feel like a child but with an IQ of 160ish.
I've been kicked out of preschool due to frustration and aggression. I've been fired 9 times from my jobs, been suspended twice, and I've quit my jobs (usually before I thought I would get fired) more then 30 times. Recently I physically attacked a co-worker because he was making fun of me and was fired. Due to all of those socially challenging situations, I had a heart attack when I was 34.
I am looking at getting an Autism support dog to help me manage unpredictable social situations but I'm unsure of how to handle this in a workplace situation. I may have to kibosh that whole idea because of my job. I have also thought about committing myself to a mental health hospital because I feel that I can no longer support myself reliably. My anxiety and depression have catapulted over the past year and I feel like I can barely hang on to my sanity.
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