Are Most Aspies Good With Babies/Kids or Not Like Them?

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I absolutely LOATHE children, ESPECIALLY babies. I plan to never have children. One of my biggest auditory sensory issues is babies crying, so this is one big reason I can't stand children. And most people who don't understand always say, "You'll change your mind about having kids," or "You were a kid once." I will NOT change my mind, and I hated kids when I was a kid myself- I couldn't stand my peers being so immature and caring about things like recess. I wanted to read books and learn. I have nothing in common with children.

I'm fine with kids (they like me because of my hair) but I don't like babies.

So, is it fair to say that most people with Asperger's Syndrome don't like babies or kids?

I have raised four children from babies, and the 1st one is now 18. I got a 15-year old to my family with my current wife. And another baby is on it's way. People have said I am a good parent.

And I have a doctor's statement that I am fit to be a parent. (Not many have one of those?)

Why did you get a statement

After my divorce, one of my children wanted to live with me and others to stay with their mother. The child welfare did not know, what this Asperger's Syndrome, that they knew I had, would actually mean, so they ordered me to get that statement, or they would not allow my child to live with me.

Yes, that was discrimination. But I chose not to make any legal issues over it. Instead, I took it with humor: how many other parents have such a statement?

as others have stated {to my dismay, oh JOY that someone else feels the way I do!} I do not like children, didn't even when I was one, and I am 43 and I don't have any of them, and I won't be having any of them and I have not for one nanosecond ever felt otherwise about it. I have no motherly instinct for human offspring. I knew before puberty that I didn't want to have children, and I always thought it was because I was the youngest of all the cousins and everything, so the older cousins were getting knocked up in high school, having to get married, then blathering on and on and on in VERY graphic detail the phyiscal developments of their pregnancy and delivery. YECH! gross. Why would ANYONE do that voluntarily? this is the 21st century, and all that nastiness can be avoided. I am too selfish with my time, and also, I think back to myself when I was 20... or thereabouts, and the jerk who was in my life, and I would NOT want to be eternally tied to him via dna. The jerks who may have impregnated me can thankfully remain in my PAST. Also, on a more compassionate note, life is hard. Why do that to some innocent kid who didn't ask to be born? I wish my own mother had been more considerate of me, in that regard.

Babies are Ok but kids are too unpredictable.

Then I'm selfish because I'm willing to torture my offspring merely by letting them to be born. How crude and pitiless I am. Oh yes, I'm selfish. I will suffer it, nevertheless... serves me right...

Why did nature have to give toddlers such loud horrible voices?!

I like babies. They're simple. They are either happy or not, and if they're not happy they're either hungry, messy, tired, or in pain. So, it's not complicated to understand the baby. The older they get, the more complicated they get, and the less I like them. The irrationality and complicatedness seems to peak in adolescence and decline slowly thereafter. I find it easiest to get along with children younger than 5, and the elderly.

I've never had kids and I never will! I like to collect a lot of kid-friendly items like toys, stuffed animals, and children's books, but to be around kids sends chills through my body! I can't stand the way they screech and cry and distract me from my shopping while their mother does absolutely nothing. One time I was at a store and these two kids were being really noisy and obnoxious for several minutes and suddenly I lost it and yelled "SHUT UP!! !" and then I ran out. I hate that human babies projectile vomit all over people when they least expect it, if they did it on me I'd probably throw the kid against the wall in a mindless state of horror. I hate all the germs and diseases kids can give you. Roaches, mosquitoes, and rats from medieval Europe can't compare to a human child's ability to spread pestilence! Teachers must be very brave. When I was younger I thought there was something wrong with me because everyone else would go "awwww" when they saw a baby but I didn't feel the same way. On the other hand, I really love baby animals. I even find reptiles and amphibians cute when they're small. I'll be sweet and nurturing to a baby animal even if it has an accident on me. I'll be oh well, I'll just go change my pants and put a towel on my lap next time. But if it were a kid I'd want to wear a haz-mat suit the next time! I also get along well with older people, when I was a kid myself I adored them, although I might never really visit a nursing home because I'd be afraid of germs and stuff.

I HATE babies. To preface that statement, I have extremely sensitive hearing and children crying makes my ears ring. Having said that, it never fails. I go to a restaurant, or movie, or a bookstore, and like clockwork there's always babies crying, making noise, and generally making my experience awful. And what's worse, the parent's just let them do it! And frankly, the parents infuriate me more than the children. When you're out with your kids, CONTROL THEM!! !

I am great with kids. I am trying to get a job at a schools(not teachering but I am a title one Para) But out in the world I shy away from kids. Talk to one wrong kid and you will be hunted as a pdeo(has not happened ut is a fear of mine)

I try to avoid children as much as humanly possible. They get on my every last nerve very quickly. People always say to me "Awww, you used to be a kid!", and my response is "Yeah, and I didn't like them back then either!"

^THIS^

Half of the reason I hate kids so much today is because of how kids treated me when I was a kid. I hated other kids when I was a kid and could never understand why I was expected to play and interact with them. They seemed to inferior to me.