13 Jul 2011, 1:13 pm
MotherKnowsBest wrote:
I tried to resist. Honestly I did. But in the end I posted a comment highlighting the attitudes being portrayed and sarcasticly asking them whether this is the level of compassion they show to all people with disabilities.
One poster, who hadn't actually said anything unpleasant, immediately apologised for any offense she may have caused (she hadn't) and asked me some questions about how lonely and isolating it feels to be autistic and have people take these negative attitudes. So I explained some of the frustrations of aspieness, like sudden ending of friendships and not knowing why, of being in trouble for answering a question because you didn't know that you're not supposed to answer honestly and suchlike.
Then another poster promptly tells me that what I say is rubbish. She knows far more about autism than I do because she's a teacher and has had autistic children in her class. And then everyone starts asking her about autism in adults and completely ignoring me, the only autistic adult in the house.
I swear to god, we're not the weird ones. We're just the minority.
One poster, who hadn't actually said anything unpleasant, immediately apologised for any offense she may have caused (she hadn't) and asked me some questions about how lonely and isolating it feels to be autistic and have people take these negative attitudes. So I explained some of the frustrations of aspieness, like sudden ending of friendships and not knowing why, of being in trouble for answering a question because you didn't know that you're not supposed to answer honestly and suchlike.
Then another poster promptly tells me that what I say is rubbish. She knows far more about autism than I do because she's a teacher and has had autistic children in her class. And then everyone starts asking her about autism in adults and completely ignoring me, the only autistic adult in the house.
I swear to god, we're not the weird ones. We're just the minority.
This is why I don't do mom forums anymore. None of them are interested in truth... just what makes them feel good.
Honestly, people seem to think we can't speak for ourselves. That we're incapable of it.
13 Jul 2011, 1:39 pm
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13 Jul 2011, 1:53 pm
13 Jul 2011, 1:54 pm
MotherKnowsBest wrote:
I tried to resist. Honestly I did. But in the end I posted a comment highlighting the attitudes being portrayed and sarcasticly asking them whether this is the level of compassion they show to all people with disabilities.
One poster, who hadn't actually said anything unpleasant, immediately apologised for any offense she may have caused (she hadn't) and asked me some questions about how lonely and isolating it feels to be autistic and have people take these negative attitudes. So I explained some of the frustrations of aspieness, like sudden ending of friendships and not knowing why, of being in trouble for answering a question because you didn't know that you're not supposed to answer honestly and suchlike.
Then another poster promptly tells me that what I say is rubbish. She knows far more about autism than I do because she's a teacher and has had autistic children in her class. And then everyone starts asking her about autism in adults and completely ignoring me, the only autistic adult in the house.
I swear to god, we're not the weird ones. We're just the minority.
One poster, who hadn't actually said anything unpleasant, immediately apologised for any offense she may have caused (she hadn't) and asked me some questions about how lonely and isolating it feels to be autistic and have people take these negative attitudes. So I explained some of the frustrations of aspieness, like sudden ending of friendships and not knowing why, of being in trouble for answering a question because you didn't know that you're not supposed to answer honestly and suchlike.
Then another poster promptly tells me that what I say is rubbish. She knows far more about autism than I do because she's a teacher and has had autistic children in her class. And then everyone starts asking her about autism in adults and completely ignoring me, the only autistic adult in the house.
I swear to god, we're not the weird ones. We're just the minority.
I've met people who claimed to know the most about autism for having autistic children in their classroom who actually had no empathy for autistics and didn't really know that much about autism.
Getting frustrated at parents who demand bullies being held accountable for their actions after repeated bullying of their autistic child.
Oh yes just being around someone with autism in a classroom setting minus not actually having experience beyond that with autism doesn't not mean you understand autism.
13 Jul 2011, 2:17 pm
13 Jul 2011, 9:44 pm
15 Jul 2011, 5:05 am
15 Jul 2011, 5:43 am
TheygoMew wrote:
I've met people who claimed to know the most about autism for having autistic children in their classroom who actually had no empathy for autistics and didn't really know that much about autism.
Getting frustrated at parents who demand bullies being held accountable for their actions after repeated bullying of their autistic child.
Oh yes just being around someone with autism in a classroom setting minus not actually having experience beyond that with autism doesn't not mean you understand autism.
Getting frustrated at parents who demand bullies being held accountable for their actions after repeated bullying of their autistic child.
Oh yes just being around someone with autism in a classroom setting minus not actually having experience beyond that with autism doesn't not mean you understand autism.
Similarly to this, I have two friends, one of whom works with Autistic people and one of whom has someone with AS working in their office. According to both of them, I don't have AS. Neither is a doctor
. They were both really put out when I got the official diagnosis. 
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15 Jul 2011, 5:51 am
15 Jul 2011, 6:21 am
*Gives yellowbanana a hug*
I hear you and utterly sympathise 
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I have a friend who's ignoring me right now because he thinks I'm selfish .
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