NT girls and their not so engrossing talk!

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I don't know....there are some things that I have in common with people under 30, and some things I have in common with people over 50 (people in between can be a mixture). I would rather look for trendy clothes from proper clothes shops, rather than second hand clothes from charity shops, (which is one thing I have in common with youngsters). Although I don't go over the top with fashion like some girls do, I still like to look trendy, and my clothes are fashionable and look nice on me.

I just don't speak like teenagers and youngsters do. I talk more like a middle-aged or elderly person.

[quote="serenity"] It's not the topics that bother me as much as they don't ever seem to delve deep into any one topic, but just skim over them with the depth going no further than just a superficial way. There's no substance and they all agree, which seems important to them. They don't discuss anything really, is what I guess I'm trying to say. When I talk it's to share information and learn something. They do it for different social purposes that I don't get. I don't mind discussing relationships with other women, or what store has a better price in jeans that come in my size ect... but there had better be a purpose for the talking or I don't get why I'm talking in the first place.[\quote]

Yeah, it took me a while to figure out that most NT girl conversations revolve in trying to agree with each other and form an emotional bond. For me it does nothing, I find the pointless agreeing and withholding your true opinion stupid. I tend to discuss things for the sake of exchanging information, for me, that leads to bonding with someone. But then, I do like to discuss the same thing NT girls do like to discuss.

One thing I find funny is when some of them complain to me about what they find annoying that guys do and I do the same thing. Im thinking, ehh why are u talking to me about this.

But I think in the end, NT girls are different then us for the most part. So thats why this thread is mostly revolved around bitching about NT girls.

Payback time

Hooray! Hooray! Someone's noticed that people are different! HOORAY!

Everyone puts on a show, quite frankly my mum is as stupid as half a block of cheese...one time the BBC did a documentary about the spaghetti forests and how it was farmed for an Aprils fools joke...she actually started dating my dad with how she actually could cook and the method they used to farm pasta...ffs.

I can be gullible and not have much chance to see a jest but honestly, she is supposed to have more sense.

As to the overall topic, I think everyone is this, everyone puts on a ridiculous show and is terrified of letting others see the truth, which is why we have films such as Keeping Up With The Joneses.

My brother is up to his eyeballs in debt, he bought a house for so much money when he couldn't even afford his previous one to show to the world how successful he is...you are supposed to buy a house based on 3 year earnings roughly, not 10 year earnings.

If everyone puts on a show, then why wouldn't they take aspie seriously who says "I forgot to put on a show, but now I remember; please give me a chance to put on a show that I should have put before but didn't".

you're right its annoying, but I can have some fun with it sometimes.

I can play extremely engaged in stupid stuff and have a problem holding back my laughter when the girls respond totally seriously in the same way. Its a live comedy for me and a normal everyday situation for others. Sometimes I manage to talk to people about the easiest problem in the world, expressed in multiple different versions = no new information since 5 minutes. Im almost exploding because its just funny. Just sad Im not allowed to laugh.

I had met an NT girl at school who I grew really attached to. I thought we were very good friends. This happens very infrequently with me for ANY people, let alone NTs. She seemed different though. We had a lot in common when we first met, we were close in age, in the same program at school (so very similar schedules), and she was looking for friends who were not into partying (she was trying to get away from that kind of thing), and she was just so non-judgemental that I found her really easy to talk to. Even my closest friends I cannot talk to as easily as I could with her.

Then, she started hanging around with a new group of people who were "cool", more "popular", and more into partying...just like the types of people she used to hang out with. Our conversations became more and more one-sided on her part as I no longer knew how to relate to her....everything was focused on boys, parties, and all the other NT topics I know nothing about. I felt more and more isolated, when all of a sudden, I realized we didn't really have a friendship anymore. I had been the only one making contact (something I never do for other people) for a couple months. Once, when it was her "turn" to contact me and I decided to just wait and see how long it would take to hear from her instead of sending her another message. This experiment began in November 2010 and I still have not heard from her. I guess she didn't value our friendship as much as I did. I simply don't know how to relate to typical NTs. I knew she was NT, but I thought she was different....

There's one such woman who volunteers at the soup kitchen who's in her 50s and she's like that. One day she said, "Something embarrassing happened to me last week. I was looking all over for my keys and it took me an hour and a half. My husband found them on the table beside the couch. It was so embarrassing."

Do you want to know embarrassing? Try having bowel issues and needing disposable underpants. That's embarrassing! I'm losing weight hoping to eliminate that problem.

I find I can understand men better than women I find they are less complicated. I dont understand gossip or fashion and I find listening to endless hours about makeup, clothes and bad mouthing other friends boring and I usually goto sleep. With talking to men at least I can have a decent conversation about different topics and talk about cars,movies, science fiction, remote control cars, planes, football and computer games.

LMFAO!! ! I L aughed so hard I was afraid that I was about it pass out from not breathing

Anyway, I heard this conversation when I was in high school and NEVER forgot it

One girl asked the other girl...so do you LIKE him??
"Well I like him, but not like LIKE like him like that. but just kinda LIKE him like that."


WTF!! And I am supposed to be the one with a communication problem!
LIKE- the NT tween all-purpose verb

Honestly, even men have problems understanding women in general. No offense to everyone here.

This is what NT men have told me they know about NT women.

Those definitely sound like NT girls.

You need to find yourself some NT women.

I am a female with AS and I can tell you I only ever socialised with mature boys, men or tomboy girls. I really cannot get along with girls who gossip about cr*p. And the magazines they read (Closer, Heat, Pick Me Up etc) are deplorable! My dad and I looked through one together once and we were disgusted to see the rubbish in those magazines.

And as for fashion and make-up, yeah its ok if they want to look good, but they take it to the extreme! Having fashion "sessions", dressing up in weird clothes and prancing around them.

I have a few NT females as facebook friends and I agree. they either talk about babies (which I don't want to have) or how they can never find the right guy whilst being very selective about who they date based on superficial judgements. makes me want to throw a brick in their face.