You look average, autistic people look ugly or ret*d...

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I've been told something similar by someone before. I said, ''I am on the Autism spectrum and I also have Dyspraxia'', and they said, ''oh no you haven't got that - you have to have different facial and body features to have that'', and I said, ''no, you're thinking of Down's Syndrome'', but they wouldn't have it.

I'd say there's an insult and a compliment thrown in there. The insult is ''OK you must just think I'm weird then'' and the compliment is ''well at least I'm average-looking and nothing on me looks physically obvious''.

I think people confuse autism with Down Syndrome. https://www.google.com/search?q=down+sy ... 80&bih=673

Down Syndrome has facial characteristics which are very distinct and different from NT people and us with Autism & Asperger's. When anyone brings up the "look" of autism, I usually find out that this person thinks Autism & Down Syndrome is the same thing, which of course is about like saying that a grapefruit and a grape are the same thing.

Even the far end of the Autism spectrum has no facial characteristics, other than the loss of "NT" eye contact, etc.

Charles

Or maybe they can't filter themselves to a clear picture.

Pfft yeah some aspies(or perhaps autistics) do look just alittle bit different. But the majority looks perfectly normal. I look handsome...or so ive been told.

I tend to think there is something too that, we are used to seeing people embracing the conventional style and we would probably not find someone beautiful quite so attractive if they suddenly showed up wearing an outfit from a completely different historical period or culture. Now I am so used to seeing women in those low waistline hip hugger Britanny Spears look jeans that when I look at otherwise hot chicks in photos from the early 90s wearing high rise jeans it just looks all wrong. People with AS are more likely to be non conformists or be oblivious to fashion and could very well not appear as attractive as they would be if they let some Hollywood wardrobe experts dress them in the latest styles. I myself have recently figured this out and when I went in to buy a suit, let the old gay guy who ran the place choose the color and style for me. With my instincts, up to my own, I might have very well come out of the place wearing a Zoot Suite. I'm sure he knows better than I do what normal people want to see me in.

Don't forget too, that ret*ds and people in crazy houses all get basic, low maintenance military style haircuts from the staff. I doubt they get Versace wardrobes as well. There was a cheapskate at a place I worked whose wife just buzzed most of his hair off at home to save money, all the people remarked how he had a "mental institution" haircut.

eh where did they get those facts from?

we look like anyone else, we look human for god sake. i know some illnesses cause outward feature changes but not all. that's a stereotype obviously.

the only thing that really stands out is eye contact for us. we avoid eye contact. but that's part of the mental area.

if i start going werewolf or something then they can freak out. but yeah we look like anyone else.

and i agree beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

I don't know of any facial characteristics that people with ASD/AS have. I don't think there are any.

The only thing I can think of that might be identifying would be that in many of the pictures I've seen of boys with classic autism the boys appear to be overweight, not hugely obese, just chunky, and they have a short buzz cut.

Then again, I've seen more than my share of NT kids who were exactly the same. Up until they were about 12 or 13 I used to buzz my boys hair at home, and my oldest was overweight at that age. So, it's not exactly an identifying thing.

Maybe the OP's friend had just seen several people who also had something else going on as well as AS/ASD.

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I think it's not our faces that make NT's think we are ugly but simply the way that we move them because awkward = ugly to many NT's.