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mglosenger
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09 Jan 2012, 2:21 am

I used to try and cover up for my ignorance about whatever topic someone else had just raised.. However, this always resulted in me either looking like a pointless smartass or dumb, and I can't explain on any level why I ever felt threatened by the idea that I didn't know something, and so I don't do it anymore. It was a self-destructive technique on every level.



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09 Jan 2012, 2:44 am

dianthus wrote:
ediself wrote:
Yes but that works both ways, sometimes as I'm explaining something to someone, my hearing shifts, as if I stop talking and start listening to what I say as if I suddently am transported in their shoes, and I realize I'm not being heard or understood one bit, I'm background noise. It irritates me so much but I know I'm not wrong or suffering hallucinations when it happens, if I stop talking right then and there and ask the person to repeat what I've been saying, they'll make up something at random, basically I had faded out of their consciousness.
So the communication issues go both ways.


That happens to me too! It will feel like my voice suddenly sounds different. And I usually lose my train of thought when it happens. It's as if the words only come to my mind when the other person is ready to hear them.

yes yes! I'm not alone! :P
I find myself sounding like "blablabla" and I can't follow what I'm saying :lol: It's hilarious written down but I wonder where that comes from....
edit: and absolutely: I end up finding something "audible" to say, but generally it means giving up on explaining something important.
I had the same thing with my son , as he was growing up, he has some auditory processing disorders for sure, and I just knew when what I said meant nothing to him, or when other people where talking to him in a way that he couldn't possibly decipher, and when I told them "he can't understand that...." they'd ask me if I thought he was ret*d or something in a "joking" manner, none of them knew they were making no sense at all to him.
We need a new thread for this but I don't know how to word the title :?


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09 Jan 2012, 2:46 am

ediself wrote:
yes yes! I'm not alone! :P
I find myself sounding like "blablabla" and I can't follow what I'm saying :lol: It's hilarious written down but I wonder where that comes from....


Yeah I know what you mean! It will be like I suddenly don't even make sense to my own self.



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09 Jan 2012, 2:52 am

Oops I took too long editing I didn't know you would reply :)


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09 Jan 2012, 7:09 am

sometimes if you dont understand you can repeate back a bad interpritarion of what they said.
"you mean like xyz" and they will explain it better that if you just ask. sometimes they wont stop.