Do aspies want friends or not?

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I would like some friends as long they share a similar interest to what i have then i am happy.

I want friends and I have three good friends that I enjoy having fun with.

They come in handy for two player games.

I didn't want friends as a kid - because I didn't know what friends were (I just knew the word) and I didn't know you could want them or get them.

Later on, other children and even later, others teens too wanted to be my friend. I've always been a magnet for people.

They approached me, talked to me and before a full week concluded, they all but one grew angry and upset at me for being... me. I assume they couldn't handle that I hardly talked back, never asked them about them or commented on what they said and perhaps they might have been weirded out by stims and grew annoyed with my hyperactivity (at least those who liked to sit around instead of initiating active play).

Nowadays, friends are fun and they have been fun since I turned 16-17. I very much enjoy having them.

They mostly accept my quirks too, most know of my ADHD, some know about the ASD.

I'm not sure how I feel about getting to know new friends at new places. More people to talk to... I might pass.

I also have heightened senses like you describe and not anything you'd really ESP but maybe an extreme sense of emotional empathy.

I never wanted to make friends until I was 22. I have one good friend now who I continually piss off without realising but she still likes me for some reason. I have a few other people that I rarely see too. They see me as a friend but I'm finding it hard to. I hardly ever see them.

I don't wish for any new friends.

I know some people in bands I wish I knew more but that's about it.

I don't want to be in a relationship. Done that. Wasn't really for me.

I feel conflicted about it. On the one hand, I'm alright on my own. I need a lot of time to myself anyway, so the fact that I really don't talk to anyone besides the cashiers when I buy my groceries weekly and my mom every so often when she checks up on me doesn't really bother me. I'm not overjoyed about it, but I wouldn't say I'm lonely. I've been much more lonely when I've been surrounded by people I couldn't connect with, which is pretty much the source of my problem. I did have a group of people I hung out with in high school, but I don't know if "friends" would be the right word to describe our relationship. They were just people I sat with at lunch and listened to them chat so I could blend in better. At my school, loners weren't bullied, exactly, but they were definitely pitied, and I didn't want that. I only considered two of them friends and they were both at different times, and the actual friendship only lasted a few months before we went back to being casual acquaintances or lost touch all together. I did mourn both of those losses, probably because I rarely make friends, but it was somewhat unpleasant for me at best and was incredibly stressful and depressing at worst. Not to mention, it takes quite a bit of effort for me to even approach a group of people let alone be accepted by them. In my opinion, that process isn't worth it on the incredibly unlikely chance I'll connect with someone, so, yes, I would like to have someone I could confide in, trust, and talk with, but I don't see it happening any time soon so there's no use in complaining about it. Though I have to admit, TV and books sure gave me unrealistic friend expectations. Kidding, kind of.

I personally do not desire friends. Although I love having my family around---I can relax with my family. But other people tend to get in the way of my world of interests that so drives me. I feel relieved when I can absorb into my interests. My interests are my friends.

I do. I've had trouble making and keeping friends my whole life and most of the ones I have been friends with turn out to be backstabbing losers.

Now that I think about it, I do want friends...just ones that aren't human. My bearded dragon is my best friend. As a kid, I never wanted friends becuase my stuffed animals and other toys basicaly filled that void. My bearded dragon, special intrests and art supplies basicaly fill that void today.

I like the idea of friends, but the reality has never matched the idea.

I have rejected going to quite a few parties and such, lately the only times I've done something with a friend was where I felt bad for them.

So no. Trying to get a friend and failing is pathetic. (I've been their)

This is the most useful site for people with autism. I have found so much information and common traits between all of us. I always had problems making friends.

Last friends i had other then 2 have vanished, and many never explained or would explain why no more friendships. In short many decided they didnt want to know me and some vanished with my MS diagnosis which doesnt help mental probs. I am very lonely and almost the only thing i get are text, i dont skype would love an occaisional phone call, no point to even having cell phone when no one calls