What grades in school were the hardest socially?

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To be fair, I think that upper elementary school (5th grade in particular) was as difficult as middle school, but I became more aware/cared more about my difficulties in middle school.

There should be a choice for 1-12.

id say elementary, middle school and high school were better because i wasn't really expected to do everything and go everywhere with the class plus middle and high schools have libraries, and books are basically a godsend in loud annoying places like that. and librarians and teachers are so nice if you're quiet and don't cause problems, by the end of the year i was usually on a first name basis with the library staff.
elementary you're expected to do everything everybody else does and they kept giving me hearing tests despite my explanation that i was reading a book and didn't hear them. also little kids are demons frankly people less than 30 or so still make me nervous

Mine were progressively worse as I got older. Seventh grade was pretty difficult because we moved halfway across the country. I had a hard time making new friends, and everyone picked on my accent.

For me, it was 3rd, 4th grade where tough years. In 3rd grade, I went to an all girls school and that was a really bad idea. In 4th grade i transitioned back into co-ed and was bullied my first yr. Things recovered a bit by 5th and 6th. Things went downhill by 7th grade. I was in completely social isolation between 7th -11th grade. I had a hard time deciding which option to pick. I picked early HS because I was the most isolated during those yrs.

Ages 5-7 (before I got my diagnosis) and ages 11-12 (moving to secondary school- I was put in a class with lots of people from my primary, but they shunned me, and some of the new friends I made weren't very nice) were the hardest. From 7-11 and 13-18 I had fairly settled sets of friends who I liked and got on well with.

Lower high school.

In elementary school I was so young that I wasn't very aware of myself in some ways, which helped me, because when I did become more aware, I had already gotten to know the other children more. Even at that age I seldom knew what to say, but we could play and that helped a great deal. In junior high the majority of the class was from my old elementary school so I knew most of them already and were comfortable with them, and the rest I got to know while there. We were still young enough to be somewhat playful and kidding around a lot, and that helped too.

In high school I didn't know anyone. And we were too old to play (well, there were some water war games, but that came later when we knew each other better), so it was much harder to get to know anyone. Having little to say + No common activity + No common back ground = A hard time getting to know people. The first two times I didn't at all, because I quit after about 2 months (and I skipped a lot of school in that time).

The absolute worst years were 9th and 10th grade, due to relentless bullying. This then strangely stopped at the end of 10th grade, never known why but much relieved, so all that came after it was much more bearable. I still was way behind in social and emotional development compared to my classmates, though. Still am. I am 45, but I rather feel like I'm in my late twenties. When I was supposed to be in my teens and getting interested in boys, I was still playing with dolls. That sort of thing doesn't help in fitting in a classroom.

I'm voting lower elementary - solely because I was put into Special ED all day over in 5th grade. I stopped doing all-day classes once I hit 9th, and my high school social stuff has been fairly easy ;p

I absolutely hated grade 9 (in Canada grade 9 is a senior in junior high school). I was getting picked on, my social group of two added two more people (one was a jerk and the other was the korean exchange girl I was crushing on), the jerk was one of the people who picked on me, I got paranoid over how the jerk was trying to steal my friends, my grandmother got hit by a taxi and suffered big injuries and the KEG thought of me as a creepy stalker and went back to south korea never forgiving me.

After high school started, the bullying pretty much stopped except one week once a year except senior year.

The two years before grade 9 were sorta tough, I had just been officially diagnosed with AS and it was alot to deal with. I also screwed over getting kissed by a really pretty girl in grade 8 and in my senior year of high school my friends ditched me most lunch breaks so they could eat at another friend's house. I don't know why they did that.

Then again my elementary school years kinda sucked too, I learned by grade four I was two math grades behind everyone else. I did like remedial math alot but math really sucked.

Grades 4-9 were horrible. I liked the other kids around me but had no idea how to relate to them. I felt way too different during this time because the emphasis during these grades was on fitting in. I wanted to fit in but had no idea where to start, so I avoided and isolated myself from the other kids.

7-8grades were the worst. I was seen as easy pickings for the bullies, plus it was in vogue for the cool kids to treat me like a pariah. So much that if anyone was caught being nice with me, they would slso be subject to the same treatment.

On the oyher end, I was pressured by adults to make friends in this peer group and was deemed to fail to meet expections when I couldn't. I was struggling to survive, much less trying to befriend anyone in that group whose intent was to torture me

it depends by what you mean hardest there were someyears i had afew freinds yet was heavily bullied there were others that where i wasnt bullied but i didnt really have any friends i was pretty much isolated which would be considered harder?

Tough one as I've never felt like I had any serious problems, but probably early secondary school (age 11-13) as I've had to adjust to a new school and environment and suffered a little bullying. I also remember not making many new friends then but at that time it didn't matter a lot to me. Whereas at some times in university I've been making more friends than I ever have and still felt like it wasn't enough, still wanting more.

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Middle school. That's when I started shutting myself out from my friends. Ninth grade was also pretty bad, but I joined marching band so things started looking up from there.