Do people laugh at you when you get angry?

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I thought it said somewhere that people are not supposed to laugh at someone who is angry? How come it's socially acceptable for NTs to break social rules, but if an Aspie done exactly that (laughing at an NT who is angry), the Aspie will be hated and considered rude, inconsiderate and unempathetic?

Gets my vote. In 33 years living in and around NT's and trying to be one I still fail to understand why they do half the stuff they do. They might not obsess over microbes but ask them who won big brother and you get a 10 min lecture (even worse watching them freak when they realise there missing it) and these are intelligent rational people who are normal?

PS don't mention shoes, lived with a girl at uni she needed a spare room for her shoe collection, who needs 12 pairs of trainers and 7 types of boot (couldn't count the high heels etc too many). She had more shoes than I had books.

P.P.S. was told that a person laughed at me when I got angry was that I come across as over exaggerated like I was part joking and he didn't take me in as a threat, didn't trigger his (or my friends) natural subconscious threat responses. Even after knowing me for 5 years my mate was surprised that I was that angry (he's a veteran prison warden).

Last edited by DrPenguin on 18 Jul 2012, 1:48 pm, edited 1 time in total.

That's exactly what I'D like to know!

An NT wouldn't think of it in such a rigid manner the rules change with the situation a friend laughing when I got mad over something daft is one thing, but the guy who laughed at me when I got angry at him hurting an animal had 270lb of the same NT friend grab him and told him that he should be more polite and demonstrated what he was doing to the animal hurt literally (my mate stopped me punching him as he knows hurting anything even that prat would bother me later).

I was actually just discussing the possibility that I might have AS with a lady in a chat room this morning, and she asked me to describe a trait that would lead me to believe this. I told her that one time I was trying to clean my living room and I was interrupted...so I had a melt down and broke my coffee table and fractured my wrist in the process. She LOL'd and told me that she was really laughing out loud. I soooo didn't get it, what's so funny about that? I had no idea how to respond because I'm so new to all of this, so I just said "well, I'm out of a table now"....but I felt like reaching through her computer screen and ringing her neck.Seriously, why would ANYONE think that something like that is funny?

Couldn't have said this better myself.

I definitely agree with this - some people just think its funny to get a reaction out of us and find it funny, but in reality it's cruel. Dont listen to that person if they upset you they ain't happy themselves, excuse my language but I been around and had his happen to me too and I have two children, and probably more experience than you (not trying to offend), but excuse my language "f**k them" they ain't worth your time and hang around more positive people that understand and accept you, care and that don't want to push your buttons that's what people have told me, it ain't worth your time. I'm 24, have aspergers, bipolar ADHD and anxiety and people use to get a reaction out of me a few years ago but not anymore I've learned to laugh at them and it really pees them off in return by standing up for myself and them knowing their words didn't hurt me anymore. (:

During my elementary and middle school years, I would publicly get angry whenever people teased me or whenever I made a mistake. In response to my anger, a bunch of would laugh at me. The laughter caused me to become much angrier and cry.

They used to do that when I was a kid, but not so much anymore. The only one who does that to me now is my mom. And she wonders why I get upset with her.

In my school years people run away when I got angry

Now, when I'm much, much older, it's not so bad, but still no one dares to laugh

Yes this happens to me very often. Although I'm not sure it's a spectrum thing, but maybe emotions not being taken seriously is.

I've been laughed at in the street because of being angry. I remember when I got on the bus one Saturday morning, all the seats were already filled up and it wasn't even out of the second town on the route yet, so I had to stand up, which I wasn't very happy about, and I showed that I wasn't happy by glaring at everyone who was sitting down and standing all stiffly, giving off an obvious expression that I was feeling angry about having to stand up. Then when I got off, I saw some of the people staring out of the windows at me and smirking, as though they thought me being angry about having to stand up was hilarious.

Also I remember another similar situation to this, when I got on the bus with my mum. It was hot, and there were loads of people on the bus again, and we both looked a bit annoyed as we stood up, then when we got off I heard a snigger from somebody, and I looked up to see a man with a grimace and was staring at me then at my mum. I felt like yelling, ''it's not that funny!''

My mom said this and she’s probably right. They laugh because they’re nervous, but still. They should just be quiet and try to be empathetic. Humans. They’re strange.

I have before, It just pisses me off even more. I just had a flashback to this one time many years ago, I feel embarrassed and angry about it at the same time. It seems more so, people are afraid or think I'm going to do something violent(total BS). In fact, some as*hole at work years ago, made up some rumor that I was plotting something. I got drug into the office and questioned. Nothing came of it but it became a joke I was going to go off one day and I was going to be the next mass shooter. I'm still mad about that.

No.
Both because I can conceal a lot of anger and because no matter how much someone resembles Donald Duck, if they're also a physical hazard people try to back away.

Donald Duck is funny.
Donald Duck swinging a chain or a broken chair leg is a threat and will probably burn himself out in a half hour or less.



I'd laugh at younger me, but only from a safe distance.

No they don't usually laugh. The problem I've had is that people can get upset about my showing anger, and as I don't want to upset them, I end up feeling guilty for it. I also end up wishing they'd get a grip and accept that there's nothing wrong with me being angry as such, as long as I don't get hostile and destructive into the bargain, and I don't. I see it as unhealthy to over-react to anger, I think it forces people to bottle it, and I don't think it goes away, I think it comes out later in worse ways than it would have done if they'd just let it happen. Me, I don't usually get very upset if somebody gets angry. True, it can feel a little unnerving, but that's not so awful. Having said that, it's not a problem I've experienced for a year or two.