NT's - Why do you come to this site?

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I think it is beneficial and important for NTs to come here, as they can learn something more about us.

ASD and AS are not things you can just describe, and there is no simulator that can allow NTs to experience being an Aspie. You just have to spend time with this kind of people and get to know them. Then, you will hopefully begin to understand, even if only a little.

I don't think NTs really have to "understand" us. Not directly anyhow.

What they have to learn really just boils down to flexibility--being able to understand that other people are not necessarily like themselves, and that the usual assumptions may or may not apply; being able to drop those assumptions and gather information about somebody instead of trying to fit them into pre-made patterns.

Once an NT understands that, their natural facility with connecting with others comes into play, and things are about as good as they can be between any two human beings.

I signed up to learn more about ASD so that I can help my 3 yo son. My husband has 2 family members on his mother and father's side who were severly affected by autism. They are in their 40s now. I don't know if they had received better help back then things would have been better for them (they are both mute) but I want to make sure that I give my son every chance to reach his potential.

So now, I read stories about people with ASD and what work and what didn't work for them. I ask questions, so that I can put myself in my son's shoes, and I try to approach my son with an open mind. I learned I have to parent him differently, I learned he is very bright, and has a ton of potential. I also learned that there is such a wide variety of traits and severity with ASD.

I also spend a lot of time in the parenting section, I get support there and ideas about different approaches to everyday challenges.

I like having NTs around here, and wish there were more. I feel like most of the NTs around here are also around 40+, and mostly just parents of children on the spectrum, which I don't like, because I wish I could interact with more NTs my age who understand what it is and all that, and talk about autism related topics with them.

I also wish I could just tell everyone I have autism without having to worry about their reaction or having to explain it to them.

I come here to speak to, and listen to, people who are like me and have gone through what I have gone through. I always hope that I will read a complaint and know the answer that may help the complainant.
It also is a place where I can be entirely myself.

Because I love my husband madly and am extremely lost. I want to understand as much as I can so that we can save our marriage and learn how to communicate better.

Me too. With hubby and my sons.

<--- Would rather not have it shoved in his face how NT's are happily married with wonderful spouses, wonderful children, wonderful friends and wonderful jobs.

<--- Didn't sign up to be reminded what a loser he is.

<--- Signed up to meet like minds, that is, people with such special interests that they neglect "normal" things, people who are social misfits, people who could only go to a parade or an airplane show or a family reunion kicking and screaming, people who are sensitive to light or sound, people with marked impairments in social interactions, people who are prone to saying the wrong things at the wrong time. Isn't that why this is called Wrong Planet?

<--- Can't understand why WP has such an infestation.

I came here originally because I wanted to learn more about Aspergers, and this website was mentioned in a Wiki article. The more I read, the more I recognized myself in these posts. I have gone to professionals and asked about this, and they look at me like I am crazy and say "You can make eye contact," or "you can hold down a job," or "you aren't like Dustin Hoffman in 'Rainman.'"

I feel for those who can't get an official diagnosis. Maybe they can't afford it, or maybe the doctor or psychologist that they go to is totally ignorant on Aspergers and Autism and will not even bother with testing them. Or they might have lived their entire lives in an NT world and have had a lot of their interesting Aspie edges ground down by years of brutal trial and error. I've been diagnosed with Dyslexia, ADD and Social Anxiety Disorder. It seems to me you put those three things together and that sounds like Autism. I don't score like an Aspie on the on-line tests though, so I doubt that I would meet the diagnostic criteria.