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18 Sep 2012, 6:46 pm

Prof_Pretorius wrote:
(Does the Jedi hand wave again.)

There is no charisma in this thread ...
You see no mention of, oh bloody hell, forget the whole thing ...


Wow, you are really arrogant.

A lot of threads evolve this way, why do you care so much?


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18 Sep 2012, 6:47 pm

BanjoGirl wrote:
Prof_Pretorius wrote:
(Does the Jedi hand wave again.)

There is no charisma in this thread ...
You see no mention of, oh bloody hell, forget the whole thing ...


Wow, you are really arrogant.

A lot of threads evolve this way, why do you care so much?


My thoughts exactly!



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18 Sep 2012, 6:49 pm

nessa238 wrote:
BanjoGirl wrote:
Prof_Pretorius wrote:
(Does the Jedi hand wave again.)

There is no charisma in this thread ...
You see no mention of, oh bloody hell, forget the whole thing ...


Wow, you are really arrogant.

A lot of threads evolve this way, why do you care so much?


My thoughts exactly!


Sorry to come off that way. As I said, apparently my sense of humor doesn't match up with many people's idea of "funny."


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18 Sep 2012, 6:50 pm

Prof_Pretorius wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
BanjoGirl wrote:
Prof_Pretorius wrote:
(Does the Jedi hand wave again.)

There is no charisma in this thread ...
You see no mention of, oh bloody hell, forget the whole thing ...


Wow, you are really arrogant.

A lot of threads evolve this way, why do you care so much?


My thoughts exactly!


Sorry to come off that way. As I said, apparently my sense of humor doesn't match up with many people's idea of "funny."


Keep back-pedalling - I'm enjoying this :D



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18 Sep 2012, 6:52 pm

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You cannot learn charisma. And learning social skills is useless for an Asperger. People turn away from me no matter what I do. Yo can only hope to be close to intelligent people because the worst for an Asperger is to be obliged to be together with NT apes.

For me I never understand why I always have more problems to pass time with "low level people". They refuse me immediately. With smart people it takes longer.


Aspies can learn charisma and social skills, it is just really hard and might never become natural.



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18 Sep 2012, 6:52 pm

Be nice now, or it's the Jedi wave again for you.


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18 Sep 2012, 6:53 pm

ShamelessGit wrote:
Multiplex wrote:
You cannot learn charisma. And learning social skills is useless for an Asperger. People turn away from me no matter what I do. Yo can only hope to be close to intelligent people because the worst for an Asperger is to be obliged to be together with NT apes.

For me I never understand why I always have more problems to pass time with "low level people". They refuse me immediately. With smart people it takes longer.


Aspies can learn charisma and social skills, it is just really hard and might never become natural.


In my opinion charisma can't be learnt



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18 Sep 2012, 6:53 pm

Prof_Pretorius wrote:
Be nice now, or it's the Jedi wave again for you.


This thread will be discussing charisma FOREVER now!



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18 Sep 2012, 6:55 pm

nessa238 wrote:
Prof_Pretorius wrote:
Be nice now, or it's the Jedi wave again for you.


This thread will be discussing charisma FOREVER now!


Yes, I'm afraid so. ~sighs loudly~


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18 Sep 2012, 6:58 pm

Prof_Pretorius wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Prof_Pretorius wrote:
Be nice now, or it's the Jedi wave again for you.


This thread will be discussing charisma FOREVER now!


Yes, I'm afraid so. ~sighs loudly~


Lack of charisma is an interesting aspect of Aspergers imo

It makes a change from topics like 'I've got this loud cough - is this an Asperger thing?'



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18 Sep 2012, 7:01 pm

nessa238 wrote:
Prof_Pretorius wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Prof_Pretorius wrote:
Be nice now, or it's the Jedi wave again for you.


This thread will be discussing charisma FOREVER now!


Yes, I'm afraid so. ~sighs loudly~


Lack of charisma is an interesting aspect of Aspergers imo

It makes a change from topics like 'I've got this loud cough - is this an Asperger thing?'


Obviously, we've been at this for awhile now.
And just for the record, I believe in brain plasticity, and that "qualities" such as charisma can be learned and become part of our selves. I don't believe that "being true to your ASpie self" as far as sitting around alone and miserable and thus being your "true" self.


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18 Sep 2012, 7:02 pm

Prof_Pretorius wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Prof_Pretorius wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Prof_Pretorius wrote:
Be nice now, or it's the Jedi wave again for you.


This thread will be discussing charisma FOREVER now!


Yes, I'm afraid so. ~sighs loudly~


Lack of charisma is an interesting aspect of Aspergers imo

It makes a change from topics like 'I've got this loud cough - is this an Asperger thing?'


Obviously, we've been at this for awhile now.
And just for the record, I believe in brain plasticity, and that "qualities" such as charisma can be learned and become part of our selves. I don't believe that "being true to your ASpie self" as far as sitting around alone and miserable and thus being your "true" self.


I disagree - unsurprisingly enough lol

I see it as selling out to NT culture to become like them



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18 Sep 2012, 7:04 pm

To be "charismatic" doesn't equal being an NT. To my way of thinking (there's a loaded gun of a phrase) it means being pleasant enough that people enjoy chatting with you, being with you.


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18 Sep 2012, 7:12 pm

Prof_Pretorius wrote:
To be "charismatic" doesn't equal being an NT. To my way of thinking (there's a loaded gun of a phrase) it means being pleasant enough that people enjoy chatting with you, being with you.


I'm not so sure

I see charisma as a bit more impressive than that

Charisma means you can hold an audience of people spellbound not just be good at pleasant chats

For example Clint Eastwood oozes charisma without even having to speak



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18 Sep 2012, 7:15 pm

nessa238 wrote:
Prof_Pretorius wrote:
To be "charismatic" doesn't equal being an NT. To my way of thinking (there's a loaded gun of a phrase) it means being pleasant enough that people enjoy chatting with you, being with you.


I'm not so sure

I see charisma as a bit more impressive than that

Charisma means you can hold an audience of people spellbound not just be good at pleasant chats

For example Clint Eastwood oozes charisma without even having to speak


I can't think of the word right now, but that ability to hold a crowd's attention goes far beyond charisma. it's more along the lines of people wanting to chat with you when you walk into a room.


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18 Sep 2012, 7:15 pm

Prof_Pretorius wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Prof_Pretorius wrote:
To be "charismatic" doesn't equal being an NT. To my way of thinking (there's a loaded gun of a phrase) it means being pleasant enough that people enjoy chatting with you, being with you.


I'm not so sure

I see charisma as a bit more impressive than that

Charisma means you can hold an audience of people spellbound not just be good at pleasant chats

For example Clint Eastwood oozes charisma without even having to speak


I can't think of the word right now, but that ability to hold a crowd's attention goes far beyond charisma. it's more along the lines of people wanting to chat with you when you walk into a room.


Magnetism?