Is there a way of living happily alone?

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Speaking as someone who has lived in a flagship 'egalitarian' commune for over 5 years, let me assure anyone thinking otherwise, skirt-wearing men are no more inclined to accept asperger behavior than any Fred Flintstone. Community is conformity on the cellular level. Eternal high school, only the language is repressively opaque. Living nocturnally is the only way I have maintained my sanity here.

I never liked having roommates, and I liked living alone, so, my response was colored accordingly.

But there were girls living in one dorm I was in, who joined sororities and would say things like "I would always have to at least have a roommate" or "I could never live alone." So, everyone is different, I guess.

I don't want an egalitarian commune where I have no privacy. I just want to have friends I can eat dinner with every night without having to take the bus somewhere or drive somewhere in the car. I really really hate cooking and eating by myself. Are you telling me it's hopeless? Then it appears suicide is the only option left. I've completely had it with living with my parents.

The problem is I need a roommate I can relate to. A friend. Not a noisy slob who does his own thing, ignores me, and doesn't respect my privacy. Living with the wrong people is worse than living alone. I've been there. A couple months and I was finished.

That's true. I agree. If it helps - all people have trouble finding a good roommate. But, they are out there. Some cities even have roommate matching services. Worst case scenario, if you got someone you didn't get on with, you 'break up' as roomies and, find a new roommate. Best case scenario, you find a great roommate who is either friendly or becomes a friend. Sounds like it is worth trying.

Someone to chat with or watch Tv with or just do stuff with now and again, sounds nice in a way. (Especially for someone who likes to live with or around others.) A housemate situation (living with a handful of people in a house, vs. two people sharing a flat) might amp up the odds of (at least) one of them being someone you liked and vice versa.

Not sure how to find housemates but in this economy a lot of people might be renting out a room in their house. Newspaper ads maybe? Maybe someone here knows.

Definitely not worth giving up on and definitely not worth suicide on. It's completely possible for this to work out for you.

Please don't give-up marshall,you are a very nice person.It's hard to find a good room mate,my daughter has been thru several,and she's the most NT person I know and still her roomies bothered her.She has got a cat now and is living alone,she loves it.
I can't speak for all people who have tried communal living,but I do know the folks that stayed at Eastwind have no problem with me and my differences.The person that told me about Eastwind was a psychologist who lived there off and on.He loved it.I was at the state hospital when I heard about the place and I was invited there,it made no difference to them that I was a "loony" in the bin.My neighbors still go up and stay for awhile,they did say they get some slackers who think that living that way is a drug fest party,but the folks there grow a garden and they did have livestock so some work is envolved.And the nut butters are awesome and sold in Health food stores nation wide.

Those so and so's have done enough damage to not bother with them, I think it's safe to say their in large part to blame for my severe anxiety disorder, head injuries don't help

So are you meant to tell me their are decent people in this world ? Why haven't I met these folks? and if I have how are we really supposed to know their decent

Is there a way of living happily together?

BRILLIANT ! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!

there IS a way of living happily together, it is to 1] give space when needed, and 2]close the space gap when needed.

And you need to be a rocket scientist to have that control of space.

maybe.