How old are you mentally?

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Chronologically: almost 30
Developementally/socially: about late teens or early 20s. Emotionally many times like a kid.

Oh I don't know... if I am in my right state I can look and act as the 32 year old I am - excibit fair social skills, have intelligent conversations, even speak in front of a crowd. But my mood swings are of an 8 year old. I use a lot of profanity, I chuckle when I play with my little pets, I space out, mumble with myself, draw doodles and toy around with everything to keep my hands busy. In average I'm probably 22 mentally.

Actual biological age: 19

Mental age: According to IQ conversion from Weschler tests to Stanford-Binet and so forth.... 1.27 * 19 = 24 (IQ/10 * chronological age = mental age). Personally, I relate more towards 30 or 40 year olds than I do teens and 20s. It gives me the illusion of being smart for some reason, other than being introverted for the most part, I'm pretty normal mentally at least. I guess I can probably claim 45 for this, even 40+ year olds find a hard time relating to me intellectually.

Physical age: I'm a complicated mix. I'm growing facial hair (usually happens around 16 - 18 and I look around the age. Then again, I'm still growing (over 2 inches this year alone despite less than a half inch every year since freshman year of high school). Probably around 16 then, I always got mistaken for a freshman in high school.

Developmental age: All depends on the task at hand. I'm pretty good with fine and motor skills (as a whole) and I can draw pretty well (apparently) but tell me to do a specific task (like draw a straight line) and I'll get anxious since it's a test. If it's not a test, I won't. So I think that by all means, I'm advanced developmentally, but my fear of anxiety and social pressure is the reason why I'd say 15, not too immature but definitely not the best I can be since yeah, my talents lie in fine/motor skills, yet, I can't aim!

Emotional age: My EQ is always tested as average to above-average while I'm an emotional baby, always been one and always will be. I guess I can still claim 20 for that one.

I'm 36 but my interests peg me squarely in the 50 - 70 range. I recently planned out a container garden for my deck, figured out where I could keep composting worms inside my house where it wouldn't be totally gross (shut up!) and started saying nasty things under my breath about my neighbors who don't pick up their dog crap. (seriously! You wanted a dog, you have to pick up the crap! Oh whatever!!) Yeah, I'm totally a youngish old fart.

Outside, 44.
Inside 7.

Always been this way and after
the heat stroke that did not help
any.

Thisngs alot of things are too hard
for me, except electronics.

I can't do much else.

This is an interesting question for me. In most aspects I don't think I'm too far behind people of my own age. I can be quite emotionally immature when it comes to relationships though - this is something I've worked on in recent years and particularly since I figured out I had AS and even more so since that was confirmed. If I had to put a figure on it I'd say I'm comparable to a "fully" mature person in their mid 20s whereas I am actually 30 next month (oh god I'm 30 next month :/). The problem I used to have (I've progressed enough that I feel comfortable saying "used to" now) would be that I would get into a relationship with somebody and then idealise them and allow the relationship to turn lots more serious than I should have in retrospect. This happened on a number of occasions with disastrous results each time but since the last couples of times it happened I have recognised that tendency and done a lot of mental work to make sure I don't do it anymore. I think it is working because I'm actually able to speak like a normal person with my ex-gf (the immediately previous one) whereas I have never managed to do that before - in the past pretty much all my exes have been "deleted" from my life because I just could not cope with speaking to them.