Mountains out of ONE misphrazed/misunderstood sentence!! !

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I know it can be hard to do, but if a conversation falters and is not doing well to the point where someone is telling you to go away, use whatever happened as a learning experience and try again with someone else (hopefully after you've talked to people like us and got some pointers on what to do differently.) Above all to respect others, you need to respect them when they tell you to go away. People don't like to be friends with someone without boundaries. Hard as it is, don't try so hard, try to be more casual. I have been where you are, and still am sometimes, but the more you push, the more they run away. That applies to just about anyone. Good luck.

Hi Roman

I have no comment and no advice on this situation.

But I just wanted to say I also have this problem with over-explaining myself when a misunderstanding/miscommunication occurs - and the over-explanation always just makes things worse but for some reason I cannot stop it because I *have* to make sure the other person properly understands me.

The thing is though that the over-explanation almost always ensures that there is no way they can understand me because after a certain point their ability to listen and understand shuts down. Just as I my ability to listen and understand shuts down quickly when people talk about things I am not personally interested in.

I am learning slowly to just leave these situations now but still fall back into over-explaining myself regularly. It frustrates me that I keep ending up doing it.

I really liked this advice: