Are you lonely?

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One of my flatmates said "because we are not each living alone in a bedsit, because there are always people around here it's not possible to get lonely."

But he's wrong because I do get lonely. He assumes because he is OK that everyone else is too.

I like to spend time alone. But when I try to interact with those about me I feel like they don't want to take the time to listen to me. They just want me to affirm that they are OK.

he is a living demonstration of a TOM deficit.

Actually not.

I have plenty of friends, and good friends at that. I have several times wondered why that is so. I reckon that I have been lucky, and I've gotten lots of support from my mother and teachers and other people, and I have encountered people that resonate with me, but I've also never given up in establishing relationships and making friends, and I've learned a lot from it, especially because my friends have been very understanding.

So, I guess I've been more fortunate than most, but if I can give a tip, then that is "never give up". Eventually you will find people who will like you for who you are, it's just a question of time, so be yourself (if you are a decent person, that is ), keep searching for friends, and try to learn from your (mis)adventures. =)

Though I've still had no success in finding a girlfriend, so don't ask me about tips for that. =P

I am lonely...and i hate it!
the problem is i can't interact well with groups of people..so kind of caught up in a trap of wanting to be around people but hating being around people at the same time It goes back a very long way with me being bullied at school so shying away from people ..as i got older it became difficult to be around more than one person at a time....a lot of my problems are caused by being isolated from the rest of the world so feeling very lonely..i don't want to have loads of friends..just someone that i can connect with...but as an adult with AS i find it almost impossible to meet people.....so ''yes'' very lonely ...and hate it!

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learn to love the reflection in the mirror, before anything else.

Yeah, but i've learned to appreciate a nice calm life without people around me 24/7. I see my friends like once a year (very rarely at least).

I prefer my own company. Sometimes I miss the friends I grew up with, but they are married w/kids and happy. Win, win.

Most of the time, I don't feel lonely. I'm usually very content being alone, probably happiest. But loneliness rears its ugly head every once in a while.

Nope, I love being by myself.

I only miss someone like me to spend time with. I spend lot of time working with people with similar interests, but I don't really feel similar to them.

But yeah, all in all I consider myself lonely most of the time.

I'm happy with my own company, but I don't think it's good for me to be alone all the time. Every day I go out to a café and read on my iPad, just so I'm at least near people some of the time.

There are a couple of girls who like me and keep coming up and talking with me, but they say I'm mysterious and they can't connect with me.

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This is true for me as well.

I prefer being in my room by myself. That's how I spend and want to spend most of my time. However, sometimes (like today) I feel lonely. It's not like I really crave company but I'd like to feel understood. I'd like to feel like I'm not completely alone in functioning and thinking the way I do. Does that make sense?

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it makes sense perfectly

Yes, it makes perfect sense. It's fine to being an introvert; in fact it even has its benefits however it is still important to journey outside your room and communicate with others. Find the place that you are most of comfortable and spend time there. I think its good being able to be alright with being alone but its not ok to want to completely shut yourself off from the entire world.

I usually feel lonely, even surrounded by friends. Most of them don't know about how I'm different than them and I feel isolated. Even those who know can't get close because of the abuse I went through in elementary though high-school.

Even one of my closest friends won't believe how I am this way because I am undiagnosed. After that, I have only told one person and it's only because I *REALLY* trust him.