28 Mar 2013, 9:04 am
[quote="whirlingmind"][quote="glow"]8O I aint so sure any of these were compliments proposed to league girl, i think she is trying to spell out how her life has come to nothing besides unregistered failure given alot of things. i think she's done well in writing something to express her real feelings instead of trying to cover them up too much. 
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(quote Whirlingmind)That's a bit mean. You can't put words into someone's mouth like that. I took it that she meant that her achievements were achievements, but not as seemingly large achievements as some others. By saying what you've just said you are condemning her to actually feel they might be "unregistered failures". I agree with what goldfish said. Some Aspies have such poor social skills they would find it a miracle to get married for instance - leaguegirl accomplished that. You are the one minimising her achievements by what you have said.[/unquote]
This is clearly the wrong thread in hindsight in which to express some of my views, no? and i think what she meant was that some of her 'accomplishments' weren't necessarily good ones,. to prove a point she mentioned having disastrous dates online in the year 2007. well she was hardly saying they were good, only that they made her feel worse. im sure however, she would be happy to confirm this, if it was in her best interests. i was also inclining to agree with her and i dont think she was expecting a sympathy march either.
28 Mar 2013, 9:56 am
Got into university.
Have made quite a few close friends and can get on with the vast majority of people.
Can live independently.
Have a driving license.
Have travelled by myself and am able to find my way around new places.
Have some working experience and have passed interviews despite them being one of my weaknesses.
I suffered from some anxiety several months ago but have mostly recovered - one of the key ingredients being that I developed a more positive attitude and have become less fearful of the future, ready to take whatever life throws at me.
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28 Mar 2013, 12:14 pm
(quote Whirlingmind)That's a bit mean. You can't put words into someone's mouth like that. I took it that she meant that her achievements were achievements, but not as seemingly large achievements as some others. By saying what you've just said you are condemning her to actually feel they might be "unregistered failures". I agree with what goldfish said. Some Aspies have such poor social skills they would find it a miracle to get married for instance - leaguegirl accomplished that. You are the one minimising her achievements by what you have said.[/unquote]
This is clearly the wrong thread in hindsight in which to express some of my views, no? and i think what she meant was that some of her 'accomplishments' weren't necessarily good ones,. to prove a point she mentioned having disastrous dates online in the year 2007. well she was hardly saying they were good, only that they made her feel worse. im sure however, she would be happy to confirm this, if it was in her best interests. i was also inclining to agree with her and i dont think she was expecting a sympathy march either.
I must have started something. Looks like a little drama here.
I don't know if your first post was directed at me as being mean or goldfish.
28 Mar 2013, 12:31 pm
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28 Mar 2013, 6:01 pm
^^^
you are VERY high-functioning. you are one of my aspie heroes
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28 Mar 2013, 6:18 pm
I excel at that one.
Seriously though, it feels like all I can handle is day to day. I try to make sure that my kids are happy, and know that their loved. I feel I'm just treading water most days, but I'm always grateful to have a roof overhead, and food in our bellies.hey, you're a responsible and caring parent, that makes you an AS hero in my eyes
I strongly agree.
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28 Mar 2013, 7:06 pm
I must have started something. Looks like a little drama here.
I don't know if your first post was directed at me as being mean or goldfish.
It was at glow. Look higher up the thread for the original posts and it will make sense. I was defending you and agreeing with goldfish. Glow has messed up the quotes formatting and confused things. I have corrected them in this post!
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28 Mar 2013, 7:32 pm
B.S. in Psychobiology
M.S. in Applied Criminology
Currently teaching online courses in the above at my university and working part-time as a cashier at Walmart.
Pay my rent and bills on time and have enough money so I'm not wondering where my next meal is coming from.
Have a few people I consider close friends (IRL and online).
Promised myself that I am going to learn to drive this year.
So--learned some social/life skills and how to "pass" for the most part. Have come to realize that, even if I appear *eccentric*, most people I encounter day-to-day just don't care, or notice all that much.
The most important thing, at least for me, is to be comfortable with who I am now.
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28 Mar 2013, 8:19 pm
M.S. in Applied Criminology
Currently teaching online courses in the above at my university and working part-time as a cashier at Walmart.
Pay my rent and bills on time and have enough money so I'm not wondering where my next meal is coming from.
Have a few people I consider close friends (IRL and online).
Promised myself that I am going to learn to drive this year.
So--learned some social/life skills and how to "pass" for the most part. Have come to realize that, even if I appear *eccentric*, most people I encounter day-to-day just don't care, or notice all that much. The most important thing, at least for me, is to be comfortable with who I am now.
i don't mean to be dismissive of your concerns, but i wonder how somebody could do what seems to me the toughest most arduous things but find driving to be a great challenge. i could barely learn to drive but i never could be successful in college.
28 Mar 2013, 8:39 pm
M.S. in Applied Criminology
Currently teaching online courses in the above at my university and working part-time as a cashier at Walmart.
Pay my rent and bills on time and have enough money so I'm not wondering where my next meal is coming from.
Have a few people I consider close friends (IRL and online).
Promised myself that I am going to learn to drive this year.
So--learned some social/life skills and how to "pass" for the most part. Have come to realize that, even if I appear *eccentric*, most people I encounter day-to-day just don't care, or notice all that much. The most important thing, at least for me, is to be comfortable with who I am now.
i don't mean to be dismissive of your concerns, but i wonder how somebody could do what seems to me the toughest most arduous things but find driving to be a great challenge. i could barely learn to drive but i never could be successful in college.
Driving requires different skills from other activities, being good at other things doesn't mean you'll be good at driving. Anyway it seems conundrum hasn't started learning yet so we don't know whether she'll find it a challenge yet.
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28 Mar 2013, 8:49 pm
the stated fact that she has not yet learned how to drive past the age of achieving high college honors, tells me that, to that poster, driving would seem tougher than some other things. just a jejune thought from a clueless aspie.
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28 Mar 2013, 9:17 pm
28 Mar 2013, 9:28 pm
the stated fact that she has not yet learned how to drive past the age of achieving high college honors, tells me that, to that poster, driving would seem tougher than some other things. just a jejune thought from a clueless aspie.
It's possible that driving may be tougher. I know that that is certainly the case for me. I only drive very rarely because I have vision problems that make gauging depth fairly difficult... combined with dyspraxia and poor visual-spatial awareness it is just asking for trouble.
