Annoying things people do to you because you have aspergers.

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In my experience, qawer's quote holds true, regardless of the difference between being needy and friendly. People seem to only respond with any real attention when we show them that we won't take their sh*t. Any other instance and they dismiss us out of hand as being "smaller" somehow. My brother's the same exact way, he puts himself on such a high pedestal because he thinks he's better than everyone else, the only way to get anything through to his nonexistent brain is to stand up to him and give him a reality check. People like him p**s me off, you can't tell them anything, they don't listen to anyone, they don't respect anyone, they have issues with authority, and they think they're the biggest thing around and can take anyone down.

It annoys me when people generalize the condition. Particularly when it's assumed all cases of Autism are severe and nonverbal, or when it's assumed we're comic-book geniuses. I also greatly dislike misconceptions about the causes and prognosis of Autism Spectrum Disorders. This includes the belief that vaccines cause Autism, that Autism is a condition that only effects children, and that any of those scam therapies will cure or alleviate us of the symptoms of Autism. I believe that not only do these mistruths affect us as Autistics, but the health and education of society as a whole.

On a personal level: I hate it when people are less willing to trust me, take what I say into account or give me a fair opportunity at something because of AS. I also loathe my syndrome being call ASSpergers syndrome or being called an ASSpie. The name is already bad enough for those that are afflicted with a condition which can make communication difficult.

My dad always stated the obvious to me presuming that I was the family Re Re before I started living on my own. My mum would always shut me up whenever I'd mention a special interest when my dad was in the other room before I started living on my own. I was sick and tired of being treated as the weakest link in my family, so I finally stopped worrying and obsessing about money and I moved into my apartment 7 years ago this month. I never knew that my father cared for me because he always treated me like an idiot. If only I didn't soil myself that one time at the age of four when my dad got furious with me afterwards. He would have seen me as an intelligent and capable person with a brain, instead of the weakest link of the family.

Oh yes , I can relate to this , in School when people ask me a question , I tell them the answer which I know is correct , yet they ask someone else aswell because they think I'm wrong , I don't like it.

What's the point of asking someone a question when you're just going to presume there wrong anyway.

Exactly. In my case, people assume I don't know anything, so I'm often ridiculed, and when I state things I know to be fact, people don't believe me. In fact, people generally ignore what I say. My family has always been bad about this, they always assume that i'm lying about stuff and because of that, my siblings have always gotten away with stuff while I have to deal with the consequences of their actions, between how people perceive me, not having transportation (I can't drive), and me being threatened and pushed around, especially after defending myself, I don't know what's worse. And then they wonder why I seclude myself *shakes head*.

She's not your friend. Anyone who humiliates you, drunk or not, is an abuser. End the relationship and as a parting gift, urge her to get help with the drinking and the abusing of people who care(d) about her.



You're not ret*d unless besides autism you also have a low IQ. No low IQ, no retardation.

If they view you as "ret*d" only because of autism, they're ignorant and need to be brought up to speed.

My mother would come to my house and instruct me to to things. Like if I haven't cleaned up or taken the trash out she would give me step by step instructions on how to do it. Even though I am 27 years old and have managed to buy a house by myself. It is embarrassing though because I do forget to do things and the steps in which I am supposed to do them. It feels like she doesn't have any faith in any of my abilities.

People have a tendency to tell me what things look like. "Please sit down on that red, small chair next to that large window."

People raise their voice when speaking to me. "HI, MY NAME IS *name*." And when they speak to a different person beside me, they speak in a normal volume.

People explain irony to me. I really need help with this issue. Not.

I'm sorry I understand that it seems to be a nice thing that I get invites to things, but it's really not. I have 4 friends and they are friends that I knew before my diagnosis. When I use to get together with them I was being really fake because I was trying way too hard to make them like me. Now I just want to be me, but because they knew me as the fake person, they still expect me to be that fake person. So, don't be as jealous as you are! Seriously!

Ignore me, or treat me as inconsequential

Ignore me, or treat me as inconsequential

I didn't say I was jealous. I said it is preferable to some of the situations other members face regarding friendships. As for your problem, if you be yourself (a friendly but not fake version) around them then the problem you are complaining about, in your response, will go one way or another.

Sometimes you are right but that is not always true. I have had people tell me to my face that I am a wonderful. nice, thoughtful, considerate and loving person but they could not tolerate being my friend specifically because of my Aspergian traits. And lots of people don't see past my flaws even though I am very nice to them. Sometimes my Aspie traits make others very uncomfortable and I can be as nice to them as I can possibly be and it won't make a bit of difference.

In my first year of high school, we had to get into full uniform on photo day. Since it was cold, I had a long-sleeved shirt under my short-sleeved school shirt, with my sweater on top. I remember a teacher coming into the bathroom with me, asking if I needed help with it. That only served to upset me, since I've been able to dress myself since the age most "normal" kids are. Difficulty socialising, and sometimes learning, =/= problems with simple everyday tasks.

I've also gotten upset in class before, and substitute teachers have occasionally talked in a really patronising tone to me. I hate it, especially when teachers use pet-names like "sweetie" and "darling".

Most people don't know I have Asperger's...they just think I'm eccentric, which means I can get away with a lot. For some reason, eccentricity is more acceptable than autism. However, my husband (who, I think, doesn't really believe that I have Asperger's, despite the diagnosis...my psychiatrist keeps offering to have him join us so she can explain it to him) does tend to get annoyed with me when I answer more slowly than he'd like. He also criticizes me about my tone of voice, saying that I'm very rude (which, of course, I don't mean to be). It's funny, because when I am reading out loud (which I do a lot, considering I'm a teacher and I have a 5-year-old), I am perfectly able to use intonation appropriately. However when I'm just speaking, I don't even really hear tone...so I guess I'm not using it correctly. I need to see the words to say them right!

Also, I had an appointment with a neurologist that I had never seen before, and he was fine for the first few minutes, but when he asked me for my medical history and I told him about the Asperger's, he started talking to me like I was 12...it was so annoying.

Oh, and my eyes are super sensitive to light, so I wear sunglasses a lot. When I wear them on cloudy days or indoors, people tease me about it...just light teasing, though, because I am, after all, "eccentric." Same thing with wearing my musician's earplugs everywhere because of my sensitive hearing...

Well in my case,I NEVER tell anyone I have Aspergers or any other mental disorder. I actually don't understand why any of you would. Regardless of this,people tend to see something wrong with me.Mostly it seems they think I'm "slow". Its really gotten to me.Some will have thw guts to flat out say it,and I'll be honest that its gotten so tiresome that I might just beat the living s$@t out of the next person that suggests that. Ofcourse I couldn't do that if it was a women and women seem to be more likely to let their chops fly than men,so in that case I will just have to find something insulting to say back to her.
But most people won't actually say that,but they will do stuff like finish my sentences for me.I REALLY hate this. I also hate this look of pity people give me when they think I'm taking too long to say something.These instances make me not want to talk to anyone and has led to people thinking I'm rude. But what else am I supposed to do?