having babies: what is your decision?

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I don't want them but I like them, and the person I'm dating doesn't want them and doesn't like them. I can see it being taxing to manage a child's needs and noisiness, but I think one unplanned baby with a second parent in the picture would be survivable. At least ours would probably be cute.

My baby is now sixteen and a head taller than I am.
Being a mother is one of the few things that I am better at than many others.

funny .... wozeree... all I look at in yr pic is trying to make out the books on the shelves.

at 56 now maybe i have enough to be a father (goodness knows i make a fab uncle, but its 14 yrs since i occupied that role in any form whatsoever) ..... but of course its too late .. verdict .. I'm okay, making babies is no big thing.

Not currently planning on it, no. I like the idea of some day fathering a child of my own with somebody that I love. But it'll be a long time before I'm prepared for that. I'm 19 years old, yet I'm current dependent on my parents without work. I'm mostly a lodger these days and I pay for most of my needs myself, but I can't deny that I need her help, and I'm not sure I could thoroughly live alone yet. Plus I'm really not certain that I would make a satisfactory farther. And there's also concerns with environmentalism and overpopulation that I have.

I'm really not sure if this is some I could handle or even want yet. Maybe I'll feel more enthusiastic when I'm living independently, with work and if things really take off with my girlfriend; only then can I be sure. Right now I'm simply not ready or entirely certain about it.

If they approved the size of house I have I would foster-to-adopt young people in the age 10 and up range, who are already inured to life around here. But since the foster care agency in this area is classist, this is not possible at the moment. I can transmit my culture, viewpoint and life way to someone without having to risk them getting what I have (which is not, simply autism) and initiating another innocent soul the utter failure of the special ed and school system in this region.

I never want kids. They are extremely expensive, time consuming, and they require a unique set of skills I don't want or have the time to develop. And there is always the chance that I will mess up as a father big time. Kids aren't as smart, you can't have good legit conversations with them, and they can't control their actions as well as adults. And with starving kids in the world, I would feel weird bringing in another child when i am choosing to let kids in Africa die of starvation that were here first. And my kids' actions aren't up to me, they could rob a bank and shoot up a school if someone successfully convinced them to, and I would be to blame. Some people think priest's children are more likely to be rotten apples than normal people's children. Having children has no benefit to me, especially with all of the negative stereotypes their are about white fathers. I have read on a religious website that often the reason why people don't want kids is they are selfish. Maybe I am, but I don't want to be the reason why someone's life is crap for a large portion of their time here. My parents raised me amazingly, and I can't imagine how hard it would be for someone to live with parents who don't want them or love them. I have been crazy awful to my parents before, and I know that if I had a child they might do to me the same thing I did to my parents, even if I raised them better than anyone else.

I logically don't want children or anything to do with them but hormones are an incredibly powerful force regardless of what people say. I'm going through my 20's and the biological/hormone message to want a child both from external forces (the media/family) and my own body (bio-chemicals in my brain) is very powerful. Sometimes my logic just flies out the window and I scream on top of the mountains that I want a child, then my brain starts up again and regrets everything I said. But I still don't want any kids, I'm just waiting for my ovaries to eventually calm the f**k down and let me think in peace. Might just get them removed at some point so I can function mentally instead of thinking of sex all the time.

The one bazillion starving kids in the world also make me really sad, I couldn't bring new life in knowing an already existing child is dying somewhere.

There wasn't a selection for what I would vote.

Look at the world.
It's bad now, but in 20 years time when the child is an adult it is probably going to be worse.

I would NOT want to bring a child into this world because it isn't a nice place.

Well I'm 14, and I have yet to find any kind of GF, but my plans to travel in my 20's or maybe join the Navy could open up many opportunities to meet some interesting people!

As for having kids, I'd just about be ok with one, not sure about 2.

I have 2 daughters. A 7 year old and a 4 year old. That is one of them in the picture with me. The older one didn't want her picture made so she hid behind me.

My partner wanted children so she had 3 was not much of a problem as I was the one earning the money and she stayed home - until she was severely injured, then disaster happened and the county got involved. I was unable really to take care of her the home and the children properly. Now she is dead and they don't speak to me.