"You have Aspergers? You must be very high-fuctioning."

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Careful there - if autism spectrum disorder is hereditary, granny might be an Aspie too and she doesn't know it.

When I was "speaking" about being cautious about contacting KOR, I was not addressing you specifically.

I was merely addressing the fact that you were able to obtain this information when I wasn't able to. What you did was very useful, in my opinion.

KOR is a special member of the Forum who was sad one September day. She didn't want to live any more. I think she was fed up with things.

Perhaps that's why she left the Forum: maybe she thought it was dominated by "high-functioning" people whom she felt disregarded the LFA viewpoint. Perhaps, this is the basis for her starting her LFA blog.

I happen to believe that there's at least a 99% chance that she is alive.

Obviously, I do not know KOR personally, so I can't make a definite positive statement.

If I were closer to KOR, I would try to contact her myself. We have communicated, within the Forum, about three times in the past 10 or so months. I've never PMed nor, nor her me.

I forgot to mention this--yet this is very important:

KOR's LFA blog has as one of its symbols a rooster. That's why I believe she started the blog.

KOR REALLY enjoys raising chickens.

Yeah, saw something about how she liked raising chickens.

In our old house, a nearby neighbour must have kept chickens, because a rooster could often be heard crowing at the crack of dawn. It drove my dad nuts <_<. It never bothered me: have always found the sounds of nature so much less irksome than the sounds of other people.

Also, freshly-laid eggs every day can never be a bad thing.

What bothers me about this type of ideology is that I, like probably a lot of autistic people (though I can only speak for myself for certain), have several distinct "modes" that come with varying functioning levels. There's my calm-and-collected mode, where I can almost pass for NT, just maybe a little quirky in terms of speech and mannerisms, but I am capable of doing just about anything anyone else can. There's my agitated mode - actually there are a few different levels of this - where I am upset or nervous and on edge but still holding things together, and here I might walk strangely or repeat phrases or perform various stims, from little things like rubbing my fingers together to bigger ones like rocking or even spinning, and if I am working when this comes on it's when I will get out my sensory kit and worry items to calm myself down. There's a slightly different mode that's an excited/overstimulated mode, where I am generally in a good mood but there is a lot going on and I will stim in a way that is similar but noticeably different to me, still flapping and rocking, occasionally even jumping, and my speech patterns will change and my already bad eye contact will become completely non-existent, but I'm happy and there is little risk of tipping into a meltdown. Then of course there is meltdown mode, in which I tell people who frequently don't believe me that I am really no different from a so-called "low-functioning" autistic person. I will lose language function almost entirely and only be able to scream, cry or repeat words or phrases. I will throw myself down without caring if I'm hurting myself, bang my hands or occasionally even my head, even hit or bite myself. A meltdown might only last a few minutes but I am incapable of doing anything else while it's happening. So if you happen to catch me in calm-and-collected mode, and marvel at how "high-functioning" I am, you are making a judgment based on only seeing part of the picture. Where that becomes a problem is when people think that because I have that mode, I can control the other ones if I want to badly enough or try hard enough, or I'm not really in need of help or consideration, I'm just milking my autism diagnosis for attention or to get a pass.

Whenever I go to Trinidad (my wife's place of birth--and where her heart still is), I am soothed by the sound of crowing roosters.

I remember when KOR left. It had to do with a very specific single incident. There are other LFA's here, quite a few actually. I know that KOR did not leave because of an LFA/HFA thing. It was one specific conversation that was too much for her. I do hope she is okay and that she will return. I really miss her.

I think she will, eventually, return.

I think it's something personal.

It wasn't a HFA/LFA kind of thing, apparently.

My feeling: she's all right, but maybe she just wants to take a rest from WrongPlanet.

Sometimes a break is a very healthy thing. I hope she has a nice holiday.